Hello AnnMercy,
My dad was an alcoholic, and I know it is very painful for you to see your mom going thru this.
The best thing I know of is AA(Alcoholics Anonymous).
Try telling your mom this: She does NOT have to stop drinking to attend AA meetings. A lot of alcoholics think they have to stop drinking before they can go to an AA meeting, and that is not true at all.
Tell her you will GO WITH HER to a meeting, and then get on the phone and find her a good meeting close to home.
If she will go to a meeting, she will find people just like herself who have also struggled just like she is struggling. She will find people who will understand and care about her. No one will criticize her. At the meeting, she will hear people reading the "Twelve Step Program", and how it helps them to daily live and cope with life without alcohol.
After she has attended meetings for a few weeks, maybe she will decide to try and stop drinking. But even if she doesn't stop drinking right away, she can still keep going to the meetings, and maybe eventually she will quit drinking.
The hardest thing for you will be to get her to go to the meetings. Promise to go with her, and then take her there.
Also, for you, there is a group that is called "Al-Anon". It is for the family members of alcoholics. I have been to about a zillion Al-Anon meetings!
The al-anon meeting is usually held at the same place and time as the AA meeting, except in a different room. So, even if your mom won't go to AA, make sure that you give the Al-Anon meetings a try, for yourself. You can learn so much about your mom and get some understanding as to why she drinks.
I will surely pray for you Ann, and your mom too!
