Peoples Comments

[Daysoni]

I am trying hard to be symptom free but today when I was at work my boss although he was joking told me to lose some weight in front of customers. And then one of my friends that I hadn't seen in awhile made a comment about my weight infront of customers telling me to gain some weight. I'm trying to not let these comments get to me. Trying not to stay up all night exercising. And I'm not doing so well. Why can't I stop these comments from getting to me? My stomach is hurting from all the sit-ups.

 

[bumblebee62331]

Oh my, what your boss said was absolutely rude and out of order! You don't comment on people's weight, especially not in front of customers!

It's a hard question, I mean, I get triggered by the stupidest things. If someone asks me if they can have the last chip or something, I'll freak out and feel like I've eaten them all and they really were meaning "You fat pig, you ate all the chips and only left me one."

I guess it's how you use the comments. Do you interpret them into what you want to hear to make you feel that you still need to lose weight? Or do you not let them get to you? I know it's soooo hard, but you have to try to brush them off and keep going. Perhaps comment back to them something along the lines of "I'd actually rather we didn't discuss my weight, thankyou." Just to let them know that you don't appreciate it. And you shouldn't have to put up with that - it's incredibly rude.

 

[Celtic Camel]

I have no answers...all I can do is pray for you... so that's what I'll do.
With all my love,
Celtic

 

[goldenviolet]

"We are not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be." - C.S.Lewis

i just love that celtic! i'm happy you kept it up.

we do have to refuse to let people's thoughtless comments get to us. deffinately state something to say how unhappy you are, or completely ignore to show it.
if you can talk to your boss, i would. that's completely abusing his/her authory, and telling them it made you uncomfy will remind them.

 

[NinadeDios777]

ohw ow. that is totally mean... see, i get the exact opposites."like, they'll say, "you've gained weight, you look healthy." and i'll sit there and think, "gee, i'm fat. beter go loose it again...." its like, ya know, just don't comment.

 

[Daysoni]

I was in shock that my boss said that to me and emberassed. I told him that he couldn't say that to me. As for the friend that came in to the store and told me to gain weight I just shrugged her off. There was to many people in line.

 

[goldenviolet]

you go girl *snaps fingers to the east*
i'm glad you could talk to him.

huh! and your counselor wants you to talk out and be more out going... i think you do great !!

 

[madison1101]

I would have definitely told the boss that he was out of line for talking to you about your weight. As for the friend, you should call her and tell her that you need for her to keep her comments private and not public.

Assertiveness is a skill I learned in treatment. It is scary, but so helpful in getting rid of the stuff we get all twisted up in our minds about.

Speak out lovingly to those who are rude.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[PureGrace]

ugh, Im sorry Daysoni.

That was incredibly rude of your boss...wow. I have been praying for you and will continue to do so...that you will be able to take what God says about you to heart.

I know thats a LOT harder than it seems. I havent been able to do it myself. But God can do anything. =o)

Please never hesitate to PM

Kate

 

[Daysoni]

I have come to the conclusion today that my boss is just going to keep up with his comments. I tried to stick up for my self. Now I guess I just need to ignore him. It's just that his comments didn't stop at my weight. They have gone further. I fear that saying anything will egg him on. But not saying any thing is know good either. But I also need the job. So how do I put up with it and not let it get to me?

 

[goldenviolet]

what happened hun?

 

[Daysoni]

what happened hun?

It's just a long story. One I'm afraid right now has no end.