polygamy

[bintummi]

should polygamy be legal in the USA???

 

[gengwall]

The fourth option is inapplicable since this was posed as a legal, not a religious question.

 

[Ave Maria]

Yes, polygamy should be legal in the United States.

 

[Futuwwa]

Yay, another Muslim in the E&M forum! Welcome!

I voted for the second option. I believe polygamy can be a good thing if there are pragmatic reasons to engage in it, whereas I consider it to be immoral to be polygamous just for fun. I kinda like the Egyptian system where legally marrying an additional wife requires the consent of all the current wives.

 

[Verv]

Here is the thing... I do not get it, how is it 'freedom to choose' and then suddenlyt he second option is along the lines of 'but all parties should have a say.'

Was there really ever an assumption that people would be married against their will?

I can only understand polygamy through what I know of monogamy, and I have never heard of people in the United States essentially told 'you're marrying me and you can do nothing about it.'

 

[Futuwwa]

I suppose the "all parties should have a say in it" meant that the entire thing would not only have to be agreed on by the couple to be married, but by all current spouses of said persons. Like the Egypt case I mentioned.

 

[Upisoft]

I can only understand polygamy through what I know of monogamy, and I have never heard of people in the United States essentially told 'you're marrying me and you can do nothing about it.'

Yes, her father with gun is his hand can say it.

I agree that there should be no force. Neither you can't nor you must. You must have the freedom to choose.

 

[Shemjaza]

I'd be overjoyed if polygamy became legal. But I would want it to be clear that every person in the relationship had to consent. Also I'd want for it to not be restrictive about genders... so you could have either multiple wives or multiple husbands.

 

[Bombila]

Should it be legal? Yes, consenting adults should be able to form whatever partnership arrangements suit them, and the property laws and child custody laws which cover monogamous marriages should also cover polygamous ones.

...Although I cannot personally imagine wanting another husband: one is almost more than I care to deal with sometimes.

 

[Rorshack]

It already is legal if you use the proper corporate form. That has been driving anti poly people nuts for awhile now.

 

[DLaurier]

I think I already addressed this issue befor.
Any man who thinks he can keep two women happy
(either sexualy or socialy) is deeply deluded.
I personaly can barely deal with One woman in my life.

No you will NOT make me wear matching socks.

 

[BibleMadeMeDoIt]

Here is the thing... I do not get it, how is it 'freedom to choose' and then suddenlyt he second option is along the lines of 'but all parties should have a say.'

Was there really ever an assumption that people would be married against their will?

I can only understand polygamy through what I know of monogamy, and I have never heard of people in the United States essentially told 'you're marrying me and you can do nothing about it.'

I think that has something to do with the other spouse being able to approve of the new marriage.

 

[YamiB]

I have not seen any reason against polygamy. Most seem to be fears of women being oppressed or devalued, but that is not inherent in the idea.

 

[Rivaltuna]

It's a social taboo, but I just don't see anything morally wrong with it...

 

[fromdownunder]

Isn't it rather odd that while it is perfectly legal to live and sleep with with two or more women (or two men if you are a woman), it only becomes illegal if you marry them both.

Somebody might explain the logic of this, because it eludes me.

And BTW, I agree with DLaurier - one woman is more than enough, especially when the "will there be kids with that?" order comes into play.

Norm

 

[jgarden]

Its a tough job but somebody has to do it !!

 

[jgarden]

Polygamy will soon become an economic necessity in America.

When a husband and wife are both working full time and can't make ends meet, its time to add a third salary to the household.

 

[Ledifni]

Yay, another Muslim in the E&M forum! Welcome!

I voted for the second option. I believe polygamy can be a good thing if there are pragmatic reasons to engage in it, whereas I consider it to be immoral to be polygamous just for fun. I kinda like the Egyptian system where legally marrying an additional wife requires the consent of all the current wives.

I agree that a polygamous union should be a decision by the whole group, but I don't see why pleasure shouldn't be a factor. If a couple meet another person whose company in their lives and their beds would be "fun" and rewarding -- why not? Do they have to have some compelling practical reason for it?

 

[sparklecat]

The economic and legal implications of polygamous marriages make it a bit difficult. The relationships should be and are legal, but all sorts of problems come up. Should there be a limit on parties to the marriage? Will employers have to provide the same benefits? What are the implications for immigration?

 

[Futuwwa]

I agree that a polygamous union should be a decision by the whole group, but I don't see why pleasure shouldn't be a factor. If a couple meet another person whose company in their lives and their beds would be "fun" and rewarding -- why not? Do they have to have some compelling practical reason for it?

Well, I was rather talking about the Islamic variant of polygamy, where the man is married to several women separately - they aren't all married to each other in one big marital union, or anything like that. Which means that, at the end of the day, the wives will have to share a husband, which is bound to cause all sorts of problems. Which is why it shouldn't be engaged in lightly.