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Tangnefedd
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Oh you poor dear, have a stiff brandy first, you will need it, LOL!!!!
I always started mine when they were quite young, about six months old. Just holding them on the potty for no more than a minute, just to get them used to the idea. One could often save oneself a nappy/diaper that way. By the time they were 12 months old they used the potty for a bit longer and I usually got results. I was NEVER heavy about it though. I had all mine trained by about two during the day, and at night by three, even our lad who has Down's Syndrome.
My daughter is half heartedly trying to train her two year old who is not interested in the least. He doesn't seem to mind having a wet and dirty bottom, although he is very bright! i do feel she might be making some headway by now if she had started a bit earlier! Her next baby is duie in August so I hope he is near to being potty trained by then!
I always started mine when they were quite young, about six months old. Just holding them on the potty for no more than a minute, just to get them used to the idea. One could often save oneself a nappy/diaper that way. By the time they were 12 months old they used the potty for a bit longer and I usually got results. I was NEVER heavy about it though. I had all mine trained by about two during the day, and at night by three, even our lad who has Down's Syndrome.
My daughter is half heartedly trying to train her two year old who is not interested in the least. He doesn't seem to mind having a wet and dirty bottom, although he is very bright! i do feel she might be making some headway by now if she had started a bit earlier! Her next baby is duie in August so I hope he is near to being potty trained by then!
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THANKS SOO MUCH FOR THE ADVICE....I ALWAYS ENJIY READING THE THINGS YOU SAY...YOU ARE A BLESSING TO ME..I HAVE JUST BEEN LETTING HER GET USED TO THE IDEA OF THE POTTY..I AM NOT GOING TO RUSH IT. SHE IS PRETTY SMART AND I FEEL SHE WILL DO IT IN HER OWN TIME.(NOW TRUST ME...I DON'T MEAN SHE CAN WAIT TIL SHE IS 5)LOL!!!!! BUT I AM NOT GONNA PUSH HER EITHER..I HEAR THAT CANBE BAD...GOD BLESS TO YOU AND YOURS...THINK I CAN BORROW YOU FROM ENGLAND TIL I GET HER POTTY TRAIND...SEEMS LOKE YOU ARE A PRO..LOL
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Tangnefedd
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They say girls are much easier to train than boys, tonya, so good luck, but I think you will do just fine.
Thank you for those lovely things you said about me, they have massaged my ego nicely, not deserved, but nice all the same.
BTW I live in Wales not England, LOL!!!! England is only one part of the UK, the biggest part admittedly, but the UK is made up of England, Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales. I do hope you don't mind me pointing this out. It a mistake our American cousins make until they visit the UK. I am sure we get things quite wrong about your country too.
Thank you for those lovely things you said about me, they have massaged my ego nicely, not deserved, but nice all the same.
BTW I live in Wales not England, LOL!!!! England is only one part of the UK, the biggest part admittedly, but the UK is made up of England, Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales. I do hope you don't mind me pointing this out. It a mistake our American cousins make until they visit the UK. I am sure we get things quite wrong about your country too.
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With my oldest, we didn't make a big deal about it at all and she practically potty trained herself. The real kicker for her to get serious about it was her daycare class. She saw some of the other little girls going to the potty and decided she was going to be a big girl, too. She was about 3, I guess. My little one is 2 and a half and we're....getting there, lol. But I don't feel the need to pressure her. I'm sure she'll be potty trained by 3 or so. 
Good luck, Tonya. I can tell you if you don't stress about it, neither will your kids, and that makes things SOOOO much easier.
Good luck, Tonya. I can tell you if you don't stress about it, neither will your kids, and that makes things SOOOO much easier.
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My advice is: once you decide to stop using diapers, stop buying them. Get lots of cloth training pants. The Pull-ups and such are so absorbent that kids can't tell the difference between wet and dry. With cloth they can definitely tell when they've wet themselves. A little discomfort in that way can be a huge motivation to stay dry! I even used the cloth pants at nap and bedtime, and put a waterproof pad on their bed. My daughter only wet the bed once (she didn't like that feeling at all!) I did buy one package of Pull-ups for them to wear at church to avoid a potential mess. Even then they never wet in them. My daughter was trained in 3 days and it took my son about a month. Each kid is different.
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my advice if you still need it is that with my 2 girls I let them run diaper free. and I would set a timer for every hour and then they would go potty. they were just so easy. both were completly done at age 2.5. I found that also if they said they didnt have to go that if I ran water they would go.. LOL. hubby used to tease me that when ever they hear a timer go off now they will wet themselves. not true.
best of luck to you. : )
-Jillian
best of luck to you. : )
-Jillian
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brokenbananas
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How I potty-trained our daughter seems to be quite different than the other posts. She knew about the potty thing. The sitter she had been going to was potty training the other kids who were just a little older than our daughter. Hannalee was totally not interested despite seeing the other kids and peer pressure didn't work. I was a bit frustrated because she just didn't want to learn. When she was nearly 2.5 yrs old, we found out I was pregnant. Because I was having a very difficult time with the pregnancy, she got little attention with the potty-training and we dropped it.
No pressure on our daughter. The concern was that I not die during this pregnancy or birth or that our baby would die. We both are fine. Our daughter turned 3 and we had parents that said, Oh, you haven't potty-trained your daughter? Other parents said just wait until they are ready. I felt pressure from some parents, especially my mom. She said all 5 of her children were potty-trained by the time we were 1 yrs old. I won't go into a tirade of years of performance issues I've faced and low self-esteem.
It was late September last year and she was a little over 3 yrs old and I just asked her if she was ready to be a big girl. I also said that Sean (her little brother) was a baby and babies wear diapers. Was she a baby? She said no and that she was a big girl. I asked her if she wanted to try on her panties and start using the potty because that's what big girls use. She said Yes. I think the conversation lasted 5 min. and that was my potty training experience. The light bulb clicked in her head and she's had 1-2 accidents since then. She can hold her pee if we are on a trip until she can go. Boy, it sure saved me a lot of hassles by just dropping the subject and waiting for her to be ready. Frankly, I never thought she'd get there. I think she used the potty seat for 1-2 wks and after that, she's always used the toilet. She wipes herself, pee...poop....doesn't matter.
I think it's often us parents who push them when they are not ready and want to have bragging rights that they trained their children at an early age. Is that what's best? Not criticizing parents who do this, just a question. I've heard of some parents taking 1-2 yrs to potty train their kids. That seems like an aweful lot of accidents and frustration. 5 min. was all it took. She had the ability to understand and control her actions. I'm so glad I waited.
No pressure on our daughter. The concern was that I not die during this pregnancy or birth or that our baby would die. We both are fine. Our daughter turned 3 and we had parents that said, Oh, you haven't potty-trained your daughter? Other parents said just wait until they are ready. I felt pressure from some parents, especially my mom. She said all 5 of her children were potty-trained by the time we were 1 yrs old. I won't go into a tirade of years of performance issues I've faced and low self-esteem.
It was late September last year and she was a little over 3 yrs old and I just asked her if she was ready to be a big girl. I also said that Sean (her little brother) was a baby and babies wear diapers. Was she a baby? She said no and that she was a big girl. I asked her if she wanted to try on her panties and start using the potty because that's what big girls use. She said Yes. I think the conversation lasted 5 min. and that was my potty training experience. The light bulb clicked in her head and she's had 1-2 accidents since then. She can hold her pee if we are on a trip until she can go. Boy, it sure saved me a lot of hassles by just dropping the subject and waiting for her to be ready. Frankly, I never thought she'd get there. I think she used the potty seat for 1-2 wks and after that, she's always used the toilet. She wipes herself, pee...poop....doesn't matter.
I think it's often us parents who push them when they are not ready and want to have bragging rights that they trained their children at an early age. Is that what's best? Not criticizing parents who do this, just a question. I've heard of some parents taking 1-2 yrs to potty train their kids. That seems like an aweful lot of accidents and frustration. 5 min. was all it took. She had the ability to understand and control her actions. I'm so glad I waited.
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great advice - we're in the middle of potty training and i'm surprised I have any hair left from trying to tear it out - I don't know what's worse, trying to potty train my son or my two chihuahuas!
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Ah... something that was easy! I think with my kids I deserved at least one easy break. Like Tang I sat mine from about 6 months despite it being the trend to say this was a waste of time until they were two. I the summer I just left them without a nappy to use the potty as they wished. At 18 months I just told my daughter she was a big girl and didn't need nappies any more... she never looked back! ( she needed to be out of nappies cos she had learnt the art of creative play with nappy contents and I just couldn't take it any more! ) She was dry at night at two too... she had to be cos the nappies just didn't hold that much moisture! lol! I just thought might as well not bother with nappies cos the sheets were wet anyway! lol! Top brand too!
My son was slower..(lol! As he is with everything being a laid back sort of boy... and I certainly earned one laid back child! ) He was out of nappies at two both day and night ( night time for the same reason as my daughter ) Had some accidents with him though... but end of the day be chilled out it's only wee!
The problem with toddlers who are out of nappies is they use this to arm their awkwardness. They wait until it is your turn to be served at the supermarket checkout then need a wee... and they need it now! When I say it's only wee... all over the weeks groceries aint so good!
My son was slower..(lol! As he is with everything being a laid back sort of boy... and I certainly earned one laid back child! ) He was out of nappies at two both day and night ( night time for the same reason as my daughter ) Had some accidents with him though... but end of the day be chilled out it's only wee!
The problem with toddlers who are out of nappies is they use this to arm their awkwardness. They wait until it is your turn to be served at the supermarket checkout then need a wee... and they need it now! When I say it's only wee... all over the weeks groceries aint so good!
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Oh can I just add... a friend has a lovely daughter who's daddy walked off with another woman when she was only three and her toilet training went backwards. She is a very very intelligent child and has a quick wit and is a lovely child all round. She said goodbye to her nappies at night when she was six and she was of course more proud at this achievement them most kids are... we were all very proud of her.
It doesn't matter when a child reaches a goal... what mattes is that we celebrate their progress their efforts and their achievements even if they embarrassingly quick or embarrassingly slow to critical on-lookers....and so we must always be proud and give the children the credit for their achievements.
It doesn't matter when a child reaches a goal... what mattes is that we celebrate their progress their efforts and their achievements even if they embarrassingly quick or embarrassingly slow to critical on-lookers....and so we must always be proud and give the children the credit for their achievements.
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I've gotten a lot a nags from people since my son just turned 3 and still isn't trained. I tried to let him run around in toddler underwear but he just kept wetting them and could have cared less that they got wet. I think he's just not ready yet so i will try again soon. He knows how b/c he does it every night before his bath.
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