Other than the one misunderstanding Mei's mother had, prompting her to question "Did the red peony bloom?", the movie Turning Red had nothing to do with the menstrual aspect of puberty. It was all about the psychological, hormonal, cultural, and personality aspects of that phase of life for a young girl.
Yes. Mei never actually has her period in the movie. OTOH, her friend Priya is subtly shown to already be menstruating (she has deodorant, pads, and the only budding figure of the group).
But the movie states outright that the red panda represents the emotions and assertiveness that women in general and Asian women in particular are taught to repress. It was given to them to fight bandits while their men were away...that's clearly not menstruation or even an analogy or metaphor for menstruation. Also, Meilin's clearly menopausal Grandmother Wu still had her red panda. Not menstruation.
We can remove the red panda entirely from the story, and all the essential aspects are still there:
Mei, as a young teen, is already living a secret double life. Her social life includes friends her mother wouldn't approve of, she likes boys, she likes dancing, she likes loud music.
She is certainly heading for a confrontation with her over-controlling mother, and that confrontation holds the possibility of creating a permanent rift that neither of them wants.
As loving (but over controlling) as Mei's mother is, Ming still fails to talk to Mei about what happens growing into puberty. Here was a telling part of the movie to me:
Jin: "What has your mother told you about her panda?"
Mei: "
Nothing."
Of course, the reaction of most viewers has been incredulity that Ming had not far earlier told Mei that red pandas ran in the family...but parents fail to share with their children their own experiences of the stress of puberty
all the time.
Actually, I believe the intended audience for this movie are Millennials who were young teens in the early 2000s and have pre-teens themselves right now. The movie pointedly evokes the memories of these Millennials of their times and experiences in those years and warns them: "Start talking to your children
now about the awkwardness, the stress, the emotions (yes, and girls' periods) they are about to meet.
As a Christian, there are a couple of bible verses that I was reminded of:
"
Parents, do not provoke your children to anger."
That battle scene between Mei and Ming was somewhat funny, but also very uncomfortable. Mei had been overcome by her anger--anger provoked by Ming. Such anger and the inability to manage it is characteristic of puberty. Mei was so overcome by her anger that she essentially lost control, doing everything she can to strike Ming, and in doing so, risked permanently damaging her relationship with her mother, which the audience knows she does not want to do.
And the audience realizes this is a replay of the battle that Ming had had with Grandmother Wu, which had been so ferocious in unbridled anger that Ming had physically scarred Wu and had destroyed
their relationship. That was the real generational curse that was being threatened to extend to yet another generation.
Mei never intended to be a rebel. In the beginning of the movie, she wanted to be a good girl for her family, and at the end, she still wanted to be a good girl for her family. But she was growing up and needed room to grow, yet she was still willing to grow in ways that kept her close to her family.
Also, "
Train up your children in the way they are to go, and when they are older, they will not depart from it."
Christians may not have liked it, but the movie displayed parents who were very deliberate and consistent about making their religion real every day in their own family life and inclusive of their children. Religion was not a once-a-week thing, and it wasn't something where adults went one place and kids were gathered somewhere else. Religion was a family thing, an every day thing, real enough that it guided the way their parents viewed the world.