Pray for healing

[Pearl7]

I believe satan used almost all men in my life to break me (in forms of abuse and other things), disappoint me (weird relationships) and make me be afraid of most men. I am just learning everything about me now with the help of a christian counsellor. It's very difficult for me to be relaxed in the presence of a man. I am single for 8 years, I am 34. The last couple of christian men who showed me interest are for lust and money or just simply playing games, so I wasn't interested. Yet no matter how many times I got disappointed in life, I am still daydreaming of a wonderful husband, who would be different from what I've experienced. That God would show me that men are not dangerous and bad. Please pray for healing and for a godly husband and marriage.

 

[IceJad]

Sorry you have to go through what you did. My prayer for your healing.

Father in heaven, we pray for Your Healing Grace to be upon Pearl7 that her mind and body be rejuvenated. As she walks with You each and every day, may Your Everlasting Peace surrounds her. And by Your Will open doors for love to find her.

We ask in the Name of Jesus our Lord, Amen.

 

[KisKatte]

I will pary for you too. It might be good not to engage in sexual realtionships before marriage. This is a hard task nowdays but God sees what we do and sends us the right man if we behave accordingly. Sexual relationships with out marriage/before marriage can develop too superficial. It would be good to confess this in confession. To please God.

 

[Pearl7]

I will pary for you too. It might be good not to engage in sexual realtionships before marriage. This is a hard task nowdays but God sees what we do and sends us the right man if we behave accordingly. Sexual relationships with out marriage/before marriage can develop too superficial. It would be good to confess this in confession. To please God.

Thank you, I have not been in any kind of relationship in 8 years and not planning to enter in any sexual relationship, I would only with my husband. Christian values are important to me. When I wrote about lust, I meant that they are porn addicts or aren't really living by christian values, so I chose to remain single because they don't attract me because of those things.

 

[Pearl7]

Sorry you have to go through what you did. My prayer for your healing.

Father in heaven, we pray for Your Healing Grace to be upon Pearl7 that her mind and body be rejuvenated. As she walks with You each and every day, may Your Everlasting Peace surrounds her. And by Your Will open doors for love to find her.

We ask in the Name of Jesus our Lord, Amen.

Thank you so much!!

 

[LoricaLady]

My first prayer for you is for discernment.

The Bible says only a few people are going to go to heaven. Sad, but true. Therefore Christians should not be surprised if they find so many people in life to be remorselessly disappointing and even very hurtful sometimes.

In terms of discernment, I wonder if it would help you to watch some videos on YouTube about narcissistic personality disorder. It is a very common disorder. If you watch the videos you will surely see some people you have known, possibly including those you have mentioned.

Check out both overt narcissistic personality disorder and covert narcissistic personality disorder If you are interested in this topic. Dr. Les Carter seems a good source and he is a Christian psychologist. But many other channels are very helpful too.

you might want to research psychopaths and sociopaths too, since there is a big overlap with them and those who have narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they’re a lot of psychopaths and sociopaths out there to watch out for too.

The thing is that through the videos you may learn how to recognize such people and know how to avoid them. The comments under such videos can be wonderful because they show you that you’re not alone and that other people have escaped the abuse.

I guess I’m playing amateur psychologist with the fact that you have been consistently getting involved with hurtful people because it makes me wonder if there are some issues with self-esteem, possibly due to some kind of trauma in your life, as in childhood. Such is so common.

If that is the case I pray you will be led to healing..

 

[Pearl7]

My first prayer for you is for discernment.

The Bible says only a few people are going to go to heaven. Sad, but true. Therefore Christians should not be surprised if they find so many people in life to be remorselessly disappointing and even very hurtful sometimes.

In terms of discernment, I wonder if it would help you to watch some videos on YouTube about narcissistic personality disorder. It is a very common disorder. If you watch the videos you will surely see some people you have known, possibly including those you have mentioned.

Check out both overt narcissistic personality disorder and covert narcissistic personality disorder If you are interested in this topic. Dr. Les Carter seems a good source and he is a Christian psychologist. But many other channels are very helpful too.

you might want to research psychopaths and sociopaths too, since there is a big overlap with them and those who have narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they’re a lot of psychopaths and sociopaths out there to watch out for too.

The thing is that through the videos you may learn how to recognize such people and know how to avoid them. The comments under such videos can be wonderful because they show you that you’re not alone and that other people have escaped the abuse.

I guess I’m playing amateur psychologist with the fact that you have been consistently getting involved with hurtful people because it makes me wonder if there are some issues with self-esteem, possibly due to some kind of trauma in your life, as in childhood. Such is so common.

If that is the case I pray you will be led to healing..

Thank you for your wise words LoricaLady! It's funny that I had the same thoughts these days, about how it shouldn't be a surprise to struggle in this area. Because lot of people give in things that are not godly. I am not perfect either, I am trying to be better. I just don't want to compromise when it comes about marriage, because I've seen how destructive it can be.
I often had a gut feeling for a man when I just met them and later it turned out it was right, I believe God guides me and protects me.
Almost 2 years ago I recognised how unwillingly I get attracted to men that apparently are nice, but in fact are pretty narcissistic, abusive. I prayed for this attraction to stop and I believe it worked. But I met other kind of men who weren't narcissistic, but again, they were not for me. This year I felt drawn to these videos about "narcissistic behaviour""sociopaths"etc. I believe God wanted to show me the roots for my experiences. I now know that my sister and father are narcissistic, maybe sometimes behaving like sociopaths and I'm trying to keep a healthy distance and not be hurt. It's a process where I learn that only God knows me and wants the best for me.
I think it's good to know some psychology and I think you are right in many ways. Thank you!

 

[LoricaLady]

You’re welcome, and thanks back.

 

[Deade]

Praying for your situation Pearl7.

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[Jeffwhosoever]

Praying for you. My best friend remained single into the same age as you, but his patience paid off. He has now been married for 20+ years to a Godly woman. In all your ways, acknowledge HIM, and HE will direct your paths. And that includes the man HE intends your to one day marry.

 

[Pearl7]

Praying for you. My best friend remained single into the same age as you, but his patience paid off. He has now been married for 20+ years to a Godly woman. In all your ways, acknowledge HIM, and HE will direct your paths. And that includes the man HE intends your to one day marry.

Oh, that sounds lovely! Thank you for your encouragement!

 

[Jeffwhosoever]

Psalms 37:4 is verse similar to the one I quoted above from other Scripture.

 

[Pearl7]

Psalms 37:4 is verse similar to the one I quoted above from other Scripture.

Amen, thank you!