chaz345
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Ideally a long "sober" accountability partner, and one who is at a similar point of recovery, and then as he progresses someone who is maybe just starting out on recovery is the best possible situation. That way he gets the encouragement and if needed confrontation from someone who is clean, has someone who knows exactly what he's going through at the moment and later has someone who he is helping too since part of complete recovery is often helping others recover.No, it didn't work for me for my husband to tell me that he was having dreams about using porn, or that he felt compelled to go back to the computer, and it didn't help at all when he slipped - and then lied about his slip (I knew the truth exactly) - when lying had been a fundamental and huge part of the betrayal.
I would say to find an accountability partner with a person of the same sex who has a lot of years of 'sobriety' under their belt. That way, if you both are newly sober, you won't pull each other down by reminiscing about porn use or other sexual behavior. That does happen with all kinds of addiction.
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