Possible post partum

[Angeleyes7715]

I don't know what else to call it. Just feel life is over now that I have a baby. I have a few classes left before I can sit for my lab certification exam and now I have no way to finish with a newborn. My fiance (the Dad) works days and I would have to take lab classes and no other programs for this field etc. No one can watch him we don't have family to watch him and he's too young for daycare.

I'm thinking I won't finish or will have to postpone another year out. And I've already been underemployed for 5 years. I worked so hard getting my biochemistry degree I don't want to just be a stay at home mom or be stuck working a job that only requires a high school diploma forever.

My fiance just got a better job, but I'm just stuck at home with this new baby. I'm so upset about this and I'm really just hating my life more than i did before. I have a dog and a newborn at home healing from my c section. The newborn is fussy all the time and requires constant fwesing and changing. No I didn't plan the pregnancy. I'm really feeling hopeless.

 

[archer75]

This sounds extremely difficult. I am a man but I am familiar with this kind of situation. PM if you want.

 

[Paidiske]

I do understand the feeling.

It won't be like this forever. My baby is about to turn 8 tomorrow; I finished my degree after she was born (I did have to take a break), and have worked my way back up from casual work, through increasing degrees of part time work, to now working full time in the role that feels right.

It's a tough time at home with a newborn and all that goes with it, but it will pass, and you will gradually get yourself and your life back!

 

[Maria Billingsley]

. Just feel life is over now that I have a baby.

You need help!PLEASE! Before you do something you regret!

 

[Maria Billingsley]

I don't know what else to call it. Just feel life is over now that I have a baby. I have a few classes left before I can sit for my lab certification exam and now I have no way to finish with a newborn. My fiance (the Dad) works days and I would have to take lab classes and no other programs for this field etc. No one can watch him we don't have family to watch him and he's too young for daycare.

I'm thinking I won't finish or will have to postpone another year out. And I've already been underemployed for 5 years. I worked so hard getting my biochemistry degree I don't want to just be a stay at home mom or be stuck working a job that only requires a high school diploma forever.

My fiance just got a better job, but I'm just stuck at home with this new baby. I'm so upset about this and I'm really just hating my life more than i did before. I have a dog and a newborn at home healing from my c section. The newborn is fussy all the time and requires constant fwesing and changing. No I didn't plan the pregnancy. I'm really feeling hopeless.

Right now you are not in your right mind. No sleep, feeling helpless, its not your fault, it is your hormonal change. You need to reach out for help so you can heal. Once you recover, you will bond with your baby.
I will pray for you. Please get help.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

Right now you are not in your right mind. No sleep, feeling helpless, its not your fault, it is your hormonal change. You need to reach out for help so you can heal. Once you recover, you will bond with your baby.
I will pray for you. Please get help.

I have bonded with him and I'm on Zoloft and have been sjnce I have dysthymia. It's really not doing anything for me. I love the baby it still doesn't takr away the fact im in a for profit college and the program im taking may not let me back im and its been a struggle to try and get through it plus the field im trying to break into well there are no schools for it in my state really so I mean technically I 5his doesn't work out witu thia school i wasted 26,000 and i have no idea what I'll do with my life since this was my way out of underemployment which I've been in for 5 years

 

[Maria Billingsley]

I have bonded with him and I'm on Zoloft and have been sjnce I have dysthymia. It's really not doing anything for me. I love the baby it still doesn't takr away the fact im in a for profit college and the program im taking may not let me back im and its been a struggle to try and get through it plus the field im trying to break into well there are no schools for it in my state really so I mean technically I 5his doesn't work out witu thia school i wasted 26,000 and i have no idea what I'll do with my life since this was my way out of underemployment which I've been in for 5 years

God has blessed you with a child. He is everything to Him and you. You are in this together. Draw on His Holy Spirit for strength. I will pray for you.

 

[Brightmoon]

They don’t have daycare where you are ? My sister and my nephew’s wife both went back to work after 6 weeks . I don’t know how they managed because I has severe postpartum depression

 

[Kenny'sID]

I'm 65, and have things I'd like to do before I get too old to do them. I get frustrated as the weeks months, even yrs tick by with only small things stopping me. I think I'll get to it soon enough, but my point is, you are still young. So you at least have plenty of time and as long as you don't start settling with where you are and it doesn't sound like you will, you will get out, with plenty of time to spare. Probably not a soon as you'd like, but at the very least day care will be available eventually.

So, it appears there are no perfect answers but there are some pretty good ones, which equates to hope. Also, it's good to be around your child as much as possible now so if not for you, relax in the fact you will get out, and try to enjoy what you do have the best you can.

I'm no expert but it seems to me things will likely only go up hill for you at this point, and the fussiness and other problems at this tough stage will slowly wane. Your fiance is not only working but has a better job than before, so it could be much worse.

Change what you can here and try to accept it if you can't get exactly what you want right away, otherwise it will depress you more and even snowball into something worse.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

I'm 65, and have things I'd like to do before I get too old to do them. I get frustrated as the weeks months, even yrs tick by with only small things stopping me. I think I'll get to it soon enough, but my point is, you are still young. So you at least have plenty of time and as long as you don't start settling with where you are and it doesn't sound like you will, you will get out, with plenty of time to spare. Probably not a soon as you'd like, but at the very least day care will be available eventually.

So, it appears there are no perfect answers but there are some pretty good ones, which equates to hope. Also, it's good to be around your child as much as possible now so if not for you, relax in the fact you will get out, and try to enjoy what you do have the best you can.

I'm no expert but it seems to me things will likely only go up hill for you at this point, and the fussiness and other problems at this tough stage will slowly wane. Your fiance is not only working but has a better job than before, so it could be much worse.

Change what you can here and try to accept it if you can't get exactly what you want right away, otherwise it will depress you more and even snowball into something worse.

Thanks I'm trying not to have a bad attitude. Just finished bathing my son. And now I am eating breakfast 2pm lol. Dogs in the crate mad cause I can't tend to her. I really miss being in the laboratory and working toward something I could be proud of education and school have kind of always come first for me, but it can't anymore. Trying not to feel like I haven't failed cause I haven't used my degree yet. I hope you are right and that I still have time.