wonderwaleye said:
Dear Snoochface
I cannot tell you why I write the things I do or what the outcome will be or even who the folks will be that these words will effect.
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As I said to you before, we should agree to disagree at this point. I did not reply to your last post, so I'm not sure what your intention is with this final message to me. It doesn't really matter - I disagree with your stance, and you clearly disagree with mine. Can we please leave it at that?
Next comments are directed to forgivin, the original poster:
Thank you for clarifying the situation with additional details. Clearly, your cousin embezzled funds from not just one company, but several, in order to finance his personal bills, investments, vacations, and overall lifestyle.
While this
could be prosecuted in a court of law, I understand the hesitation. He is family and he could be bipolar.
My personal opinion stands: I don't think it's necessary for him to apologize in order for the family to forgive him. Forgiveness is for the forgiv
er, not for the forgiv
ee.
But forgiveness does not mean that he should be allowed to continue stealing from these companies, putting the businesses and the people behind them at risk for their own financial security. He should be removed from his position in the company. His access to the finances should be terminated. And I feel the family should help him get on the proper medication for his illness and help him realize that he really does need medical or psychiatric assistance, if at all possible.
As for prosecution, it's a huge sum of money we are talking about - close to a million dollars - and if convicted he would very likely go to jail for a number of years. The decision to prosecute or not depends on a number of factors. The owners of the businesses have a fiduciary responsibility to their customers, venders, and employees to run the companies ethically and with good business sense. There is also a binding agreement with the SEC, if the companies are incorporated. I think the owners need to speak to a lawyer to determine their own liability if they do not prosecute, and make the decision from there.
It is the correct Christian thing to do to forgive this person. But forgiveness does not mean allowing his actions to continue, or to hurt so many others in the company.
Here are some scripture references for you.
Matthew 6:12 "And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors."
Matthew 6:14-15 "For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions."
Matthew 18:21-22 "Then Peter came and said to Him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven."
(After the parable of the wicked slave)
Matthew 18:35 ""My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart."
Mark 11:25 "Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions."
We ARE to rebuke our brothers who sin.
Luke 17:3-4 "Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, 'I repent,' forgive him."
Matthew 7:12 "In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets."
And regarding the law and prosecution...
Romans 13:1-2 "Every person is to be in subjection to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those which exist are established by God. Therefore whoever resists authority has opposed the ordinance of God; and they who have opposed will receive condemnation upon themselves."
Romans 13:5-8 "Therefore it is necessary to be in subjection, not only because of wrath, but also for conscience' sake. For because of this you also pay taxes, for rulers are servants of God, devoting themselves to this very thing. Render to all what is due them: tax to whom tax is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honor to whom honor. Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law."
Romans 13:10 "Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law."