Hello.
I've been single my entire life, mostly out of fear of what my Dad would say if I brought home a boy. But recently I've become friends with a nonbeliever who is by far the sweetest and most incredible person I have ever met. We like each other very much and have admitted this to each other, even held hands. However, my parents made it very clear that I'm not supposed to like him. So I'm currently disobeying my parents and going behind their back. I don't want to live a double life and the spirit has convicted me. I know I need to come clean and I want to. I don't want to sneak around.
However, this is a terrifying and daunting task for me. This person is a huge part of my life and even if I can't date him, I want him to be my friend. I feel that my mother will be understanding but dad will not be. He said when I first introduced this friend to the family that I "better not marry him because he's not a son-in-law I could be proud of". I've decided that I'm going to come clean to my mom but I have no idea how to approach telling my dad or if I even should. I'm terrified.
Again, this boy is a nonbeliever. He has stated before that he doesn't believe in God and doesn't think that he will, but recently he told me that he's willing to give up drinking and smoking and other bad habits if it means my parents will let us be together. He also told me that he's willing to "try God again".
I'm very torn and very, very scared. Am I making the right call? I'm very close to him and I don't believe in soulmates but he feels very right despite not being a Christian. I don't want to let him go. Additionally, he's a very damaged person and if I did decide to not tell my parents and just tell him we have to stop being friends, it would wreck him. I don't want to do that to him. Although that would be the easiest route. Then I could avoid the stress of ever having to tell Mom and Dad. But is that right? Probably not.
I need guidance. Please, please pray for me. And pray that my parents' hearts be softened and that they hear me out. I'm going to tell my mom very soon and I just need prayers and comfort. Thank you all.
I've been single my entire life, mostly out of fear of what my Dad would say if I brought home a boy. But recently I've become friends with a nonbeliever who is by far the sweetest and most incredible person I have ever met. We like each other very much and have admitted this to each other, even held hands. However, my parents made it very clear that I'm not supposed to like him. So I'm currently disobeying my parents and going behind their back. I don't want to live a double life and the spirit has convicted me. I know I need to come clean and I want to. I don't want to sneak around.
However, this is a terrifying and daunting task for me. This person is a huge part of my life and even if I can't date him, I want him to be my friend. I feel that my mother will be understanding but dad will not be. He said when I first introduced this friend to the family that I "better not marry him because he's not a son-in-law I could be proud of". I've decided that I'm going to come clean to my mom but I have no idea how to approach telling my dad or if I even should. I'm terrified.
Again, this boy is a nonbeliever. He has stated before that he doesn't believe in God and doesn't think that he will, but recently he told me that he's willing to give up drinking and smoking and other bad habits if it means my parents will let us be together. He also told me that he's willing to "try God again".
I'm very torn and very, very scared. Am I making the right call? I'm very close to him and I don't believe in soulmates but he feels very right despite not being a Christian. I don't want to let him go. Additionally, he's a very damaged person and if I did decide to not tell my parents and just tell him we have to stop being friends, it would wreck him. I don't want to do that to him. Although that would be the easiest route. Then I could avoid the stress of ever having to tell Mom and Dad. But is that right? Probably not.
I need guidance. Please, please pray for me. And pray that my parents' hearts be softened and that they hear me out. I'm going to tell my mom very soon and I just need prayers and comfort. Thank you all.