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Another tidbit:

Silver, or anyone who traumatized you inexplicably, is not YOUR "burden".

Keep telling yourself this.

Praying.
Thank you so much for your prayers Brinny.
 
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Thank you so much for your prayers Brinny.

He is the God of wisdom. Praying that He grants you wisdom in all this and discernment so that you get through this chapter and on to the next having grown in His grace, and Truth, and the fearlessness of survivors who have healed and are equipped to help others who are wounded.

In other words there IS a "purpose" in all of this that will be seen, eventually, if we TRUST Him in it all.

Read Proverbs 31, about God's own definition of a Godly woman.
 
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He is the God of wisdom. Praying that He grants you wisdom in all this and discernment so that you get through this chapter and on to the next having grown in His grace, and Truth, and the fearlessness of survivors who have healed and are equipped to help others who are wounded.

In other words there IS a "purpose" in all of this that will be seen, eventually, if we TRUST Him in it all.

Read Proverbs 31, about God's own definition of a Godly woman.
He is the God of wisdom :) I will read Proverbs 31. Thank you for reminding me about it.
 
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He is the God of wisdom :) I will read Proverbs 31. Thank you for reminding me about it.

Wisdom = not allowing anyone to be hurt or abused, INCLUDING not letting anyone hurt or abuse THEM.

There's balance.

It has to do with "dignity", the Godly kind, that is given by God, along with wisdom.

God NEVER EVER compromises our dignity.

We learn to protect and defend others' dignity, as well as our own.
 
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Wisdom = not allowing anyone to be hurt or abused, INCLUDING not letting anyone hurt or abuse THEM.

There's balance.

It has to do with "dignity", the Godly kind, that is given by God, along with wisdom.

God NEVER EVER compromises our dignity.

We learn to protect and defend others' dignity, as well as our own.
I love how you explained this :)
 
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you know what laughing does?

It releases a lot of "happy cells" (endorphins)

What makes you laugh?
Some movies make me laugh :) I havent seen a funny movie in a while though
 
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....just wanted to direct you to consider what laughing does, and to find those things that get you to chuckle and laugh or smile....

laughter is very healing...
It is true that laughter is very healing. I will try to find ways to bring laughter into my day :)
 
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It is true that laughter is very healing. I will try to find ways to bring laughter into my day :)

Just ease up on the self condemnation and anger at yourself and it will happen (just become more "conscious" of it and when it does, tell it to go away or kick it to da curb) and find something funny instead, or lighthearted, or something that makes you smile, from the inside, out.
 
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Just ease up on the self condemnation and anger at yourself and it will happen (just become more "conscious" of it and when it does, tell it to go away or kick it to da curb) and find something funny instead, or lighthearted, or something that makes you smile, from the inside, out.
That's exactly what i will do Brinny :)
 
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