Paying on a date

[Banana Phone]

When you go on a date, who pays: the guy or the girl?

 

[IslandBreeze]

When I was dating, if a guy wouldn't pay, that was the last date he had for me. IMO, it's a major sign of respect whether or not a guy will pay for a date or not.

 

[gweneviere]

I think it depends. On a first date, and the next few, I think it is right for the guy to pay. I don't care about all that equality stuff that some people talk about. When you first meet someone, it's nice for the guy to be the caretaker - type person. I've been dating a guy for 2 and a half years now, and we pretty much share everything, but he still pays for most stuff, because I'm still a student, and he makes pretty good money. Anyway, i think the guy should pay, lol.

 

[Living4Him03]

Yah it depends. With my ex, he would pay, but he just wouldn't take me out very much, that was the trick. lol. It's nice for a first date if the guy asks me out for him to pay. Honestly, I don't think I'd pay for a guy, but I will pay my own way sometimes because I don't expect a guy to have enough money to pay for me and himself and still be able to save his money! I think it balances out though. I always remember birthdays and special occasions. In those situations I might take him to his favorite place to eat or to go get ice cream.
Personally, I'm not a picky girl. If I go on a date that is totally free all the better. AS long as I get to spend time with him and we have a good time

 

[Banana Phone]

For my girlfriend and I, we've always split the bill. She gives me the "look" if I say I'm going to pay. Sometimes I just do, but sometimes she pays for me also. I think it's important to ask if you can pay the bill, male or female. I don't see it as a problem though if the guy is the first to ask. When I first started dating when I was younger, my mom always said, "You better not be paying the whole bill! You don't make enough money!" I gave her the "look" too, but I think sometimes the "Dutch" were right in this area, haha. (I still don't know where the phrase "going Dutch" came from...)

 

[Jenna]

Well, back when I was dating, I always let my date take care of the bill. Now, if I went out with someone just as a friend, then I would pay my own way. However, as soon as it became a romantic relationship, I let him take care of the money. The big thing with that though is that my suggestions for going out were always low-key and inexpensive. If a guy wanted to go somewhere fancy or whatever, that was his own decision, and at his own expense. Me, I was happy with a blanket in the park, but if he wanted to go out for a fancy dinner, who was I to say 'no'? lol On the flip side to that though, if I decided that I wanted to do something special for him, I would arrange it and pay for it all.

 

[Banana Phone]

I think in terms of a first date, the ask-er should pay for the ask-ee.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

I think the guy should always pay. It's just a chivalrous thing.

 

[Snowy]

if the guy wants to do something special for the girl then he pays...if the girl wants to do something special for the guy then she pays...but other then that I think the guy and girl should share or split

 

[Katty]

Its always nice when a guy pays, but I always offer, too. I'm a big girl and can take care of the bill at times, but its always nice when even a big girl can be taken care of Teehee. But I agree, if I was the one doing something nice and special for him, I'd pay, yes.

~Katty

 

[Iggster]

Most of the time, I've paid. But I also know when I'm being taken advantage of. I don't need some choir girl priss, nor a princess in my life. Sorry if some are offended. But I like a strong independant woman, who can think and take the initiative. I'm too old for games like," I need to go to the bathroom," when the bill comes.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

See, with Steph, I know I've found the woman I'm gonna marry, so I have to keep myself accountable with how much I spend on her. Giving gifts is definitely one of my love languages, and for the sake of my own finances, I need to not let it get out of hand

 

[Amanda-Soo]

My boyfriend always pays. It used to make me feel bad, but not anymore. Now whenever it's a special occasion or whatever I try to buy him an extremely nice gift. I try to spend more on him than he does on me to make up for him paying for everything.

 

[oldrooster]

I always pay.....

 

[Glorianna]

My fiance and I don't agree on this issue... which makes things a little difficult. But we are slowly learning to compromise.