please help

[julietheartist]

Dear Brokengirl,

It was a brave thing for you to come her and share your heart asking for help. I feel for you as I've been in your shoes. I so desperately wanted a relationship(s) with guys to work that I would do anything to be loved by them. They all ended in heartache until I gave my life to the lover of my soul.

That desire, passion and emptiness you are experiencing is a void that is in every person. It's like a hole in your soul that can only be filled with God. He designed us that way. You're very special to Him, He formed you in your mothers womb & knows the number of hairs on your head. He created you to have a relationship with you. Kinda like the one you you thought you had with the boyfriend, only SO MUCH MORE. It just doesn't work when we try to put anything but God into that hole in our soul. Believe me I tried EVERYTHING. He designed us that way. NOTHING will fill or fit in it except for Him. When you ask Jesus to come into your heart & allow Him to fill that void, you will find peace, an overwelming sense of being loved & cared for, you will also experience Him caring & providing for you like a heavenly Father that wants only the BEST for his brokengirl. He wants to wrap His arms around her and pull her close to Him and be your best friend FOREVER. He wants to wipe away those tears.

Sounds kinda crazy, maybe, but it's real & He's alive. He loves you so much. He died for you. You see He loved us enough that He gave us the right to choose what we want to do in life. We can choose Him and His ways or we can choose to not follow Him or obey Him. He loves us enough to let us choose what we want to do. He desires that you choose Him, but will not force you too. His rules are not to keep us from having something, they are actually to protect us and when we follow them we actually gain so much more than what we ever could dream or imagine. He also offers us freely eternal life spent with Him.

You can talk to Him anytime. He's always with you & He understands & even knows your pain & heartache. He's right there with you now. I encourage you to ask Him to help you & reveal yourself to Him. He's so faithful & will when you ask Him too. He longs to mend your broken heart & bind up your wounds. He will turn your mourning & sadness into joy and dancing if you give Him a chance.

I also encourage you to pick up His handbook for us, the Bible & start reading the New Testament. Matthew is a very good place to start and work your way through til the end. Read a chapter or two a day & learn about Him. He gave us the Bible to get to know Him, who He is, how much He loves & so much more. It has answers for every and any question you can imagine. It'll tell you all about Jesus & He's the One that will make a difference in your life. I guarantee if you do this, that you will find the love of your life, the lover of your soul & experience true love like you never have. The Bible is also full of promises from God to us that obey Him & for those that don't obey. There is even a scripture that says that He will give you the desires of your heart when you seek Him & obey Him.

If you'd like to talk, please PM me. I'm praying, we're all praying for you brokenone that one day you will know Him intimately, fall in love with Him & be whole. He loves you very much & so do we.

In His love,
Julie

 

[scattycat]

i really really need help. its a long story.. but here goes...

i started seeing a really great guy last october. things were going really well and we were soo in love. he even asked me to marry him and we made plans to move in together and have a family and things like that.
around the end of june we started arguing... and he confessed that he got drunk one night and cheated on me. i was angry and heartbroken, but after awhile i accepted that he had made a mistake and forgave him. he said he still loved me but he couldnt take me back after what he did. i asked why not and he said he couldnt live with what he'd done to me. soon after he started treating me like he barely knew me. it hurt so much.
i tried talking with him to reason with him and see if we could try again but he just wouldnt go for it. we still planned to move in together later in the year. he had a conversation with one of my best friends and he told her that he was still in love with me and was going to ask me to marry him again when we lived together and that he hides his feelings for me because thats just how he is. that made me soooo happy u have no idea... but i dunno.... the way he acts towards me.. it doesnt feel like he loves me at all.. he makes mean comments and flirts with other girls constantly.. i dont know what to think..
i still love him so much i cry over him every single day. im so depressed and it feels like i'll never be okay again... i just cant pick myself up and move on and i dont know what to do anymore and then i thought "hey i could sell my soul to satan" and i know that sounds REALLY stupid but i just feel like im at the end of my rope and theres nowhere else to turn and no one understands ... i keep thinking that its the way to get what i really want, which is to be with him... but then im so afraid that if i do it i would just get screwed over big time in the end... and there would be no turning back.. but im so lost and lonely without him i would do anything to have him back. but i dont want to resort to losing my soul but im afraid one day ill be pushed too hard and i'll end up doing it please someone just help me and talk me out of it i dont know what to do anymore i dont want people to think im stupid or anything but i jus felt i should talk to ppl who mite understand before i do something drastic please help

i know this isnt the same, but i had a dream that my long term boyf did that to me and i hurt so bad. i felt like i had died and i was in such pain. so to feel this for real must be awful. i think the best advice i can give is that u talk to him. face to face, sit down as the adults u r, and have a real look at ur relationship. i woiuld be hesitant to trust him again, but if he is the 'one' u will know. i really hope u will be ok and that he is all u wish for. x

 

[Phospho]

I have read all the posts that have come from your original cry for help, and out of all of them, you only really got two or three good responses (not that I am putting anyone down, please don't get me wrong). I have been there...all i did was hurt...all I could do was drive my car, and cry; called in sick at work, stayed home and cried; I couldn't really eat, sleep, or do anything but just lay around and cry, it hurt that bad.

My heart was given freely to someone, and she ripped it out of my chest, beat it, spit on it, threw it down on the ground and stomped on it...that's what it felt like, anyway. First of all, and most importantly, the best thing that you could do with yourself right now is make your relationship with God a good solid one. If you don't have one yet, then you need to start - right now...if you need help, send me a private message and I'll help you any way that I can.

You probably are not going to do anything, because you are allowing your emotions to rule you right now. I need to tell you that if you continue to do so, you are going to wind up in a bad place that you don't really want to go to. I see it almost every day.

The best advise anyone could give you right now is this: ignore what you feel, stop living by your emotions. Once you get yourself squared away emotionally, only then will you be able to make any head-way. As long as you remain on that emotional roller-coaster, you will ignore any and all advice that is given to you simply because that is not what your emotions are telling you that you want to do. That is a hard thing to do, especially if you are a co-dependent person...do you understand what that means?

you need to put God first in your life, make Him your love right now and He will manifest Himself to you in a very real way when you follow after Him with all your heart. If you don't, you could end up like those girls I see coming to visit inmates every weekend...their husbands who are in custody because they beat down their wives, some almost to death...and I ask them, "Why in the world are you here visiting this scum?" Do you know what the answer is almost 100% of the time? "Because I love him!"

My next comment is always this..."Love is like faith, if there are no actions demonstrating your professed faith, then there is no faith...you are lying. So if there is no actions demonstrating any kind of love from him, then that profession of love is empty...a lie." You cannot make someone love you, they either do, or they do not.

You have your whole life ahead of you, thinking of killing yourself or giving in to satan are not answers...they are only compounded problems with worse end results. If you feel that much "in love" with this guy, then you need to separate and cut off all ties to him immediately until you no longer feel like that. Biologically induced chemical high's from relationships are dangerous until you are old enough to learn to deal with them...they are not reality. They feel real, oh how I know that!!! But reality is not based upon feelings, reality is based upon actions.

Your mind is being clouded to the real truth of the situation right now because of your runaway emotions. Get away, go find a church with a retreat coming up and go...focus on God and get away from this guy. Please, please, please don't ruin your life and throw it away, you are far too young for that. Not to affend, but your post demonstrates that you are not thinking clearly and rationally right now...try to, and focus, think of the future.

I hope that helped somewhat...if you think I can help anymore, don't hesitate to PM me.

Blessings!