Past

[JCC19240]

I am having difficulty deciding the right thing to do. I am now a Christian and I love serving God. However, there was once a time in my past that I done things I am embarrassed of. Things I wish I could take back. I recently started dating a guy who is a newer Christian as well. He has been married before and has a son. We are doing very well together. I am worried that something from my past is going to cause us trouble. Back in my dark days, I slept with one of his friends from high school. I did not know my current boyfriend at the time. He was also married at the time this happened. I feel guilty about it and I am worried that it will get back to him so I thought it was something I should mention to him. We’ve both admitted we’ve had a past and done things we don’t like to think about or mention. I’ve been praying and praying about it, but I still seem confused. Can you guide me on the Christian thing to do?

 

[RaymondG]

Tell him the truth about the past now and see how he takes it.

 

[paul1149]

I think the two of you have done well in admitting that you "had a past". Depending on the seriousness of the relationship at this point, that general statement may well be enough for now. You don't owe anyone details about yourself until you're about to enter a more committed and intimate level of relationship. Read the book of James, chapter 3, for the characteristics of God's wisdom. You should have peace about whatever course you decide to take.

 

[Willing-heart]

I think if you feel burden by it then you should let it out, but don't dwell on past mistake.

 

[Elliewaves]

I think it's enough for him to know you had a past. He doesn't need to know the intimate details and the who's unless you both decide on further commitment. Even then, he may not wish to know.