Patience is a hard thing...

[mbotz72]

"Love is patient and kind... Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." I Corinthians 13:4-7 I have kept on coming back to this verse the last 8-9 months because it is Gods constant reminder to me that I need to wait for God. I become frustrated and depressed at times when the only thing that I feel like I need that is missing in my life is the love/companionship of a boyfriend. I am incredibly blessed to be loved by wonderful family, friends from high school and at college, and even community members. Most importantly, I am loved an amazing God that I am just starting to understand better as the days go by. But I still feel like something is missing in my life at times. I haven't dated for a long time, but have went on dates and have been asked out. Nothing has worked out and sometimes I want to date just to have this companionship and the awesome feeling you get when you know someone likes you, but I know that it is not a love that God wants for me and it would be for the wrong reasons. Everyone needs to be loved by other human beings and so many times we lower ourselves in order to satisfy this need and I pray that I really believe that God is control. There is a season for everything, but is hard to have patience for things that seem so important to me because society says they are important and to have patience for things that I want or think I need, but in reality, God is the only one that knows what I need.
Anyone connect or have a comment? God bless!

 

[mbuc]

First of all, welcome to the forums, mbotz72. You've come to the right place to discuss things like this.

I find myself in the same kind of situation as yours sometimes. I got burned by a girl I really cared about in high school, and since then I haven't had any serious relationships. However, I know that God has a plan for my life and that it will be revealed to me when He wants it to be. Don't give in to the temptation to lower your standards for other people; doing this will only lead to disappointment. Patience is a difficult thing to learn, but it builds character. Hang in there.

 

[pinPoint]

definately connecting mbotz. I go through the same loneliness as you do. but sometimes it makes me draw closer to God and ask for help to calm my aching heart. It is very easy to get side tracked by what the society says, i watch movies sometimes and the love scenes of two together talking about their life together gets my heart very heavy but later on i just lay down and pray to God concerning my future wife. It is a great feeling knowing that someday that could be you. But through alot of hard times(Patience) we learn, we get wise by watching other relationships around us, we get tough, and when that special someone is sent to us, we become so blessed. it is a wonderfull thing i must say but it costs you something as well. Isnt it worth the pain to wait? isn't it worth the wait for the Musician to write that sweet song sheet of our love life? oh that melodious song! well thats it from me. sorry if i got all romantic and such. laterz

 

[holo]

"There is a season for everything, but is hard to have patience for things that seem so important to me because society says they are important and to have patience for things that I want or think I need, but in reality, God is the only one that knows what I need.
Anyone connect or have a comment? God bless!

Is amazing how society can shape our wants and needs.
I think it's wise to take the time to think these things through, find out why you need this or that, what you're really after, for example why you want a boyfriend. I think the needs we are all born with are being so exaggerated by our watching all these movies and subscribing to all kinds of illusions of how life is supposed to be. Also, try to look at it from different angles. A boyfriend can mean just as much trouble as joy, after all he's a guy, and though most of us don't like to admit it (some of us don't even know), we're basically pigs.
Another angle would be God's, though it's pretty hard to get to see things from His perspective. But remember, often when you look back, you'll be glad you didn't get what you wanted so much then, and you'll see why. It's hard to trust in God, but I think it is something we can practice and grow in.

 

[Stanfi]

mbotz,

I think all of us who will be honest with ourselves can relate to what you have written. I know I sure can. A litle over a year ago a woman came into my life that I was convinced was a Godsend. I ended up getting really burnt by the situation. It left me really confused as to what God was trying to do in my life. I get really frustrated at God for not seeminly doing anything in my life. I have really felt like God has let me down.

However, God does have a plan for each of us. I just hope and pray that this all makes sense to me sometime soon. Naturally I do lack patience!!

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

Welcome MBOTZ72, Awesome to have you here on CF.

I connect with what your saying, I know what your going through. Ive given up on girls for a while. I figure at the right moment God will bring me to that one girl.

Oh and everybody be nice to Mbotz, Shes been a friend since like 17 i think. Am I right Mel?

 

[ananar23]

Yeah, I finally got to the point where i was all about God will deliver if and when the time is right; beforehand i felt a definate void. Anyway, recently i met this guy and im interested, ugh, whats a girl to do. i guess back to square one, sigh.

 

[msjones21]

I'm actually in a situation right now that is requiring much patience on my part, especially since I tend to fly by the seat of my pants and react in haste. I am constantly praying for God's wisdom and help with being patient. I need it now more than I ever have. It's especially difficult when you feel you are ready to be married and you yearn for human companionship but it's not quite God's time for that. I also have a wonderful family, terrific friends (one in particular who is an amazing blessing in my life), and God is always with me sustaining. God bless you for posting this.

And welcome to our blessed little corner of Christian Forums. I look forward to fellowshipping with you. Any friend of Chevy is a friend of mine.

 

[mina]

God has a purpose for you. I can't say that I know you will be married, but I do know that God has purpose for this time in your life. I feel the same way you do most of the time. I have a great desire to give and show love to someone. But God has a reason and a purpose for me being single right now. I know it's hard but try to remember that God's hand is in your life right now, your life is not on hold, God is working right now- try to focus on what He is doing and not on what He is not doing.
God bless!

 

[Koop]

The way i look at it life is a journy not a destination. Don't live for the future cause even when you get there, there is still more to live for. If you live your life to get married, when you get married you might as well die because you reached your goal. I just try to live for the day and see where it takes me. Do your best with what you have now, and enjoy the road.

 

[stormgade4]

I can relate to the general concensus. I would really like a companion right now. Patience is easy with some things yet seems very hard when I think about relationships and marriage. Lately, my mother has been dropping subtle hints about it too. All of us have the right answer "I have to wait on God to bring me the right person." I hope that doesn't come off as sarcastic, I really do want to wait on God. But at the same time I don't. You guys know what I mean. Hmm, I'm starting to not make sense. I'll be quiet now.

 

[cutekid 4 Jesus]

yeh i totally relate to your situation,i am surrounded by amazing friends and family at college and home and in the community,and most of all i have Jesus(yay!)but still sometimes i ache for that lovely feeling when u know sum1 likes you in that way. i too have been asked out and went on dates too but it hasnt worked out,and none of them have been committed christians so i guess it serves me right!neway i know God is preparing me to be a brilliant woman of God and then if He wills he will lead me to a brilliant partner,right now im still too people dependent and not enough God dependent to have a boyfriend,it would make me lean less on God im sure and God loves me so much he is saving from that i think. What a faithful God we serve!also i agree that sometimes we do lower ourselves in order to satisfy this desire to be loved by other human beings-but we must remember that this is all it is,a desire and not a need,God says He will always love you not everyone or even anyone will ever love you,although i am so blessed and grateful that i have many around me that love me!

 

[mbotz72]

What an amazing place God has developed this forum to be. Thanks for all the advice and blessings to my friend chev_truck who showed me this site- he is also a pretty cool friend

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

What an awesome first thread Mbotz. I hope for many more.