Planning question

[dano488]

Hey guys

I've been with my girlfriend Lauren since November 2009 and planning to ask her to be my wife (I know she's gonna say yes) She said she didn't want to get married until she finished grad school, which she now did. So now I need to figure out how to pop the question and ask. I've told her to drop the marriage subject so I can throw her off guard and catch her by surprise, and she agreed. I recently got the ring, but I'm having a hard time figuring out how to do It's gonna happen by Christmas. Any guys have a hard time planning on how to propose

 

[mina]

My husband had the ring and carried it around for like a month or so waiting for the right moment. I'm glad he put a lot of thought into it. Congrats to you!

 

[iambren]

Youtube has tons of ideas, type in proposals. They have plenty of ideas but I would prefer it be kept simple. I mean, it's about your embarking on a future NOT how great a production you can make.
She'll cry whenever you give it to her.

 

[HorsieJuice]

Where do you live?

 

[iambren]

Me? Ohio

 

[HorsieJuice]

Me? Ohio

No, I meant the OP.

It's tough to recommend he do it at, say, Niagara Falls if he lives in Phoenix.

 

[Luther073082]

Hey guys

I've been with my girlfriend Lauren since November 2009 and planning to ask her to be my wife (I know she's gonna say yes) She said she didn't want to get married until she finished grad school, which she now did. So now I need to figure out how to pop the question and ask. I've told her to drop the marriage subject so I can throw her off guard and catch her by surprise, and she agreed. I recently got the ring, but I'm having a hard time figuring out how to do It's gonna happen by Christmas. Any guys have a hard time planning on how to propose

My advice is KISS

Keep it simple stupid.

I don't know why so many guys put so much effort into these overly complex ways of asking a girl to marry them. It is almost like they feel that the more complex their plan is the more the girl will want to marry them and hence the higher probability of saying yes. But that is of course ridiculous.

The thing is the more complex your plan the more things that can go wrong. And I've never heard of someone who had a complex plan where everything went right.

Mark my words if you set up some complex plan where you will be at this place and a giant sign will light up to ask her and fireworks will go off and dolphins will jump out of the water when she says yes something WILL go wrong. You'll set all the stuff up and she'll cancel because she's sick or something or one of the fireworks will hit either you or her and set you on fire and you'll have to roll on the ground or the trusty steed you entrusted the ring to and where going to wisk her away on will catch the sent of a female horse and run off to go ask her to marry him.

If you make it complex it will go wrong.

Take her out someplace nice or take her to a favorite location of the two of you, get down on one knee with the box and ask her. Simple and easy

 

[Inkachu]

Tailor your proposal to your future wife! What does she love? What's she into? Think about a setting that would mean a lot to her (a park at sunset? a museum? a sports arena? a waterfall?) and work from there. Do you want to "announce" it in a fun way, like on a TV screen or written on a cake, or do you just want to be alone with her and allow the words to come to you? Think about your future wife, and your unique, special relationship with her. Is there a spot where you have special memories from early in your courtship? Is there a song you could have playing that would be sentimental for both of you?

It's really NOT that hard, guys lol. I know that, for myself, just seeing my husband put a lot of effort and thought into something, and watching HIM be excited about a surprise for me... that means so much more to me than the actual surprise or gift It's being made to feel special, knowing he really tried and thought about me, that's what matters.

If you're truly one of these completely non-romantic types, then just do your best and good luck, lol.

 

[dano488]

I've got it figured out. We're going to a party at a friend's place, which is conveniently where I first met her. First I'm taking her to Applebee''s (our first date) before the party. At the end of the night when we're leaving, I'm gonna just tell her that I love her, that I couldn't imagine my life without her, and that I want to try loving her as Christ loves the church for the rest of my life. Then I'm gonna get down on one knee and give her the ring

 

[mina]

Congrats! Hope it all goes beautifully!

 

[filoco]

Try and maintain the surprise as long as possible. The surprise of the proposal is the largest part of the fun and romance. If your girlfriend is suspicious, work extra hard to find a way to make it a surprise to keep it fun.