personal info online

[blackribbon]

This is just to remind people that the internet isn't as anonymous as they often believe....be careful what you post...it doesn't take much to make a person trackable. I have been accused of being "jealous" when I pointed out a member posted too much about his GF. He may no realize it but he gave us her first name with a unique spelling, her maiden name (by posting a picture of her father), told us what state she lived in, and what her profession was. This was besides posting a few pictures of what she looked like. With that information and a quick google search, I can now give you her home address, her age, where she works, and her married name. Now those things don't mean anything to me except now a very obsessed client could use the same google search engine to find our forum and the posts on her....and be able to stalk or harm her.

We need to be careful what info we post online about ourselves, our children, and our friends. If I can do it and I have no motivation other than the idea that too much info was posted and a woman might be professional or physically harmed, then what if someone who really wanted to find someone or even just steal their identity could do.

It doesn't matter how you separate info between posts because there are people like me who remember random info from years ago. If you posted something 2 years ago and you & discussed it with enough for me to assimilate the info, there is a very good chance I still remember it. I don't know why I remember random info about people...even people I have never met, but I do.

 

[Messy]

I have been accused of being "jealous" when I pointed out a member posted too much about his GF.

Just admit it, you were secretly having an eye on him, Lol.

On a more serious note, you should watch out with posting personal information or from people you know. On Facebook I have a weird picture with a wrong name, so noone can track me.

 

[Catherineanne]

Good advice; it is easy enough to put information together, if anyone wants to do so. Maiden names are particularly sensitive; banks (et al) often ask for a mother's maiden name as a security question.

It is worth doing a search on your own name from time to time, just to see what is in the public domain.

 

[dayhiker]

I've not worried too much about my personal info being on line. Tho I put no financial info online or on my computer at the house.

I"m not too concern with people knowing who I communicate with and what I say. The harm people can do to me would be stealing my money, which
I have plans for when I retire. So I'd miss that if I had it stolen. I'm very comfortable with who I spend time with and what I talk about so I don't
worry about what others would think of say about that.

That's where I've been for years now.

 

[miss-a]

It stinks that we have to be so careful, but we do. I am in the process of setting up a blog and becoming more public to market my book. It's hard to be a writer and not be public. I think I'll just get a stun gun and get it over with. Then if someone finds me, I can assure I'll be stunning!

 

[exitstageright]

This is just to remind people that the internet isn't as anonymous as they often believe....be careful what you post...it doesn't take much to make a person trackable. I have been accused of being "jealous" when I pointed out a member posted too much about his GF. He may no realize it but he gave us her first name with a unique spelling, her maiden name (by posting a picture of her father), told us what state she lived in, and what her profession was. This was besides posting a few pictures of what she looked like. With that information and a quick google search, I can now give you her home address, her age, where she works, and her married name. Now those things don't mean anything to me except now a very obsessed client could use the same google search engine to find our forum and the posts on her....and be able to stalk or harm her.

We need to be careful what info we post online about ourselves, our children, and our friends. If I can do it and I have no motivation other than the idea that too much info was posted and a woman might be professional or physically harmed, then what if someone who really wanted to find someone or even just steal their identity could do.

It doesn't matter how you separate info between posts because there are people like me who remember random info from years ago. If you posted something 2 years ago and you & discussed it with enough for me to assimilate the info, there is a very good chance I still remember it. I don't know why I remember random info about people...even people I have never met, but I do.

I can well understand why you do not want your,or your children's info on online.

When google maps first came out,one co-worker of mine got very upset that someone could find her house online. I told her,"Well....if someone has your address,one could always buy a street map at a gas station,or at a store. One could then could find you house by using the street map. So,what is the difference? People have been using street maps for years to find an address."

Sometimes,we can become a little paranoid about things in life.

 

[blackribbon]

Finding your house isn't as big of a deal as being about to actually find your address. It is about people online being about to find your address...people who are really strangers. There was a time when our private thoughts were only shared with those who were closest to us, now perfect strangers have the ability to "know" us. For certain professionals, being able to stay safe from our clients was as simple as having an unlisted phone number...but now, sometimes all it takes is an unusual first name and the name of the city we live in for someone to be able to pull up in our driveway...or maybe track our kids. Each person has a right to protect their identity to the point they feel comfortable with ... and this includes having some say with who reposts our image or the things we have written.

 

[Messy]

Sometimes,we can become a little paranoid about things in life.

They broke into houses when people posted on Facebook that they were on a holiday. One teen girl got killed because she tweeted that she had the house all for herself.

 

[blackribbon]

People in healthcare lose their jobs (and in other careers) over posts online. No appeal, just you are through. The example we were shown in school was a nursing student about to graduate took her picture with a placenta during her ob rotation and posted it on face book. She was expelled from school and that was the end of her nursing career. I am still not sure how that was a HIPAA violation since it was only her and a placenta (you can't identify the mother from the placenta)...but it was enough. No appeal. A waste of almost 4 years of school and nothing to show for it.

Once a picture is in general circulation (like on an open forum like this...or gets downloaded off a private facebook page even), you can't ever get it back and it is free for anyone to use. I know someone whose non-sexual pretty picture ended up on an advertisement for call girls. She was mortified and even more so because someone showed her at work. She is a very private professional ....after that, she wouldn't even allow her new husband to post a picture of their wedding on a private page for his friends to see.

I am sure both these women wish they had been a bit more paranoid.....

(In the hospital, we don't wear our last names on our badges for a reason...it is for our safety...to protect us from patients who might become obsessed with us either out of misplaced "crushes" because what we do can get very intimate or misplaced blame when things go wrong.)

 

[NewUser777]

I have been accused of being "jealous" when I pointed out a member posted too much about his GF. He may no realize it but he gave us her first name with a unique spelling, her maiden name (by posting a picture of her father), told us what state she lived in, and what her profession was. This was besides posting a few pictures of what she looked like.

Why did he do this? Immaturity.

 

[exitstageright]

They broke into houses when people posted on Facebook that they were on a holiday. One teen girl got killed because she tweeted that she had the house all for herself.

That was not a very wise thing for her to do. On the TV show,"Dragnet",shown during the sixties,there was an episode that had crimminals looking in the Obituary Section of the local newspaper. The date and the time of the funeral were printed. The address for the reception,after the funeral,was printed in the paper for friends and relatives. So,while the funeral was going on,the theives,who read the papers,would be burgularizing the homes of the bereaved family.

 

[exitstageright]

People in healthcare lose their jobs (and in other careers) over posts online. No appeal, just you are through. The example we were shown in school was a nursing student about to graduate took her picture with a placenta during her ob rotation and posted it on face book. She was expelled from school and that was the end of her nursing career. I am still not sure how that was a HIPAA violation since it was only her and a placenta (you can't identify the mother from the placenta)...but it was enough. No appeal. A waste of almost 4 years of school and nothing to show for it.

Once a picture is in general circulation (like on an open forum like this...or gets downloaded off a private facebook page even), you can't ever get it back and it is free for anyone to use. I know someone whose non-sexual pretty picture ended up on an advertisement for call girls. She was mortified and even more so because someone showed her at work. She is a very private professional ....after that, she wouldn't even allow her new husband to post a picture of their wedding on a private page for his friends to see.

I am sure both these women wish they had been a bit more paranoid.....

(In the hospital, we don't wear our last names on our badges for a reason...it is for our safety...to protect us from patients who might become obsessed with us either out of misplaced "crushes" because what we do can get very intimate or misplaced blame when things go wrong.)

I definately can understand about nurses wanting to keep their identity a secreat. Most people on the planet does not know who a CLS is,or what a CLS does. So we CLS' are usually not a target for some deranged person. But,disturbed people want to take out their anger,or whatever to harm nurses. During the sixties,there was a serial killer,in Chicago,that killed nurses. Even an Alfred Hithcock Show had an episode about a man,who dressed up like a nurse,that attacked nurses.

 

[exitstageright]

Why did he do this? Immaturity.

I did this because blackribbion usually implies that I am not good enough to get a smart and a good looking woman to like me. I just had to show her the facts. The fact is that I can attract a smart and a beautiful woman.
I have spent most of my life proving to people that I can be successful.

 

[blackribbon]

I did this because blackribbion usually implies that I am not good enough to get a smart and a good looking woman to like me. I just had to show her the facts. The fact is that I can attract a smart and a beautiful woman.
I have spent most of my life proving to people that I can be successful.

I have neither thought nor implied any such thing. You have been married twice so that shows that you have no problem attracting women. I was simply stating that if you really CARED about this woman, you wouldn't be putting her at risk by making so much information about her public...especially considering her line of work. I was simply pointing out how much information you made public for any John, Richard (it won't let me type the nickname), or Mary to see in your exuberance to show her off. However, maybe she doesn't do direct client care so maybe it isn't a big issue. I would think that people that worked with psychiatric clients...especially in a outpatient setting would be at greater risk than nurses even.

In fact a number of years ago, I gave you a lot of advice for how to attract the ladies. Mostly of it, you just argued why I was wrong so I stopped. I do comment when you say things that counter other things YOU have told us...."poor you who can never attract a woman" has been married twice (and you initiated both divorces if I remember correctly) so that statement can't be true.... Since you live by "logic", I'd assume that you appreciate when I point out things that are not logical.

I was simply sincerely concerned with the woman's safety...something you appear to not care about. I searched to see if I could find her based on the info you posted before I said anything and I could find her and a lot of info about her. And that that was only with a 10 minute max search...I didn't use anything more than google.

Why on earth would I care if you found a beautiful woman or not? I don't know you beyond the board and your relationship status doesn't affect me in the slightest. So there is no reason to "get jealous"...and trust me, I am not.

Why on earth would you be trying to prove to us or anyone else that "you can be successful"? If you have met your goals and are happy with your life, WHO CARES what anyone else thinks. You are successful. Why do you even care what I think? You sound like you have made a decent life for yourself and I have never challenged that. It is you who comes and posts about "why can't I be successful" type of posts. You get angry when I point out your unwillingness to relocate to find love when you find someone who lives somewhere else in the US, or when you refuse to date outside of a tight parameter of appearance requirements or financial status requirements, or even your unwillingness to own your part in your failed marriages. I am not challenging your 'success' but rather suggesting that maybe it is YOU who is limiting your success.

 

[exitstageright]

I have neither thought nor implied any such thing. You have been married twice so that shows that you have no problem attracting women. I was simply stating that if you really CARED about this woman, you wouldn't be putting her at risk by making so much information about her public...especially considering her line of work. I was simply pointing out how much information you made public for any John, Richard (it won't let me type the nickname), or Mary to see in your exuberance to show her off. However, maybe she doesn't do direct client care so maybe it isn't a big issue. I would think that people that worked with psychiatric clients...especially in a outpatient setting would be at greater risk than nurses even.

In fact a number of years ago, I gave you a lot of advice for how to attract the ladies. Mostly of it, you just argued why I was wrong so I stopped. I do comment when you say things that counter other things YOU have told us...."poor you who can never attract a woman" has been married twice (and you initiated both divorces if I remember correctly) so that statement can't be true....

Well...I never said that I could not attract any woman. I just have a hard time attracting a woman who is smart and has a lot going for herself. Yes,there have been many married women that have been attracted,very friendly,and affectionate towards me.

 

[blackribbon]

Well...I never said that I could not attract any woman. I just have a hard time attracting a woman who is smart and has a lot going for herself. Yes,there have been many married women that have been attracted,very friendly,and affectionate towards me.

And you attracted at least TWO SINGLE women who agreed to marry you....

 

[blackribbon]

That was not a very wise thing for her to do. On the TV show,"Dragnet",shown during the sixties,there was an episode that had crimminals looking in the Obituary Section of the local newspaper. The date and the time of the funeral were printed. The address for the reception,after the funeral,was printed in the paper for friends and relatives. So,while the funeral was going on,the theives,who read the papers,would be burgularizing the homes of the bereaved family.

That isn't just and episode of Dragnet, it is still being done.

 

[exitstageright]

And you attracted at least TWO SINGLE women who agreed to marry you....

And,they only wanted me for my money.My first wife wanted me to support her family. My second wife did not want to spend any of her money. I have witnesses also. Here, she is a multimillionaire,while wearing old worn out belts and shoes.Then, she complains that her feet hurt.

 

[exitstageright]

That isn't just and episode of Dragnet, it is still being done.

I would not doubt that not one bit.Imagine how horrible a bereaved family must feel, returning home from a funeral and finding out their home has been robbed.

 

[exitstageright]

Good advice; it is easy enough to put information together, if anyone wants to do so. Maiden names are particularly sensitive; banks (et al) often ask for a mother's maiden name as a security question.

It is worth doing a search on your own name from time to time, just to see what is in the public domain.

I have done that,search my own name. About a couple of years ago,I searched my own name. One website had me listed as married. I was single then and I am single now. I have read that some people,after the first date ,google their date. If they read that I was married,then it is no wonder I could not get a second date that year.