please help!

[bruff]

i am baptist, my boyfriend on the other hand is catholic. he proposed to me about a week ago and now we are torn on what to do about our wedding.

i suggested that a non denominational preacher marry us, and i think that he is okay with that but his parents are not happy! what can we do or what should we do?

we love each other very much and have already disgussed what we will do with our children when we have them but right now we dont know what to do about finding a preacher for our wedding..

PLEASE HELP!

 

[bruff]

please i despretaly need advice

 

[Hisbygrace]

Hello bruff I can understand you being concerned with his parents feelings,
but just remember it is your wedding day and the decisions you and he make should
be what you two want and think is best.

 

[Encourager]

It isn't just your wedding day - you are talking about a lifetime together. Parents can't be allowed to interfere - I have seen this happen in my family when my sister married a Catholic and they brought the children up Catholic just to keep the parents/grandparents happy. This is one you have to work through yourself, with the counsel of you minister

 

[sweetMelody]

I HIGHLY recommend that you meet with both pastors soon and find out the rules for this:
Choose one of your churches, and invite the other pastor from the other church to also be there.

 

[faithful follower]

I see you are new here! We have a great forum for advice requests in our Edification section. Please go to Christian Advice and check it out!

 

[jparks]

I'm sorry you're having to go through this - it should be a joyous time for you and fiance.

How important is it to you to have a non denominational preacher marry you? It is you and your fiance's day, so ultimately you should be able to have the kind of wedding you wish. However, would it be acceptable for you to talk with both your minister and your fiance's priest and find out what possibilities they propose? I have been to weddings in which clergy of more than one denomination have officiated - I don't know if that would be acceptable to you. At the very least, your minister and your fiance's priest very likely have a lot more experience with this situation than you or your families, and may be able to help you. Hopefully, the ministers would be at least somewhat flexible, and focus on the most important aspects of the wedding: the celebration of your love in the sight of God, and forging of the bonds of holy matrimony. Perhaps they can help you do this in a way that will minimize any difficulties with your future in-laws, but preserve the day as joyous occasion for you.

Many churches require pre-marriage couples classes - another good thing to discuss with both your churches.

God bless and congratulations!

 

[Maranatha27]

Why not just get married in the Catholic Church. Although I personally disagree with the CC, I don't see a problem.

 

[eyzonthepriz]

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[GraceDaily]

I like how you found a solution between the two of you and you were happy with that, after all if you're getting married you're going to have to work together and compromise. But your marriage is about the two of you and God, not your parents! I hate seeing parents interfere in weddings! It's your day and if you're happy with whatever decision you make and feel at peace with it then that's what matters.