Please....

[Mrs. Luther073082]

aw i'm sorry, but think about how much more bummed you would be if you were still together.

And think of your monies!!! Now you don't have to buy a chia-pet.

 

[Tink]

Congrats!

 

[ido]

It stinks, I'm sure - but it stinks a lot less than it would have in the long run.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

It stinks, I'm sure - but it stinks a lot less than it would have in the long run.

Yep! What she said!!! ^^

Totally better to cut it off now and not let it drag on

 

[CoachR64]

Your foot needs to introduce her butt to the curb. The curb is lonely around the holiday too. She can keep the curb company.

Coach

 

[bluegreysky]

She's a single mom of a baby girl and the father bailed out... he's not even on the birth certificate. She has an extremely cynical view of men because of this... and I think she's taking out all her frustrations on me.

Well OK Db there's the problem. There may be some amazing single parents out there, and there may be some amazing people who can date single parents...
but most of the time it doesnt seem to work.
I know people who dated a single parent and either the parent was stressed out/messed up or the kid kept causing issues.
I dated a single father over the summer and not only was the baby a major cause of stress, the mom suddenly reappeared on the scene and caused alot of drama. I guess she wasn't over him yet....
Since then, I have been telling friends that I don't recommend they date single parents unless they know what they're getting into.
(previous experience with it, loads of time and patience)

 

[vibrant]

talk to her. if that doesn't work, end it. you understand that that behaviour is unsustainable.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Pssst...bluegreysky...did you know that DB is himself a single parent

And I think that your "assessment" of single parents is very narrow as it is based on your ONE experience dating a single parent. Seems rather short sighted of you to lump all single parents into the same category.

However, this thread ISN'T about single parenting so I'll stop there

 

[cowboysfan1970]

...allow me to vent

I have been dating a girl with a bad temper for almost 2 months now and it's driving me insane. I am afraid to even speak around her a lot of the time because I think she's going to blow up on me. This is ridiculous... I shouldn't feel like I am walking on thin ice all the time!

I feel like I am caught up in the cycle of violence... things are fine... then tension builds.. and then she blows up on me.... then she apologizes... and then (like an idiot) I forgive her. This is insanity! Now I need to muster up the courage to get up and walk away... and it's hard to do since it's the holiday season and all hahaha.

And the craziest part is that (honestly ) I have been a saint in this relationship! I have been sweet and understanding and very patient. I guess I am growing up. You'd think that if you treated a girl right she'd reciprocate huh? Well, not this one.... this girl's got issues

Kinda reminds me of that Offspring song haha.

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. Carry on.

She might have what's called The Anger Illness. It's a form of bi-polar disorder where sometimes the people that have it are in a furious rage that really has no trigger. If you care about her try to get her to get treatment. If she refuses then don't continue the relationship.

 

[puffca]

I think many of you ladies in the last several pages are mean...

JonMiller and DB8.5 look like nice guys though.

 

[mina]

puffca, if you were dating someone that wasn't treating you very well, we would be mean about it too!!!

 

[puffca]

Thanks for saying that, mina!

 

[traingosorry]

I would like to kindly remind you that you gave me some good advice at one point and I took it.
Now, could you give your head a shake and do the same?



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Okay guys. We are broken up. She left a lot of messages and I called her back and she just said that our relationship has run it's course and that we just aren't right for each other. She was like are you okay? And I was like yeah, I'm fine. I'm relieved. Bye.

Nice work! Next!

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I think many of you ladies in the last several pages are mean...

Don't make me make the angry baby glare at you.

 

[deliciousBass]

Your foot needs to introduce her butt to the curb. The curb is lonely around the holiday too. She can keep the curb company.

Coach

Her butt has been introduced to the curb.

She's a single mom of a baby girl and the father bailed out... he's not even on the birth certificate. She has an extremely cynical view of men because of this... and I think she's taking out all her frustrations on me.

Well OK Db there's the problem. There may be some amazing single parents out there, and there may be some amazing people who can date single parents...
but most of the time it doesnt seem to work.
I know people who dated a single parent and either the parent was stressed out/messed up or the kid kept causing issues.
I dated a single father over the summer and not only was the baby a major cause of stress, the mom suddenly reappeared on the scene and caused alot of drama. I guess she wasn't over him yet....
Since then, I have been telling friends that I don't recommend they date single parents unless they know what they're getting into.
(previous experience with it, loads of time and patience)

Yeah, it's always more stressful if you date the custodial parent since they have to put the kid(s) first in their life so you have to take a back seat. If you don't have kids yourself or go into a relationship not knowing that they won't be able to drop what they're doing and hang out with you whenever, then you're in for a shock.

I have a son who I have for visitation every 2 weeks so I am actually very understanding and patient... her being a single mom wasn't the cause of the relationship problems. The girl was just plain belligerent at times, took out her frustrations on me, and she isn't right for me, or really anybody at this point.

talk to her. if that doesn't work, end it. you understand that that behaviour is unsustainable.

Well it's a good thing I won't be around when her behaviour reaches catastrophic levels eh?

I think many of you ladies in the last several pages are mean...

JonMiller and DB8.5 look like nice guys though.

Haha, I was actually kinda mean how I went about it... but it was just payback for all the abuse I suffered

I would like to kindly remind you that you gave me some good advice at one point and I took it.
Now, could you give your head a shake and do the same?



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Nice work! Next!

Haha... well you would be proud to know that I am capable of taking my own advice

 

[GQ Chris]

Good move. Now go up to that Hottie in line at Barnes and Noble, you know, the one you did a doubletake on.

 

[deliciousBass]

Good move. Now go up to that Hottie in line at Barnes and Noble, you know, the one you did a doubletake on.

Haha, it's more like I'd better prep myself for another two years alone..

Actually, it's kinda funny because as soon as I changed my FB status to single, my biology lab partner (who has had a crush on me this whole semester) emailed me her phone number lol. I don't really like her that way so it's going to be weird in lab next time.

 

[Niels]

Glad to hear you got out of that one! (EDIT: In case there's any confusion, I'm talking about the relationship that went south.)

 

[Tink]

Haha, it's more like I'd better prep myself for another two years alone..

Actually, it's kinda funny because as soon as I changed my FB status to single, my biology lab partner (who has had a crush on me this whole semester) emailed me her phone number lol. I don't really like her that way so it's going to be weird in lab next time.

You have facebook, and I didn't know? HOW DARE YOU? I must have all CFers on my facebook. I'm sorry you didn't know the rule.



And good luck in lab. eek.

 

[puffca]

Don't make me make the angry baby glare at you.

at angry baby pictures.