THIS IS PRETTY LONG BUT I REALLY COULD USE SOME ADVICE AND I THINK YOU'LL ENJOY HEARING MY STORY AS WELL!
Hello everyone I am brand new to this site (this is my first post). My name is Nichole and I got married on Feb. 6, 2009 to a man that KNOWS SO MUCH about the bible and is a believer but ever since I met him (which was Sept. 2007) he has had a hard time staying with God. Like he straddles the fence between God and his flesh often. But when he's walking with God he is with him 110%!! Now a little about me, I've always "called" myself a Christian but since I was 13 (now 25) I HAD NEVER REALLY EVEN TRIED being obidient(sp?) to God until I met my husband. So we have been seperated since Nov. 21, 2009 and I got pregnant by him on Aug. 30, 2009. I also have a son that was 8 months old when I met my husband and he took him in as his own since his father wasn't around. That is why we seperated, we BUMPED HEADS HARD on discipline. I just thought he was WAY TOO HARD ON OUR SON. And at the time he was falling back into his flesh as I was digging deeper into God. So my son, me, and my unborn child had to move in with my parents and I had my daughter in May and I hadn't seen him since I left and before her birth I was ready to reconcile with him but he kept saying HE KNEW I WASN'T READY, when actually it was him that wasn't ready. So when I had her (by c-section btw) he came to the hospital to see her and immediatley feel in love with her. He actually stayed night and day with me at the hospital for the full 4 days and while he was there he told me he was ready to be a family again. So when I left the hospital I had to pack up all of the kid's things and mine and we moved back in BUT for only THREE DAYS. After we were there 3 days he was at work and he sent me a text and told me to start packing because having HIS DAUGHTER THERE was messing him up (work wise, he's a salesman) and remember I JUST HAD A C-SECTION and had to pack up ALL OVER AGAIN and move BACK to my parents. I was SO HURT. He had taken EVERYTHING AWAY FROM ME when we were together and married. He made me quit my job where I was making $20/hr and I was financing a car that he told me to let go (and I did all this because I was trying to be a Godly wife but at the time I was VERY NAIEVE). So I felt as if I hit ROCK BOTTOM! I had NOTHING, NO MONEY, NO JOB, NO CAR, NOTHING. And one day I finally prayed and told God that I GIVE UP and I don't know what else to do so if you have something for me PLEASE show me how to get it. AND ONE WEEK LATER I HEARD GOD'S VOICE!! I've wanted that SO BAD for the longest TIME!! And he spoke to me and it MADE ME UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING! ALL THIS TIME NICHOLE was trying to fix EVERYTHING instead of relying on GOD TO DO IT. That's why I was going NO WHERE. ONE WEEK AFTER I HEARD HIS VOICE my grandma called me and told me that she had $500 she could put down on a car for me or something and of course you can't get a car without a job and the next day I just thought I would look around at the cars for sale on Craigslist and the VERY FIRST POST was for a 1996 Chevy Cavelier that runs GREAT, has some cosmetic damage but is a terrific car with a new oil change, water pump, and radiator and they would PAY to sign the title over and it would be sold with a FULL TANK OF GAS FOR ONLY $500.00!!! I immedialtey emailed them and picked the car up the VERY NEXT DAY! I am now starting Cosmetology School THIS TUESDAY and I qualified for FOUR COST OF LIVING LOANS while I was in school (and my FASFA and Pell Grant covered my tuition) and so I took out only 2 of the loans because God reminded me that I will be paying these back and ALL I neeeded was 2. And I got my son and daughter in a WONDERFUL DAYCARE only 3/4 of a mile away from my school and it won't be so much daycare for my son it will be more like preschool since he's turning 4 next month. AND I GOT ALL OF THIS BECAUSE I FINALLY STOPPED TRYING TO DO EVERYTHING BY MYSELF AND LEND ON GOD TO HELP ME AND HE'S GIVING ME WISDOM ALONG THE WAY AND SO MUCH MORE!!! Now my husband REFUSED to believe I FINALLY FOUND GOD and that there was A HUGE CHANGE IN ME. And I was able to talk to him without getting angry and etc. And we began talking about reconciling again and he had found a house to rent for us and the week before we were moving in, I found out he has been having an affair for 2 months. He even admitted to it. Along with this I was having alot of concern (this was after the whole reconciling thing was gone out the window) about his relationship with my daughter, I had decided that we would NEVER be together and the girl he was having an affair with IS ALSO MARRIED but I seen a picture of her on Facebook and I THOUGHT SHE WAS AT LEAST 15 YEARS OLD! Turns out she JUST turned 21. And my now soon to be EX HUSBAND has said this 3 times about my daughter which has left me to not letting him see the kids anymore. But when I would say things like I can't wait until Jenessa starts crawling or walking and etc. ALL HE HAS EVER SAID IS "I JUST can't wait until she learns how to KISS". NOW knowing that the affair was with a girl that is 9 year younger than him (but she really looks like she's 15) and him saying he can't wait until my daughter learns how to KISS HAS REALLY SCARED ME to NOT letting him see the kids as of right now. I'm really seeking God on this and my husband keeps telling me I'm sinning be keeping him away from them. So I just wanted some advice on this, do you all think I am wrong for keeping him away from the kids? I definitely DO NOT WANT TO SIN and I just can't see this as a sin?!? ANY ADVICE IS MORE THAN WELCOMED!!! And thanks for reading the LONG STORY and thanks in advance for any replies!!
GOD BLESS!!
Nichole
Hello everyone I am brand new to this site (this is my first post). My name is Nichole and I got married on Feb. 6, 2009 to a man that KNOWS SO MUCH about the bible and is a believer but ever since I met him (which was Sept. 2007) he has had a hard time staying with God. Like he straddles the fence between God and his flesh often. But when he's walking with God he is with him 110%!! Now a little about me, I've always "called" myself a Christian but since I was 13 (now 25) I HAD NEVER REALLY EVEN TRIED being obidient(sp?) to God until I met my husband. So we have been seperated since Nov. 21, 2009 and I got pregnant by him on Aug. 30, 2009. I also have a son that was 8 months old when I met my husband and he took him in as his own since his father wasn't around. That is why we seperated, we BUMPED HEADS HARD on discipline. I just thought he was WAY TOO HARD ON OUR SON. And at the time he was falling back into his flesh as I was digging deeper into God. So my son, me, and my unborn child had to move in with my parents and I had my daughter in May and I hadn't seen him since I left and before her birth I was ready to reconcile with him but he kept saying HE KNEW I WASN'T READY, when actually it was him that wasn't ready. So when I had her (by c-section btw) he came to the hospital to see her and immediatley feel in love with her. He actually stayed night and day with me at the hospital for the full 4 days and while he was there he told me he was ready to be a family again. So when I left the hospital I had to pack up all of the kid's things and mine and we moved back in BUT for only THREE DAYS. After we were there 3 days he was at work and he sent me a text and told me to start packing because having HIS DAUGHTER THERE was messing him up (work wise, he's a salesman) and remember I JUST HAD A C-SECTION and had to pack up ALL OVER AGAIN and move BACK to my parents. I was SO HURT. He had taken EVERYTHING AWAY FROM ME when we were together and married. He made me quit my job where I was making $20/hr and I was financing a car that he told me to let go (and I did all this because I was trying to be a Godly wife but at the time I was VERY NAIEVE). So I felt as if I hit ROCK BOTTOM! I had NOTHING, NO MONEY, NO JOB, NO CAR, NOTHING. And one day I finally prayed and told God that I GIVE UP and I don't know what else to do so if you have something for me PLEASE show me how to get it. AND ONE WEEK LATER I HEARD GOD'S VOICE!! I've wanted that SO BAD for the longest TIME!! And he spoke to me and it MADE ME UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING! ALL THIS TIME NICHOLE was trying to fix EVERYTHING instead of relying on GOD TO DO IT. That's why I was going NO WHERE. ONE WEEK AFTER I HEARD HIS VOICE my grandma called me and told me that she had $500 she could put down on a car for me or something and of course you can't get a car without a job and the next day I just thought I would look around at the cars for sale on Craigslist and the VERY FIRST POST was for a 1996 Chevy Cavelier that runs GREAT, has some cosmetic damage but is a terrific car with a new oil change, water pump, and radiator and they would PAY to sign the title over and it would be sold with a FULL TANK OF GAS FOR ONLY $500.00!!! I immedialtey emailed them and picked the car up the VERY NEXT DAY! I am now starting Cosmetology School THIS TUESDAY and I qualified for FOUR COST OF LIVING LOANS while I was in school (and my FASFA and Pell Grant covered my tuition) and so I took out only 2 of the loans because God reminded me that I will be paying these back and ALL I neeeded was 2. And I got my son and daughter in a WONDERFUL DAYCARE only 3/4 of a mile away from my school and it won't be so much daycare for my son it will be more like preschool since he's turning 4 next month. AND I GOT ALL OF THIS BECAUSE I FINALLY STOPPED TRYING TO DO EVERYTHING BY MYSELF AND LEND ON GOD TO HELP ME AND HE'S GIVING ME WISDOM ALONG THE WAY AND SO MUCH MORE!!! Now my husband REFUSED to believe I FINALLY FOUND GOD and that there was A HUGE CHANGE IN ME. And I was able to talk to him without getting angry and etc. And we began talking about reconciling again and he had found a house to rent for us and the week before we were moving in, I found out he has been having an affair for 2 months. He even admitted to it. Along with this I was having alot of concern (this was after the whole reconciling thing was gone out the window) about his relationship with my daughter, I had decided that we would NEVER be together and the girl he was having an affair with IS ALSO MARRIED but I seen a picture of her on Facebook and I THOUGHT SHE WAS AT LEAST 15 YEARS OLD! Turns out she JUST turned 21. And my now soon to be EX HUSBAND has said this 3 times about my daughter which has left me to not letting him see the kids anymore. But when I would say things like I can't wait until Jenessa starts crawling or walking and etc. ALL HE HAS EVER SAID IS "I JUST can't wait until she learns how to KISS". NOW knowing that the affair was with a girl that is 9 year younger than him (but she really looks like she's 15) and him saying he can't wait until my daughter learns how to KISS HAS REALLY SCARED ME to NOT letting him see the kids as of right now. I'm really seeking God on this and my husband keeps telling me I'm sinning be keeping him away from them. So I just wanted some advice on this, do you all think I am wrong for keeping him away from the kids? I definitely DO NOT WANT TO SIN and I just can't see this as a sin?!? ANY ADVICE IS MORE THAN WELCOMED!!! And thanks for reading the LONG STORY and thanks in advance for any replies!!
GOD BLESS!!
Nichole
