Potty Training a Boy--Need help!

[Stringaling]

I am embarking on the whole potty trainging experience with my son, but this is turning out SOOOOO differently than with his older sister. Does anyone have any tips or advice about how to hadnle some male related potty trainig issues, like how to make him leave his "business" alone when he sits on the potty. He won't leave it alone! sometimes giving him a toy or book keeps his hands busy, but he won't go then because he is distracted. Also I don't think he cares that his underwear are wet when he has accidents--I refuse to use pull ups-too expensive and diaper-like--I would appreciate any advice, suggestions, or ideas that might help.

Thanks

 

[desi]

Boys generally take longer to learn it than girls.

 

[BeanMak]

And if by business, you mean penis, short of tying his hands behind his back (which I am NOT) recommending, I don't think you will. Curiosity is normal. This is a whole new experience for him. I can remember being about 7 or 8 and getting out a hand mirror because I wanted to know how things worked! there was nothing sexual about it. I wanted to know how my body functioned, and where did these fluids come from! With boys, it is more out there, so to speak, but there is still curiosities about sensations and workings that is normal and should be explained.

 

[Jenna]

My daughter obviously doesn't have the same kind of parts to mess with, but she was real fidgety. I would sit on the side of the tub, across from the toilet, and hold her at her waist. She would either have to hold onto my arms, or hold her dress up out of the way. It gave her some way to have her hands occupied, but not really distracted. Plus, I was there to make sure that she didn't fall in.....again. lol

 

[herev]

Let him play with it, he really won't go blind

 

[Jenna]

*laughs* No, but he might just paint the bathroom......... heeheehee.....

 

[BeanMak]

we put a piece of toilet paper in the toilet, and let him aim at it. That helped cut down on misfires

 

[E-beth]

I just started doing the potty training thing with my son. He really isn't ready, but he is interested. Right now he sits on his little potty chair, points his winkie down, holds the pose, and gets up saying "all done". One of these days, something will actually come out.

My co-worker potty trained her daughter and stepson by letting them run around without any diaper on. Then she had their little potty put in the family room or whatever so it was clearly visible. This might have worked for her, but if I did that, I would have little puppy puddles all over the place.

 

[herev]

*laughs* No, but he might just paint the bathroom......... heeheehee.....

 

[Why?]

Boys do tend to take longer than girls to train. Have him press his winkie down so that he doesn't get "pee-pee" everywhere. Then he can touch it, but he has a job to do. Also I suggest having him try to stand and pee, the he can hold it and aim it. Just make sure you don't have a heavy toilet seat (those cause very bad bruising for little guys if they fall down while the little one is going potty).

 

[inHisgrip]

I put raisins in the toliet to aim at.
Also, I think when they are totally ready, it will just happen.
We put out a potty seat for him to use when he wanted. I also bought him big boy undies when he asked and we talked about what it meant to wear them.
I wouldn't push it. When he's ready he will go on the toliet.
If they aren't ready, it could make it take longer.
Also, get used to him playing with his penis, it just gets worse. (haha)
In Him

 

[WolfGate]

(those cause very bad bruising for little guys if they fall down while the little one is going potty).

Boys do take longer. We're finally making progress with our recently turned 3 year old. He's shown signs of being ready for 6+ months and has incredible bladder control. It's just taken longer for him to figure it out.

 

[lucypevensie]

Lots of good suggestions here, and I agree boys take longer than girls. Encourage him to point it down. If he doesn't and sprays the room (oopsie!) he should have to clean up his own mess. Be kind and calm about it. Show him where the towels are and show him where to put the wet towels. That's the consequense for fiddling around I guess

 

[Jette]

He should be trained to aim "his business" at some point. We used positive AND negative reinforcement. We firmly told him NO, he was not to pee his pants, and he had to take a shower if he did get wet. We also gave him a treat if he went in the potty. Works great!

 

[forgivenmuch]

my son wil be 3 next month..we have had the potty training down for about 2 months now.. it took a while.. but he is doing good now.. we had bought him a little swimming pool to play in ..and he would be outside in it playing..and i said..you cant use the potty in the swimming pool..he was excited just about the swimming pool..that he would say mom i need to potty.. so thats really how we trained him...we tried alot..now the stickers helped also..we had two sets of stickers..one was for #1 and the big ones was for #2 .. when he pottyed in the potty.. we would give him #1..then i said ... if you shoo shoo in the potty..then you will get a big sticker..he had lots of little ones ...all over the potty.. and one night he came to me..so proud and said moma i pottyed... i had his potty in the bathroom... beside the sink in the floor..that was his specail ..potty place.. and he did..it.. we were all so proud..lol that was funny..but the praise that he got for that..really let him see how important it was.. but my son was hard also..when they are ready they will potty... sometimes it might take longer for kids.. i know for him...it did... some take even longer..i let him go at his own pace..and now he is fully potty trained..i tried to rush ..and get him to potty ..because my niece would always brag about her little girl .. just turning 2 ... never had no problems.. boys take time at what they do i guess... but gl .and be patient..it will come...but only at his time .. forgivenmuch

 

[Crofter]

Potty Training a Boy... well... I was going to say just buy a potted tree and put it in the middle of you room... but maybe someone has already given that suggestion.

 

[selune]

Potty Training a Boy... well... I was going to say just buy a potted tree and put it in the middle of you room... but maybe someone has already given that suggestion.

Hehehehee

 

[~PICKLE~]

Let him play with it, he really won't go blind

I'm sorry this made me laugh My son will call anyone out on this one. If he see's anyone of the male gender scratch or pull or whatever, he will walk up to them and whisper " if you play with that( he'll point) you'll go blind then it will fall off" That I give a BIG thanks to his pappy.

 

[~PICKLE~]

My son is a loves to be outside, and the only thing that worked for me with him was to let me pee outside. He was always so busy he didn't want to come inside. So I said what the hey..... Let's be getto for awhile. I have this hanging plant by my porch and he loved to water that. It took only a week and he was good to go. Now he comes in, we had to explain that girls didn'[t did to see his winkie since he has gotten to be a big boy. Now #2 is a differet story. Can't let him do that outside-----Shoosh fly!!! Anyways that was the hard part. He was always to busy, so I pulled him in every hour and sat him on the potty. He had books and toys and we sang and talked. it took alot longer, but it finally worked. Just my 2 cents!