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PCSing after divorce

AirForceTeacher

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Well, my wife and I separated two and half years ago, ending in divorce last year. Come January, I will be PCSing, three years after I moved out. I've tried to be active in my kids' lives since then, having them over every other weekend and taking them on vacations and birthday road trips.

Now I'll be 6-7 hours away. It's crazy. I wasn't the best of fathers while married, but I've been trying hard to be more involved since the separation. I'm really connecting well with all of them except my oldest, but even then there are glimmers (17-year old boys and their fathers - gah!)

Has anyone been through this? Any tips? Any ideas on how to avoid the desire to just curl up in the corner and cry?
 

Autumnleaf

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Call them several times a week at the same time so they can look forward to hearing you. Be positive when you talk with them. Have a life, do or learn something you are interested in with other people, other than them wherever you go, so you aren't alone crying in a corner after work.
 
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