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Pathologizing Masculinity

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You know, I've never yet had a woman get offended when I opened a door for her. Maybe someday. And my reply will be: "sorry, this is how I was brought up, and I'm kinda old to change now."

A few years ago, I took Mrs. Barbarian to a trendy restaurant. A 20-something lady with lots of piercings and tattoos showed us to our table. I helped Mrs. B with her coat and pulled out the chair for her.

The lady made a little "ooh" sound and smiled at me.

So maybe it's still safe to be a gentleman.
 
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Thank you for your response, Paidiske. I am sorry that you have faced discrimination in your professional life. I hope there is some way that it can and will be addressed at some point.

Thanks, I appreciate that. Now that I've left the secular world for the church, of course, a whole different set of issues presents itself. I'm fortunate that in my parish my sex is not an issue. Beyond that, though... equality is a work in progress.

But I have to remind myself that the progress is real. My diocese's only been ordaining women as priests since 1992. That's very recent, in church terms!
 
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A new report on boys and men from the American Psychological Association reminded me, again, why worldview is so important. The report is the first of its kind from the APA, which has previously issued guidelines for girls and women, as well as for so-called “sexual minorities.”

For years now, the APA has been at the forefront of legitimizing progressive gender and sexual ideologies, and this report is in that same vein. To put it mildly, their conclusions are less clinical recommendations than they are naked worldview assertions.

Of course, the report isn’t all false ideologies. It opens, in fact, by recognizing a true and painful reality: Men and boys in America are not doing well. They’re diagnosed with ADHD at twice the rate of girls, they perform worse on standardized tests, they’re suspended and expelled from school at a disproportionate rate. As they get older, men use drugs and alcohol more often. They don’t seek help for mental health issues like depression as frequently as women do. They commit 90 percent of homicides, and make up 77 percent of homicide victims. They account for 93 percent of federal prison inmates and are 3.5 times more likely than women to commit suicide. In fact, male suicides are up more than fifty percent in the U. S. since 1980. We’ve talked of these so-called “deaths by despair” a few times on BreakPoint.

Faced with all of these troubling realities, the APA identifies the problem with men as being “traditional masculinity,” which they define as “anti-femininity, achievement, eschewal of the appearance of weakness, and adventure, risk, and violence.”

That’s not how I define traditional masculinity. Anti-femininity? Violence? That sounds like being a jerk. Reading between the APA’s straw-men and caricatures, it becomes clear what assumptions are really behind the report.

Traditional masculinity, the authors go on to argue, is socially constructed. Real gender is “non-binary,” the report says. In fact, even identifying male sex with masculine gender betrays “heteronormative assumptions.” In other words, masculinity does not objectively exist. It is whatever we make it. The report actually says, “Psychologists should help boys and men create their own concepts of what it means to be male.”

LGBT ideology is taken by the authors of the report as gospel. “It’s no longer just (a) male-female binary,” says one. The report criticizes “individuals with religious affiliations and conservative social and political views, who may equate masculinity with heterosexuality.” These folks, hints the APA, need to be cured of their errant views.

The game here is painfully obvious. This isn’t science, it’s a worldview that sees masculinity as anyone would have defined it just a generation ago as a problem needing to be solved. But as David French writes at the National Review, the APA has it all backward. The real plight of boys and men today coincides with our culture’s rejection of traditional masculinity, not the embrace of it! To say that the answer is to further deconstruct what it means to be a man is ludicrous.

Our society has no fixed categories of what it means to be a man, much less any resources for catechizing the next generation of men.

Rest of the story at link: BreakPoint: Pathologizing Masculinity - Break Point

Yes the prioritisation of psychological sexual identity over Physical identity is an idolatrous delusion and ideologically motivated. The disconnect with reality is having mental health implications for both sexes and is contributing to a dissolution of families and the social fabric of Western culture.
 
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Well, perhaps "most" was inaccurate. "Many" would be a more appropriate statement. I will edit the post for you.

If we look at times not-so-far-past, "most" is appropriate.

In the pre-industrial ages, a father or grandfather was in a boy's life most of the day, whether on the farm or in the city. Even stretching into the industrial age, a boy often went to work with his father in the factory.

It was relatively rare than a boy was not in the presence of men of his family or, at least, men. And that was true of most boys until fairly recently in society.
 
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