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Please pray for me. I'm a college student struggling with a creepy professor who keeps sneaking sexual violence into every single class. Even after I talked to her about it a little, and she seemed responsive, it was back in the very next class! This time, she acted like I was crazy, and even tried to humiliate me and make me look silly in front of the whole class. There is something wrong with her. I mean, who does this, and for what purpose? I let her think what she wanted of my background, without bringing up religion or morality, so I'm particularly shocked...I almost think it's malicious/extremely callous.

Dropping the class isn't an option as this is my last semester, and I'm going to grad school in the fall.

And keep in mind, this is an English class (and no, not even literature). Yet, for no reason at all, she keeps choosing really hideous topics, and even when the topic itself isn't remotely related to perversion, she still manages to weave it in somehow. The worst part is probably that she doesn't treat it with any seriousness - she talks about it as if it's nothing, and then laughs and makes jokes (and sick, sick personal revelations - not about things she's done, but how she feels...preferences....SO gross). This has a demonically normalizing effect on the subject itself, which is heinous beyond words. I really sense the presence of the devil in this. Please pray for the situation, and that I know what to do as I struggle through it. I almost spun off the rails with anger and disgust today. I know that's what the devil wants. I need to figure out what to do...
 

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Please pray for me. I'm a college student struggling with a creepy professor who keeps sneaking sexual violence into every single class. Even after I talked to her about it a little, and she seemed responsive, it was back in the very next class! This time, she acted like I was crazy, and even tried to humiliate me and make me look silly in front of the whole class. There is something wrong with her. I mean, who does this, and for what purpose? I let her think what she wanted of my background, without bringing up religion or morality, so I'm particularly shocked...I almost think it's malicious/extremely callous.

Dropping the class isn't an option as this is my last semester, and I'm going to grad school in the fall.

And keep in mind, this is an English class (and no, not even literature). Yet, for no reason at all, she keeps choosing really hideous topics, and even when the topic itself isn't remotely related to perversion, she still manages to weave it in somehow. The worst part is probably that she doesn't treat it with any seriousness - she talks about it as if it's nothing, and then laughs and makes jokes (and sick, sick personal revelations - not about things she's done, but how she feels...preferences....SO gross). This has a demonically normalizing effect on the subject itself, which is heinous beyond words. I really sense the presence of the devil in this. Please pray for the situation, and that I know what to do as I struggle through it. I almost spun off the rails with anger and disgust today. I know that's what the devil wants. I need to figure out what to do...

I would express your concerns to the Dean.
 
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Thank you so much! Yes, I'm definitely going to the dean today, and yes, she is just as definitely crazy.

The encouragement and affirmation really helps, though. It's very hard standing up for what's right - and sane - today, especially on a state university campus. People are not rational. They'll defend the Muslims, who are incomparably more extreme, yet belittle Christians because we're part of the same culture, and thus, exempt from "tolerance." This is only one of many, many issues I've struggled with as a student. It's especially frustrating because this woman said one thing and then did another.

Though I'm doing a PhD in English come fall, so I hope I don't go crazy, too!
 
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I just had an appointment with someone in the department about this, and she offered a few suggestions. She tried to dissuade me from going to the dean, which makes me wonder if she's friends with this instructor. But I just saw that she's posted a lowered grade for me - a B for a writing assignment, which is basically unheard of for me. I even had a paper read at a conference in October, and I constantly get rave reviews on my papers, so I find it very hard to believe that this is truly representative of my work. I was furious, but I'm trying to leave this in God's hands. I emailed my advisor, but she's out of the office until Monday, when the next class is. I also emailed the woman I spoke to with the update (she asked for an email for some other info, anyway). I'm going to call the dept office tomorrow, to find out what I need to do to report things to the dean.

Clearly, there's something wrong with this instructor. How do you harp on incessantly on a subject like this, anyway? These days? At the very least, she should be concerned about who might be in her class and how they might be affected. Instead, she responds like a nutcase when I get upset. I keep wondering if she somehow suspected my objections were religious, and that's what she's reacting against. Because otherwise, the whole thing just looks incredibly sick, even more than the subject itself automatically makes it. I don't know what's in this person's head. Hopefully, she's "only" religion-phobic and there's nothing uglier underneath. I wear a cross, but under my clothes most of the time...

Anyway, she should be stopped. I have a certain anchor in God, but somebody else could be upset by this for entirely human reasons, and who knows how she (or he) might be affected by all this - to say nothing of her callous treatment?
 
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I just had an appointment with someone in the department about this, and she offered a few suggestions. She tried to dissuade me from going to the dean, which makes me wonder if she's friends with this instructor. But I just saw that she's posted a lowered grade for me - a B for a writing assignment, which is basically unheard of for me. I even had a paper read at a conference in October, and I constantly get rave reviews on my papers, so I find it very hard to believe that this is truly representative of my work. I was furious, but I'm trying to leave this in God's hands. I emailed my advisor, but she's out of the office until Monday, when the next class is. I also emailed the woman I spoke to with the update (she asked for an email for some other info, anyway). I'm going to call the dept office tomorrow, to find out what I need to do to report things to the dean.

Clearly, there's something wrong with this instructor. How do you harp on incessantly on a subject like this, anyway? These days? At the very least, she should be concerned about who might be in her class and how they might be affected. Instead, she responds like a nutcase when I get upset. I keep wondering if she somehow suspected my objections were religious, and that's what she's reacting against. Because otherwise, the whole thing just looks incredibly sick, even more than the subject itself automatically makes it. I don't know what's in this person's head. Hopefully, she's "only" religion-phobic and there's nothing uglier underneath. I wear a cross, but under my clothes most of the time...

Anyway, she should be stopped. I have a certain anchor in God, but somebody else could be upset by this for entirely human reasons, and who knows how she (or he) might be affected by all this - to say nothing of her callous treatment?

It is very important for you to remain calm throughout all of this. You need to stick to the facts and keep your emotions in check because if you get upset, then no good will result. If you get angry at someone for giving you a B, then it will just make things worse. It is within the realm of possibility that this paper wasn't as good as your other ones, but if you think that you deserved a higher grade, then calmly talk to them about why they gave you that grade and what you could have done better, but avoid putting them on the defensive.
 
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Heavenly Father, stop the perversion, so much is freely allowed these days and there are few to stop it. Thank You LORD for being our Protector and Defender. May this one's voice and concern be heard, and may You bring about a solution that will rectify the problem and bring peace. May there not be any firing back on this one's grade's, In Jesus Name, Amen
 
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Please pray for me. I'm a college student struggling with a creepy professor who keeps sneaking sexual violence into every single class. Even after I talked to her about it a little, and she seemed responsive, it was back in the very next class! This time, she acted like I was crazy, and even tried to humiliate me and make me look silly in front of the whole class. There is something wrong with her. I mean, who does this, and for what purpose? I let her think what she wanted of my background, without bringing up religion or morality, so I'm particularly shocked...I almost think it's malicious/extremely callous.

Dropping the class isn't an option as this is my last semester, and I'm going to grad school in the fall.

And keep in mind, this is an English class (and no, not even literature). Yet, for no reason at all, she keeps choosing really hideous topics, and even when the topic itself isn't remotely related to perversion, she still manages to weave it in somehow. The worst part is probably that she doesn't treat it with any seriousness - she talks about it as if it's nothing, and then laughs and makes jokes (and sick, sick personal revelations - not about things she's done, but how she feels...preferences....SO gross). This has a demonically normalizing effect on the subject itself, which is heinous beyond words. I really sense the presence of the devil in this. Please pray for the situation, and that I know what to do as I struggle through it. I almost spun off the rails with anger and disgust today. I know that's what the devil wants. I need to figure out what to do...

Forgive me.. I have not looked in to word for things like this.. but.. KNOW who you are in Christ and GREATER is HE that is in YOU then he thats in the world. You find a verse in His word and you quote it..you stand on it.. and the enemy when you come in shall be quite..and .. the hard part.. forgive.. always forgive and love and when you and others that know Christ the sweet sweet Holy Spirit shall convict the heart in Jesus name.. you shall find favor.. as it is written. Praying and agreeing with you
 
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I just heard back from the person in the dept - a friend of hers! Defended her and spouted a bunch of NONSENSE. (edit - I can't stand the sanctimonious nonsense.)

Meanwhile, the suicidal thoughts are getting worse. I need to get away from all of these triggers. I just checked, and I don't see how I can swap into any other English class. And I can't afford to do a summer class, even if I could put off getting my degree - they cost an arm and a leg.

I just want out of all this. I don't see how my life can ever change. I'm very close to the edge. I wish the people around me would stop piling on more contempt and more reasons to just check out once and for all.
 
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Wonderful news! It looks like I'll be able to swap out for a different class. My advisor said she can make an exception to let me take a non-English class in a similar field. I just went to the school counselor, too, and should be able to get some documentation and back up if I need it. The first session was free...the counselor said she'll look into ways my fees might be waived, since I'm on financial aid. Praying for that - and thanksgiving for being able to swap out of this bizarre prof's class!

Praise God!
 
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What you reported about the teacher was concerning indeed and I am glad you are finding some ways to work around this situation. It might help to get other students to work with you, if you can find some who are also very offended.

However, I see a more important concern here, suicidal feelings. I pray you will be given light and wisdom on that and protection from doing any such thing ever. I pray for your healing of whatever has made you feel so on the edge.
 
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