Overly Sensitive???

[Alive again]

Just wondering if any of the rest of you feel like you are or are told/accused of being overly sensitive or feel uncomfortable finding a way to speak up for yourselves???

For example I was shopping with my dtr and a good friend of mine after lunch yesterday. My dtr and I have distinctively different taste in clothing and I have spent years saying things like. That is very pretty and when suggested I should try it saying things like I can see why you like it but that is not my style/color. So my dtr started teasing me about color choices in clothing and trying to get me to buy things that one, I could not afford and two would not be comfortable wearing. My friend joined in and they just kept going. It happened to some degree or another in every store we went into. Then my dtr had said she wanted to go to the Body Shop. Her favorite store and I have tried things there but they do not work for me and I cannot afford them. When we get there, i see a store across the mall that I had forgotten I wanted to go to and check on my foundation color with being more tanned for summer. Now, I have never been confident wearing makeup, and do not wear if everyday. ere also. But with starting work this last week I will be wearing it more. I expressed this out loud. My dtr says "yeah like you really care about that.". I was hurt and just started heading to the Body Shop with her and then said, You go to the Body Shop and I am going to go into this other store quick a minute. The next thing I know my dtr is headed in the store with me and upset because she wanted to go to the Body Shop with me. Now I had been feelling like a third wheel and the butt of their teasing and jokes for awhile by then. So we did both, but I was very hurt.

I did tell my dtr I was hurt by her comment later, but she just felt I was criticizing her and clammed up and said sorry hanging her head. She is 19 and a sophomore in college.

I am now, wondering why I just didn't let it all roll of my back and say things like I don't appreciate you making fun of my clothing choices. I have a right to like what I like. And then later saying "Yes, I really do care about that and I am going to just go in there a minute, you can do whatever you want???

So long post, but question is do any of you also struggle with this level of self confidence, expressing self, and speaking up for self and f eling hurt/overly sensitive???

I was about in tears by the end of this day!!!

Any thoughts anyone???

 

[OneOfHisOwn]

I can certainly relate. Whenever anyone says anything that is even meant as constructive criticism I end up worry about for days, over analyzing it and taking it far too much to heart. This was really hard at work because I had to deal with a boss who was a bit critical. It really ended up crushing me because I took it so wrongly. I think BP's are by nature extremely sensitive and high-strung. Or maybe it is just our personalities (if there is a difference). THe other problem is that I fear so often that I will hurt others if as you say I take a stand. This has caused a problem even with therapists and pdocs. I just don't want to disappoint them for some reason. I can think of a thousand ways I get hurt too easily and a thousand ways I need to be more assertive. Work in progress for all of us I guess.

 

[inmercysgrasp]

Yes, that has happened to me. I have been accused of being overly sensitive. It's hard when someone says that to you, because then you begin to question yourself. It makes it more difficult when you see the other person isn't looking to comfort you, but basically is just telling you to get over it.
i know it's hard, but maybe sometimes we do need to be careful we don't 'wear our emotions on our sleeves", so to speak. We can trust our heart with God, but with people, sometimes we have to be careful how much of our emotions we let show i think.

 

[sherr33]

I am beginning to wonder if alot of us people with Bipolar are sensitive to what people say to us. Am I correct