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srawf

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Hi everyone,

Ive decided to seek out help and prayer through an online forum because i want to keep myself anonymous.

I have a problem I want to solve:

I'm a straight female who's in a loving, Christ filled relationship with a man. We talk about marriage and love each other very much. However, we've talked about the fact that we both look at porn, and we decided to put it to an end together. he's stopped, but unfortunately, i'm the one who keeps looking at it. i realized it detracts from our sexual relationship, and i always feel a great sense of guilt and remorse after looking at porn. i don't know what to do, i know i need to pray and seek out prayer from fellow believers. i have a body of believers where i live, but i'm so embarassed to talk about this manner.

does anyone have any advice? and can someone please keep me in prayer? I'm in great need of it.
 

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Praying for you, sister.
It's a struggle I've faced, and I know how hard it is. But, wanting to stop is a big step... and asking for help is even bigger!
Two things.. other than prayer, helped me.
One was a filter on my computer.. I use K9, and it is very good. A friend has the password, which I scrambled, so I can't be tempted to over ride it.
The other thing is having an accountability partner who I can phone or im when I know that I need distracting. And knowing that I will have to tell her if I fall is one more reason to try to avoid doing so.
 
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I believe your guilt is healthy in that it is the conviction of the Holy Spirit bringing you to repentance. This guilt is the Holy Spirit driving you to repent of the sins that you are in, trying to bring your will back into alignment with God’s will, and back into fellowship with God so that he can bless you.

My suggestions are that you fallow the Spirit’s calling and get on your knees and repent of the sins that you are involved in and ask the Spirit to search your heart to find what is missing, what it is that you are trying to fill with your sin, and then purify your heart. God created sex and he wants you to enjoy sex, but he wants you to do it within the spiritual guild lines set in the Bible. Once you align your relationship with God’s will, he will bless your relationship and sexual life with your husband.

Dear Lord.

I pray the Spirit to convict srawf and bring her to repentance. I pray the Spirit to search her heart and guild her to purity. I pray that her heart be released from the bondage that is keeping her from receiving her blessings. Pour out the spirit of love on our sister Lord and bring her into the light.
[FONT=&quot]In the name of Christ Jesus I pray.[/FONT]
 
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Beth Moore's book get out of that pit. Life Recovery Bible. Come clean with the guy and pray with him. He needs to be able to trust you to come to him with problems, he won't judge you if you tell him you need his help. At least that would be my reaction to my wife doing this.
 
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