Pray for me please

[inchristalone221]

For any of you who remember my problem with "Jane", I need prayer right now, and so does she.

To make a long and emotional story short, they've broken up (unrelated situation). There is a good and a bad side to this. The good thing is that she doesn't have to deal with their problems anymore and that she and I have become even closer (something I hadn't thought was possible). The horrible thing is the distance in between us. Tonight I felt like I was being torn apart when she started crying and I couldn't help her because I'm over a hundred miles away. I just want to hold her in my arms and dry her tears, but I can't, and it's killing me. I've never been so worried and I've never felt so uselessJust...please pray for her. Pray that God will give her strength right now, and pray that I will be what she needs me to be, no matter what that means. Pray that we'll have a chance to see each other again soon, and above pray that we will both be constantly reminded to trust God and no one else in everything we do.

 

[melandshanetria]

Awww.....I understand the feeling. Distance between couples is a very hard to deal with. I will be praying for you both.

 

[ChildOfGod20]

praying

 

[inchristalone221]

Thanks to you both

I haven't heard from her yet today. Last night I wanted to stay up and talk to her, but I was dead from lack of sleep. She told me to go get some sleep and said she was feeling a bit better. I'm just so worried right now, and I'd really like to be closer so I could spend some time with her and be there when she needs a shoulder to cry on.

Distance between couples is a very hard to deal with. I will be praying for you both.

To be fair, we're not really a "couple" yet. We've talked a little about how important we are to each other, and it goes past friendship, but I really want her to have time to get over this thing and I don't want to put any more stress on her than I have to. So I'm just being her friend right now, and when she's over this I think I'll ask her permission to court her.

 

[Iceman_Aragorn]

I also understand the feeling of not being able to be there to dry the tears of someone you care about due to distance. However, you've gotta realize that although you feel like you arent being helpful, I guarantee that she appreciates your friendship and the fact that you lend a listening ear more than you know.
I read your last thread, so I understand the situation, and I think the way to deal with the situation now is to continue being as good a friend to her as you can, and try to give her a lot of time...if you try to initiate a relationship too soon after a breakup, you may just make her uncomfortable.....what she needs right now is someone 'safe' to rely on. It sounds like in the future, things may indeed develop further, but I'd be a little more subtle, not go straight to 'can i court you', and maybe test the waters a bit first (again, after some appropriate amount of time), by saying that she is worth someone great when she inevitably gets insecure about ever having a decent relationship with a decent guy, and that you'd totally be interested her yourself once she was ready. Give her time, thats the most important thing.

 

[inchristalone221]

maybe test the waters a bit first (again, after some appropriate amount of time), by saying that she is worth someone great when she inevitably gets insecure about ever having a decent relationship with a decent guy, and that you'd totally be interested her yourself once she was ready

Well I wanted to give her plenty of time first, but we already had that particular conversation. She was just low self-esteem right after they broke up, and she was convinced it was all her fault. Well, having been with her through the whole thing, I happen to know that it was his fault (I'm not gonna get into details, just suffice to say he and I are gonna be on odd terms for a while). So we talked for a while, and I told her that she deserves a great Christian guy. And she told me a funny story about how she had like the biggest crush on me when we first met (she says I was a blue-eyed, sarcastic, "sold-out" Christian). Anyway, that's when we talked a little about how much we mean to each other, but I made it very clear that I wanted to help her with this situation she's in most of all and that I'd be her friend as long as she needs me to be.

 

[trinitygrace]

I am praying for you, inchristalone for your situation. I pray that God will do His will in that area of your life. You area receiving great advice from others on this thread. May you find the courage to give your friend time and know that He is in control. God Bless you.

 

[inchristalone221]

OK, I heard from her, and she's feeling terrible. She's conflicted, confused, hurt, worried, and disappointed. Because it's the holidays, she's a litte busy and I haven't had a chance to talk to her more than a few minutes. Just pray for me to be strong. All this pain I'm feeling over the whole situation can't get in the way of helping her through the pain she's having. I want to put her first, please pray that I can just deal with my pain myself and help her with hers. Argh, this whole thing is just

 

[inchristalone221]

OK, she's feeling quite a bit better. And as a result I'm in a much better mood now. I'm really happy about how close our friendship is becoming, and I'm really excited about the way I see it developing into more than just a friendship, if you know what I mean

I can't thank you all enough for your prayers.

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[inchristalone221]

I hate to keep bothering and boring you all with my life, but I figure any advice or input I can get means I can only make that much better decisions.

I'm very, very happy right now, because we just had a conversation that needed to be had and it went very well and I can't even imagine how much God must love me to answer my prayers this way.

She told me she was starting to have feelings for me, the same kind that I have for her. But she said she didn't want to fall too much for anyone right now because she needs time to recover from her breakup (the maturity and wisdom in that just makes me so proud of her), and she was shocked to find out that I had already thought about it. She was even more suprised when I told her "I can wait, because you're a worth waiting for." So we've agreed that we'll just continue our friendship (she's my best friend in the world right now, I love her so much), and when she's over her breakup, if we still want to we'll try being more than friends.

The only thing that got me is that she was kind of ashamed. She said she wished she was stronger, and she wanted to just be over it and move on. She really has feelings for me, and that has me just excited beyond words. I keep telling her not to feel bad, because I want more than anything for her to feel better and for her to be happy. So, just pray for her if you will, pray that she has peace about this whole thing with me and strength to get over her emotional scars.

Thank you for listening, it helps sometimes to just get it out (and normally anything I have to talk about I talk about to her, but I don't want to burden her with this).

 

[Iceman_Aragorn]

Thats awesome, inchristalone221.. thanks for keeping the updates going. Good to hear things are turning out as you hoped. Definately don't rush things... you know you want a relationship with her, so just give her the time to get her emotions sorted out. It sounds like you already know and are doing this, so I'll just pray that once a relationship starts between you two, that you make it a very God-centered relationship. Have you talked about boundaries and such yet?

 

[inchristalone221]

Have you talked about boundaries and such yet?

No, but we definately will. I just think that that conversation might be kind of rushing it. She's having a hard time right now. She's having problems at home, she's missing her old boyfriend, she's been having nightmares, it's just terrible. Her best friend is away visiting family in Texas for an indefinite period of time, and I'm over an hour away, so she feels kind of alone. Right now I just feel so...ok, I've said it before, useless. The woman I love is waking up in the middle of the night frightened and crying, and all I can do is sit here, crying, and begging God to help her.

God willing we're going to spend New Year's Eve together. I can't even express how much I'd love to see her again, how much I just want to give her a hug and tell her how special she is.
OK, I need to stop now before I get all depressed and stuff thank you all for your prayers.