Potty Training Help

[Dominus Fidelis]

Ok, my son is almost 3. He has mastered #1. He can sit or stand and is pretty consistent in using the potty.

#2 is another story. He says he is scared to use it and refuses to even try. I have tried talking him into it and telling him its not scary, etc, but he gets really mad and throws the potty, etc. I have tried showing him where the poopoo goes, and he thinks it is pretty interesting and helps flush, but he will not sit on the potty to do #2

Ahhhh!

 

[MERCY@GRACE]

LOL-I have 4boys so I can relate. Sounds perfectly normal. My 3oldest boys did the same thing, my youngest son PT himself(went when he wanted to,not at my urging),and to my surprise going "poopy" was not even an issue to him! Give him a couple months, he'll get the hang of it.

 

[andiesmama]

You're farther along than us!! Andie's 2 1/2, I'm starting the potty training thing with her next month....she'll sit on it all day long with her DIAPER ON!!! (*smacks forhead*) So I've started talking up all the cool stuff you get to do when you do it the "right way"....use toilet paper (she's enthralled with it but I don't let her touch it, to retain the "mystery" lol), wear big girl panties, etc....so, we'll see...

 

[lucypevensie]

He may be genuinely afraid, or he may just be pushing your buttons, and then again he might not understand how the mechanics work. Maybe some of all of that. No matter the cause of his resistance he can do it, and it can be a positive thing, even if he hates it for a week or 2 in the beginning. If it was me I'd allow the poopy pants to become more of his burden than my burden. No more diapers. Just cloth training pants or underpants. When there's poop in the pants he must take them off himself, dump the lumps in the toilet, put the pants in the wash machine (or designated place), and take a bath to wash off all the mess. Help him where it's necessary but definitely make sure he understands that it's his choice now to either quickly use the toilet, or to take a loooong time to clean up a mess.

 

[suzybeezy]

He may be genuinely afraid, or he may just be pushing your buttons, and then again he might not understand how the mechanics work. Maybe some of all of that. No matter the cause of his resistance he can do it, and it can be a positive thing, even if he hates it for a week or 2 in the beginning. If it was me I'd allow the poopy pants to become more of his burden than my burden. No more diapers. Just cloth training pants or underpants. When there's poop in the pants he must take them off himself, dump the lumps in the toilet, put the pants in the wash machine (or designated place), and take a bath to wash off all the mess. Help him where it's necessary but definitely make sure he understands that it's his choice now to either quickly use the toilet, or to take a loooong time to clean up a mess.

When I was training my son, this is actually the advise that I received and it worked. I allowed him to wear his underwear and let him poop in his pants. Then I did not jump to change him. I allowed him to realize how uncomfortable the poop on his behind was. When they are wearing pull ups or diapers they don't notice it as much as when they are wearing underwear.

 

[sara elizabeth]

He may be genuinely afraid, or he may just be pushing your buttons, and then again he might not understand how the mechanics work. Maybe some of all of that. No matter the cause of his resistance he can do it, and it can be a positive thing, even if he hates it for a week or 2 in the beginning. If it was me I'd allow the poopy pants to become more of his burden than my burden. No more diapers. Just cloth training pants or underpants. When there's poop in the pants he must take them off himself, dump the lumps in the toilet, put the pants in the wash machine (or designated place), and take a bath to wash off all the mess. Help him where it's necessary but definitely make sure he understands that it's his choice now to either quickly use the toilet, or to take a loooong time to clean up a mess.

I agree. We potty trained ours by just quiting the diapers and letting the child go without anything on his bottom until he had the idea of what was going on. This worked great for us.

My mom tells about potty training my brother. He was around three and just too lazy to get to the potty on time. She left him home with my dad one day and he messed his pants. Dad took the little guy out and hosed him off with the garden hose. He never messed his pants again.

 

[Zoomer]

I had a similiar problem with my daughter at the same age. She was in panties but she would scream for a diaper when she had to do #2. She would hold it until I gave her a diaper, she went a entire day and a half (which is NOT normal for her) without going #2. I tried bribing, pleading, stickers, praise, making her sit on the potty for a long period of time until I gave up all together. Then one day after doing that for about 2 months, she just went in the potty. My point is that when he is ready, he'll do it. You can try all kinds of advice but he's not going to do it if he isn't ready or capable. Just remember that almost all kids are potty trained by the time they go to school.

 

[CoffeeSnob]

My oldest son did the same thing your boy did-- we had just done away with the diapers and he ROCKED at going #1 but freaked out when he had to do #2-- sometimes hed just do it on the floor which wasnt a whole heck of a lot of fun for me...

My daughter was a breeze-- she didnt seem to have any problems at all.

Anyway, my son eventually got over it-- suckers and candy worked wonderfully-- I know, its a bribe, but he responded well to it! *the only problem with having them around is, I tend to eat them too LOL!*

Off and on *like right now* Noah will get afraid of the toilet-- like if he sees it get plugged up he FREAKS out thinking its going to get him-- its starting to be few and far between now tho

Hang in there!

 

[mamaneenie]

My son is 3, (at the end of November so almost 3 and 2 mths) anyway, he was able to do #1 pretty good, take himself off to the potty.

#2 still went in the pants for a while, which was pretty frustrating, I just reminded him of where they went and why. He has taken himself off to do #2 without me reminding him, he started this 3 days ago, so we are pretty excited. I think he just realised how uncomfortable it was to walk with a poo in your pants and he seems to be getting reliable with his potty training now. However, when we go out is a different story, he doesn't like going to the toilet when we are out, and prefers to hold it all in until we get home on his potty. I am hoping that's a stage that will pass too.

 

[forgivenmuch]

My Son Was Fully Potty Trained By 3 .. Its Hard Work .. You Just Have To Stay Behind Them .. Reward Them .. Tell Them They Get A Suprise If They Do # 2
It Worked For Me.

 

[HeatherJay]

I still have a big problem with my 3 year old going poopy on the potty. She pees in the potty just fine. But, I understand why she's reluctant to go #2.

When she was a baby, for the first 2 years of her life, she had a MAJOR problem with constipation. So much so that she would literally scream in pain every single time she pooped. It was a horrible thing to go through as a mother, to have to listen to her scream that way, knowing that it was inevitable. I took her to all kinds of doctors who told me there was nothing wrong...of course she never pooped in front of them, so they just thought I was a mother freaking out over nothing. I tried everything from changing her diet to mineral oil, to laxatives prescribed by the one doctor who finally did give in to my begging for something to help her...and even that didn't really help.

Anyway, at 2, she just seemed to outgrow it, though she would still tense up her body (instead of relaxing to make it easier), cross her legs, start to cry, and try her best to hold it in because she was afraid of pooping. She still tenses up, she still crosses her legs, but she's finally stopped crying whenever she has to go. She'll go in her panties (pull-ups) but she is still freaked out about going on the potty.

I'm prepared to just wait this one out. Slowly but surely she's getting less afraid, but I'm not going to push her too hard. I don't want to traumatize her further, poor baby.