Poor Communication

[Gentle Lamb]

How do you really deal with friendships where the communication is poor? Like maybe the friendship was previously stronger and closer but communication has lagged so much that the friendship is not as strong but you know you are still good friends?

 

[timothyu]

Lagging communication is usually the result of lagging interest in a friendship (not necessarily boredom or rejection but having other interests compete for time). As long as smothering is not an issue, then mutual interest can be revived, or as is often the case, the friendship settles into a new relationship where friendship can become one where many years down the road people see each other as close good friends without much communication at all but still trusting they can depend on each other. Life leads us in many directions.

 

[Rescued One]

How do you really deal with friendships where the communication is poor? Like maybe the friendship was previously stronger and closer but communication has lagged so much that the friendship is not as strong but you know you are still good friends?

I feel disconnected from a person who seems to pull away. Did the person change or lose interest in what brought you together?

 

[Gentle Lamb]

Hmm... Some situations that were present at the beginning of the friendship are gone. Things have changed, evolved. Same lover for and faith in Christ is still there for both of us though.

 

[Tolworth John]

How do you really deal with friendships where the communication is poor?

You need to reasses what you expect from the friendship and also to find out what that friend expects.

 

[timothyu]

So many different levels of friendship from the casual hello to and from a vendor, to work friendships, all the way through to family, then to the second highest which is a willingness to be there for them, and of course the ultimate friendship which should be a spouse.

 

[JohnC101]

Try to get together regularly, like at the end of the week or weekend, to have conversations, meetings, meals, etc... with each other and discuss life in general. That's how my father and his friend maintained their friendship for several decades.

 

[Sabri]

I feel disconnected from a person who seems to pull away. Did the person change or lose interest in what brought you together?

 

[Sabri]

Pulling away isn’t always a bad thing. People evolve, grow, and mature. Pulling away may be a means of needing space to grow.