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Please Help

i've been struggleing with a problem for most of my life but now things are really starting to get on top of me :( i have prayed and asked god for a way for these feelings to disapear but they are just geting stronger and stronger. im seeking help via the internet because im so ashamed. i cant talk to anyone about this. i find myself aroused by animals, specifically dogs. i want theses feeling to go away so bad ive had thoughts of suicide. im sure the world would be a better place without "freaks" like me in it. Can i get help for this? ive tried soo hard to make them go away! Please if you can help at all, do so before i do something stupid.

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don't be ashamed.

how old are you? maybe it hormonal? i've heard about ppl getting pleasure sexually from animals. its not that uncommon.

just b-coz u view urself as a freak doesnt mean u are? define freak?

i'm a freak. ur a freak. everyone ur gonna meet is a freak. and newsflash..thats OK. its OK to be different. its OK to to be interested in sumthing that isnt what society would expect u to be interested in. its OK to be unique. your U and u know what? thats perfectly OK.

however, acting on this...as it says in the bible, is not so ok. get a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. or sumother form of sex toy...to fill that need..or better yet. get maried ;)

i don't think experimenting with sex is wrong. or abnormal. i think everyone wether they wanna admit it, or not thinks about it. just..acting on thse thoghts are morally wrong. but it doesnt make u a bad peson. don't stray away from God.. continue to ask him for guidance, and help.

though. sin is inevitable.ur human. u were made with a curiousity, and satan will try to get u to explor ur curiosity. so if u ever find urself doing sumthing that is sinnful. just remember. everyone sins. in diff way, but each sin is equally bad. and God forgives sin. u just hafta ask. it isn't hard..

coming on here admiting to this like u did, tells me, ur a good person, who wants to get better. a brave person. suicide is the cowardly way out. u r not a coward. we can't lose sumone like u, or neone for that mater to suicide.

:hug:

if u wanna talk to sumone in RL..go for it. it ma be uncomfortable, but u will find that u r normal. that their are other ppl with that fetish.. u can get into a group session. or talk alone.

or occupy ur mind with other stuff. whatever works for u.
 
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Looking4Help said:
i've been struggleing with a problem for most of my life but now things are really starting to get on top of me :(

Jesus said to cast your cares on Him. Or you can roll them over onto Him. What you need to do is memorize some key scriptures and live by them, keep thinking on them:

Psalm 55:22
Cast your burden upon the Lord, and He will sustain you;
He will never allow the righteous to be shaken.

Matthew 11:28-30
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. [29] Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. [30] For My yoke is easy and My burden is light."

Matthew 6:33
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

i have prayed and asked god for a way for these feelings to disapear but they are just geting stronger and stronger.

We do not live by feelings, we live by faith. If the enemy is trying to put his garbage over on you, then just use the Precious Blood of Jesus against Him.

When you mix feelings in with fear or imagination, you can not pray them away. You have to live by Faith. Not human Faith but the Faith that the Holy Spirit of God produces in us as a fruit of the spirit. Also we need to abide in and be filled with God's love. Faith and love come together, you can not seperate them.

We are in this world, but not of this world. Our citizenship is in heaven. When the things of this world get to me I just disconnect from it and become a part of the kingdom of Heaven. Our fellowship is with Heaven. So paradise is on the inside of us, and someday we will enter back into paradise. Jesus gained back for us, all that Adam lost.

im seeking help via the internet because im so ashamed.

Nothing wrong with trying to get help. It is not always easy to find someone who can really help us in this world we live in. But God said He will never abandon or forsake us. He is there with Heavens help, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week 365 days a years. Night and day, He is always there for those who seek Him in Faith and in Love. Trusting and believing. He will not disappoint us.

im sure the world would be a better place without "freaks" like me in it. Can i get help for this?

Yes, the Holy Spirit of God is our helper and He gives us strength and all that we need to live a life well pleasing to God. Abundantly above and beyond all that we need.

If you do not like the person you are, there is a solution for that. Get born again and become a new creation in Christ. We are being conformed to the image of Jesus.

I did not like the person I was before I got saved. But then when I invited Jesus into my life, I became a new person.

2 Cor. 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.
 
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Many of us have had desires that have caused us to feel ashamed of ourselves, but you can live with that eventually. If you were to act upon your desires, that would not be the healthiest thing you could do and that would be far harder for you to ever forgive yourself for.

Sometimes when we are confused, troubled, it is hard to understand the feelings that we have. Please try hard not to act upon your desires though, because they are not feelings that God would want you to act upon.

We each have our own shame, none of us is without sin. You have no way of knowing what I or anyone else here has done to grieve God, either before handing their lives over to His care, or since having taken the name of Christian. God knows all our sin and he forgives us for it, so long as we repent and make the conscious effort daily to turn away from Sin.

I admire your honesty, it takes a lot of courage to admit to having sexual feelings for animals, I pray that you will find peace of mind concerning these desires.
 
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i'm 18 and dont really feel hormonal, i dont have mood swings or violent behaviour. as i say i have prayed for salvation but these feeleings are becomming overpowering now. i lock myself away in my room everyday for my fears of the world outside and what i could do to it. i need for it all to stop and i need it all to stop now. its killing me :(
 
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Well, I know that when I willfully sin knowing it's wrong, it hurts bad to know that I am betraying the one that has shown a great love for me.
I guess that feels the same for you too.
Every sin I see in myself, I see as a burden on Christs' shoulders. I eventually come to the conclusion that I my entire life is a burden, and I'm working against Him rather than with him if I willfully give in to what I know to be right.

It gives glory to Gods power to overcome it, and it'll restore you to the inner happiness that a Christian life provides, so be strong to know that YOU CAN get better, and by doing so you'll kick sand in the devils face when his grip is released from your life. yess!

A few useful things I would advise is to look for a website banning firewall....dunno if that'll be of any use, I'm guessing. Occupy your mind all the time, plan things so that your day is full of things you like doing other than this thing. When you're tempted have a pray, in faith.

I wish you the best of luck - sooo difficult to deal with, and the other posters are right..it's an inner struggle!
 
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Looking4Help said:
i've been struggleing with a problem for most of my life but now things are really starting to get on top of me :( i have prayed and asked god for a way for these feelings to disapear but they are just geting stronger and stronger. im seeking help via the internet because im so ashamed. i cant talk to anyone about this. i find myself aroused by animals, specifically dogs. i want theses feeling to go away so bad ive had thoughts of suicide. im sure the world would be a better place without "freaks" like me in it. Can i get help for this? ive tried soo hard to make them go away! Please if you can help at all, do so before i do something stupid.

Thanks

Harlan

Hey! Thanks for coming to us for help. Looking to the people of God to guide you with something like this is the right thing to do. God can totally heal you of this.

Most of the time, this kind of obsession is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, and not a character flaw. A psychiatrist could evaluate your problem and help you decide on a course of treatment. The doctor wouldn't even be shocked by your problem, he's probably seen it before.

And, because it is caused by a brain problem, you can't make it go away by the force of your will. It's still sin, but you can't change it without treatment.

But the best news of all is that God will forgive you for even this sin, no matter how many times you've done it.

Are you born-again? Would you like to know how to be set free from this through a relationship with God?
 
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theres just no way i can speak to someone in real life over this problem! i wouldnt have the nerve to speak it alout, its hard to type it.....

is there perhaps online medication i can get/order?

i really cant talk with anyone on the outside... im falling apart... ive started to drink and it helps for a little while but then the feelings come back...
 
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sup... sorry i don't even know if you're a guy or a gal... but any way...

The Lord is guiding you to calmer waters. when you overcome this struggle in your life, you will be so much closer to God and have so much more joy and peace in your life. The Lord allows you to suffer and to be tempted in order to chasten you and let you rely on His strength and not your own.
Why the almighty God lets you go through such torment no one can say. But He will never leave you nor forsake you. Whatever you're imagining or whatever you're watching God is right there with you knowing your every action.
I'm struggling with an immoral attraction to sin as well. With me its for other guys - (i'm a guy). We both know its sinful, but the desire is still there. What can you do?
I have prayed and cried out to God for deliverance and for freedom from the pain, but it never seemed to come.
I eventually confessed to another much wiser christian and she prayed for me and i had a peace and release from the temptation. PRAYER is our greatest weapon against the enemy. Its a direct link to the commander of the army of the Lord, who is chief of the spiritual war going on over each one of our lives. God is greater than anyone or anything, He will deliver you. But in His own time and in His own way. Whatever He wants you to learn and discover about His grace, you will one day learn. Be patient.
Please pray for an oppurtunity to talk to another Chritian who you trust and will comfort and pray for you. It is so hard and i imagine you really don't want to. I did not want to tell any one my 'secret sin', but i prayed for some one to talk to for years, then last year God brougt someone into my life. Halelujah.
Do not forsake the Lord, for He will never forsake you.
Don't try justify your sin. You know its wrong. Flee from it.
After every valley there is a beautiful mountain. Don't stop climbing - no matter what satan throws at you.
Read Romans 5:6
Know and experience the grace of our God.
 
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i dont know if you're still posting here, as this topic seems like it might be a bit old (it's down on the list on the first page) but i hope you're still reading.
dont think that you're a freak! putting yourself down isnt going to help. i cant definatly understand your embaressment to go to a doctor in real life. you may want to search for medical help on the internet or such. try www.goaskalice.com and maybe write her a message in the 'sexual questions' section. as long as you're sincere she will answer. also, there is a tv show here in canada (i dont know where youl ive or if you have any like it) and people call in with their questions and the woman answers them. you dont have to give a name or where're you're from. it would be best to go find some help from a therapist but i can understand the embaressment. maybe if you could hold phone conversations with one?
i'm a wiccan... and with every prayer, spell or request we make we have to 'act in accord' which is basically, if you do a spell to get a job, you have to go look for a job, not expect someone to show up at your door and ask you for one lol. you pray, but i believe you also have to at least attempt to help yourself for god to fully help you. this is a great step :) i hope things are getting better for you!
 
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s'ok im not from NC *phew* things have been better the last couple of days :D i think im getting better :D thank you to all the kind people who helped me and especially the lady who reccomended ask alice, i have sent her corrispondance and hope she replys. thank you all for your help..... i feel i can cope again :D
good will to all
 
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hey :) i'm glad you're feeling better! i really hope things start getting better for you! alice might take a while to reply, but look back through her other correspondances if you didnt already. you might find one that relates to your problem in a way that could be helpful =o)
glad i could help

blessed be :)
 
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Looking4Help said:
theres just no way i can speak to someone in real life over this problem! i wouldnt have the nerve to speak it alout, its hard to type it.....

is there perhaps online medication i can get/order?

i really cant talk with anyone on the outside... im falling apart... ive started to drink and it helps for a little while but then the feelings come back...

On the outside of what?

No, there is no medication you can order over the internet for this problem. You need a prescription. You have to go to a psychiatrist if you are going to get relief from this.
 
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eliseb said:
As we begin to walk more with God you will be attacked!

What does that mean? i dont want to be attacked for my "illness" by asking for gods help. im seeking salvation not persucution! i just want it to be a thing of the past just between me and god. nobody i know in real life. they could never forgive :(
 
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wot eliseb means is that the closer you get to God and the greater our relationship is with Him, the more satan wants to destroy us and deceive us and ruin that excellent relationship - you could call them attacks.
you're seeking salvation. believe in the power and grace of God who raised Jesus from the dead, and you will be saved for all time.
as for your persecution from your 'illness' persevere and endure it. God is teaching you all sorts of things. patience dependance, He will show you that you have no strength to overcome this by yourself, or even by the things of this world, because in God alone do we have salvation. do not stop praying, i will not stop praying for you either. you want an easy quick fix out. God can work like that, but often He lets you learn the hardway, when its over - and it will be one day - you will understand that what you went through was for a perfectly good reason. and if you don't understand then you just have to accept that God knows best.
as much as you want this to be between you and God, keep praying for someone who you can talk to. just ask God to bring someone into your life that you can share these trials with. i never wanted to, i was so ashamed and disgusted at myself I could never tell another soul what i did and had done. but i still asked for a change of heart and circumstance and the Almighty God brought a wise lady into my life and i confessed everythingto her. confession was the tool that God used to heal me. it can and will heal you too.

...pray without ceasing. 1 Thessalonians 5:17

Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. James 5:16

For when we were still without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:6
 
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