Please help!! I need an advise from the smart christian brothers, and siters!Should I

[davito]

First of all I want to make it very breaf. I have had a rough life since I was a little kid, sometimes I try to look at my future and no matter how much faith and how positive I will be, I see my future dark. I am 24 years old male and every time I look at my pass I just see failure and failure. I had try to be a good student and I have never be able to acomplish it because I feel I am inferior to society. I dont know what to do with my life, I feel loss.

I am studying Biology at the moment because I want to get into the medical field in the future and probably be a doctor and touch many people lives. But, I just keep failing and failing my GPA is very low and I dont see how I will make my dream possible. I pray every day so God can give me wisdom. I usually have to sacrifice twice as hard or even harder as a regular person in order to have a good grade. This major had made me even more sad, and hopeless.I am praying to God every day so I dont lose my faith, I cry all the time because I feel in one time or another I will lose my faith, I need to be a strong person.

I concider myselft a very good person, I make constants mistakes like everyone else, but when I look at my life I see myself as a very good person. I try people good, I tend not to judge others, and I am a very humanitary person that like to help and touch people souls. I dont know why life treat me this way. I feel miserable, when I question God because we cant question God, But I feel confuse and I dont see any exit. Sometime I just want is to live in the streets or in the wood. I dont know what I am doing wrong. I dont know if I am recieving a punishment for somthing that probably God didnt like in my life. I try to be a better person every day and every moment. But, I am not a bad person. Now I live many days with the fear that I will do somthing bad and it will make God mad and probably I will recieved more punishment.

My question is: What should I do in this situation?How should I approach to it?How can my faith grow instead of losing it like it happening to me right now? Should I keep trying or should I try another major? I dont see nothing will change if I keep trying and trying like I have done, because I had always be a bad student and I keep following the same pattern, I am not smart enough, I feel like a loser. I have had faith, but I can continue having more faith that everithing will change because I am getting older and older and my parents are getting old as well.I must take a decision soon.Also, I pray to God, so he can put new dream in my heart but I dont see any other career or major that can fit me. I hope I can see a miracle or a relevation in my life.

Please advise me all of you christian brothers and sisters, I love you all.

Thanks
God bless you!

 

[drich0150]

If your faith is completely dependent on your success, or your ability to easily accomplish whatever you set out to do, then what you have isn't the type of "Faith" we need to have a relationship with God to begin with. We as Christians are told to expect hardship, and trials in this life Because we follow Jesus.. So if you are indeed living your life in a manor that glorifies God you will face hard times..

Now if our "faith" is supposed to be based on our comfort of living, then how are we expected to endure these hardships? This type of "faith" is rooted in conditional love.. I'll Love you, but first you buy me a car, or Give me a girlfriend, or make me a rich Doctor so I can find my own girlfriend, and if you don't, then I'm not so sure I can believe in a God like that...

How is this "faith" or Loving God with all of our being?

You asked for wisdom. First know wisdom and Knowledge are not the same thing. Knowledge can be found in books, Wisdom comes from living life, and the most coveted wisdom comes from living a particularly hard life.. When you pray for wisdom you're praying for difficult experiences that over time that will produce wisdom. When we pray for things like wisdom and patiences God doesn't send an angel while we sleep to come and sprinkle magic wisdom dust on our heads.. We obtain wisdom by earning it. The normal course of earning wisdom has a person enduring alot of hardship and trials...

If your not ready for true "wisdom" yet then maybe ask God to help you forge a true relationship formed in a Love Based Faith.. This isn't going to be a magical moment either, you will have to work to earn this too, but once you have established a Love Based Faith in God all other (Spiritual) things become obtainable.

 

[DreamsAreFree]

You say you have had a hard life ... often people who have difficult backgrounds make the best doctors, social workers, counselors ... It is true that some people need to work harder than others for the same results. The question there is, are you prepared to put the effort required into it. Medicine is a long study and if you aren't sure you can do it for that long, maybe you would prefer something like social work? Maybe talk to a career's advisor about that? The only thing with changing courses is to ask yourself if you will regret it in future of whether it is worth the battle now for the end goal.

As for mistakes ... we all make them. We must look ahead. We cannot change the past, only learn from it. If you are struggling to let go of it then maybe counselling will help you work through things.

All the best.

 

[davito]

If your faith is completely dependent on your success, or your ability to easily accomplish whatever you set out to do, then what you have isn't the type of "Faith" we need to have a relationship with God to begin with. We as Christians are told to expect hardship, and trials in this life Because we follow Jesus.. So if you are indeed living your life in a manor that glorifies God you will face hard times..

Now if our "faith" is supposed to be based on our comfort of living, then how are we expected to endure these hardships? This type of "faith" is rooted in conditional love.. I'll Love you, but first you buy me a car, or Give me a girlfriend, or make me a rich Doctor so I can find my own girlfriend, and if you don't, then I'm not so sure I can believe in a God like that...

How is this "faith" or Loving God with all of our being?

You asked for wisdom. First know wisdom and Knowledge are not the same thing. Knowledge can be found in books, Wisdom comes from living life, and the most coveted wisdom comes from living a particularly hard life.. When you pray for wisdom you're praying for difficult experiences that over time that will produce wisdom. When we pray for things like wisdom and patiences God doesn't send an angel while we sleep to come and sprinkle magic wisdom dust on our heads.. We obtain wisdom by earning it. The normal course of earning wisdom has a person enduring alot of hardship and trials...

If your not ready for true "wisdom" yet then maybe ask God to help you forge a true relationship formed in a Love Based Faith.. This isn't going to be a magical moment either, you will have to work to earn this too, but once you have established a Love Based Faith in God all other (Spiritual) things become obtainable.

Thats very interesting and smart words of you thanks for the advise. I had being trying to be strong through all this years. Must of the time society rob your faith. I just want to be useful in society but I dont know how to open doors of oportunities, I have try hard enough till the point my health had been in danger but I still keep failing. I have to decide if it is my health or my future. I will keep having a strong relationship with God, but I pray for more faith everiday, and a better relationship with him and a better me.

Thanks!!

 

[davito]

You say you have had a hard life ... often people who have difficult backgrounds make the best doctors, social workers, counselors ... It is true that some people need to work harder than others for the same results. The question there is, are you prepared to put the effort required into it. Medicine is a long study and if you aren't sure you can do it for that long, maybe you would prefer something like social work? Maybe talk to a career's advisor about that? The only thing with changing courses is to ask yourself if you will regret it in future of whether it is worth the battle now for the end goal.

As for mistakes ... we all make them. We must look ahead. We cannot change the past, only learn from it. If you are struggling to let go of it then maybe counselling will help you work through things.

All the best.

Thanks! thats true that difficult situations make people better, but I have come to the point that I have put my health in risk because I have sacrifice a lottt. Now I need to decide different plans for my future so I can be a productive person.

Thanks

 

[andreha]

Well, we all have made mistakes in the past, but it all serves a purpose. I do believe the Lord has wonderful plans for you. You have a very tender, loving and gentle heart. So much so that I do believe there is a reason you found it hard to be successful with your studies. I believe God has a higher calling for you than being a doctor. I believe He could be calling you to serve Him directly. People like you, who have so much love, are certainly the type of people He wants to serve Him directly, and no earthly master (as in regular work). People of your caliber are being called to serve God and His children full time. Remember, God loves you with a mighty passion. The love you show others, by definition, you show Him. He can only show it back to you. There are many people in the world who can do with the kind of love that you are capable of giving.

So, smile, and realise that God is already drawing you closer to His heart.

 

[davito]

Well, we all have made mistakes in the past, but it all serves a purpose. I do believe the Lord has wonderful plans for you. You have a very tender, loving and gentle heart. So much so that I do believe there is a reason you found it hard to be successful with your studies. I believe God has a higher calling for you than being a doctor. I believe He could be calling you to serve Him directly. People like you, who have so much love, are certainly the type of people He wants to serve Him directly, and no earthly master (as in regular work). People of your caliber are being called to serve God and His children full time. Remember, God loves you with a mighty passion. The love you show others, by definition, you show Him. He can only show it back to you. There are many people in the world who can do with the kind of love that you are capable of giving.

So, smile, and realise that God is already drawing you closer to His heart.

Oh, thats very sweet from you. Well, I will keep my faith and I will look forward to the future. Since, I was a little kid I have felt I am different and I have feel infirior to society and unproductive. I saw some doctors when I was a kid and they say I have learning disabilities. But, I have never pay atention to that I have being failing in school and life and I have stand up all the time. But, now it has to the point where I have fail so much in school that I just feel I am in the same place. I want to be productive and I am praying so the lord can put new dream and goals in my heart if he think what I am doing is wrong. But, still nothing is clear in my mind or my heart.

Thanks!!
God bless you!!!

 

[Sketcher]

What are you good at?

 

[davito]

What are you good at?

I wish I knew. I dont know! I have try to figure out for years and years but nothing.

 

[drich0150]

We are not all able to be Doctors no matter how much our mothers want us to be. You can be a very productive member of society and not be a doctor. I have a learning disability too.. I still have a hard time understanding what I read, and have alot of trouble with spelling and grammar too, and don't even get me started on math.. But despite all of my draw backs I know I can be an asset to the christian community, if I choose to be..

I know being a productive member of the "christian" community doesn't offer the same rank, title or prestige as being a wealthy Doctor does to the people in your home town.. But, that's the point. Your going to have to decide who your are going to live for.. Are you going to live your life in pursuit of a dream that may make you a king among men?? Or will you humble yourself, and use the gifts or gift, that God gave you no matter how small or meager? If you live for God then no matter what He has planned for you you will find happiness.. If you live for yourself and even if you obtain your crown, and become a doctor, you will still not be able to buy happiness..

What your chasing is an illusion.. Being "Productive member of society" and finding happiness isn't always the same thing.. Saul was a very productive member of the Jewish priests that he served. (A very coveted position in that society.) Even so, He didn't know Jesus.. Now Saul, fell out of favor of the members of his society when he Became the apostle Paul, but He served the Lord well.. Saul, was much happier with himself when He Became Paul, and started his service to the Lord..

If working for yourself and "society" is not going as planned then try and turn you life completely over to God.. Start by asking the Lord to help you strengthen the relationship you have with him.. Ask for the Holy Spirit, and ask for direction for your life.. One that has you serving him. Even if it means you don't get to become a doctor.. Keep asking until you get what you want!