Over 50 And Divorced? How Are You Doing?

[LisaMC-D]

Just for you!

 

[LisaMC-D]

Not divorced so pardon me for interjecting myself here.:o Just want to reiterate something you probably already know...often it isn't "you," it's just "them" and whatever issues they are battling.

KayKay, I think it was nice of you to read and post! Thanks.

 

[clairefish]

I've been divorced so long, I've forgotten what it's like to be married. But every time I see one of my three beautiful daughters, or one of my three beautiful grand daughters, I thank God that He led my ex-husband and I to come to know each other. Divorce wasn't in His plan, I know, but those girls were, and what a perfect plan!!

 

[clairefish]

Here is a useful line from Mary Poppins:

'I never explain anything.'

Works for me.

I like that!!!!

 

[dayhiker]

The way I dealt with lonliness si that I went out and got involved in meetup groups. Thru a dating site I meet and lady and now have a GF. No plans to get married. I'm buying my own home .. I've learned to also like my private time.

 

[LisaMC-D]

Well, according to some scripture quoting, well-meaning brethren, I have to accept the loneliness as I have brought it upon myself. I initiated the divorce. Now, they would not say it is a punishment, but rather a consequence of the divorce. (I would agree, there are many consequences to divorce.) My choices: reconcile with the ex...some might allow me to stay single, but never re-marry!

 

[LisaMC-D]

Joyous New Year Everyone!

 

[Jenn4]

My choices: reconcile with the ex...some might allow me to stay single, but never re-marry!

Hi folks,
This is an interesting topic. I suggest there are actually more choices than the ones you have listed Tristan. Is it the case that you may need to distance yourself to see them?

 

[bartony]

Loneliness lingers still, from a loved one being taken to the Lord. Maybe God doesn't want me to have anyone else. They could never top Barb for being a precious angel anyway. I'm about down to just praying for the Lord's return if loneliness is all I have left. I want that more than anything anyway. It's rough without Barb with me now.

 

[dayhiker]

Lisa,
Been a while since I got back to this thread.
I know there are believers who thing its a sin to remarry. But I don't buy it. I say go out there and find someone to love. After all, God tells us the 1st two commandments are to love.

 

[dayhiker]

Bartony,
Ya, don't go looking for a female friend thinking she has to in some way compare to your wife. That's not a very good thing to do to a woman IMO. But there are women out there that are looking for love and they should be loved for who they are as a unique creation of God.

A friend of mine, who is in his 70's has just fallen in love with a lady. Its been quite a few years since his wife died. He just told me he's having the time of his life and has never been happier. he's not saying that to take anything away from his wife. Just saying this woman is making his current life very good.

 

[brinny]

i thought i was divorced, but i'm not haha .....just separated

 

[brinny]

Here is a useful line from Mary Poppins:

'I never explain anything.'

Works for me.

hee hee makes perfect sense

 

[bartony]

I'm NOT looking for a woman! I merely said I get tired of the loneliness. Please read my posts more carefully.

 

[goldbeach]

I was recently asked how I justified my divorce; or more specifically how my divorce fit with 1 Corinthians 7. I honestly appreciated the question, but felt defensive. Anyone else out there ever feel the same?

There are valid Christian reasons for getting a divorce but when we have gone against God's dictate in the past we need to remember that God will forgive our sin and never hold it against us. We need to be truly contrite for our sin and ask for forgivness and He will forgive as far as the east is from the west. GOd does hate divorce but He also loves us so much that he sent us His Son to cover our sins.


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[mjmcmillan]

Well, according to some scripture quoting, well-meaning brethren, I have to accept the loneliness as I have brought it upon myself. I initiated the divorce. Now, they would not say it is a punishment, but rather a consequence of the divorce. (I would agree, there are many consequences to divorce.) My choices: reconcile with the ex...some might allow me to stay single, but never re-marry!

I've been there and done that on the reconciliation marriage. The second time around lasted a bit longer (the first one I got driven out after 6 months, the second one lasted almost two years before I had to find other lodging if I wanted to keep living).

During the time between marriages, I tried dating but found out rather quickly that trying to find a Christian wife after being divorced wasn't going to work very well. The attitude seems to be that if you're divorced you're untouchable in Christian circles. So, this time around I'm running bachelor. Maybe a bit lonely at times, but it beats being yanked out of bed at one in the morning, being told how evil I am and getting hit in the head.

Remaining single is where I'm at right now. Getting rejected because I'm divorced and broke as a result of that divorce has zero appeal for me, so I am left to--- enjoy the peace and quiet. At least there's that.

 

[Rose-of-Sharon]

I was a little surprised to find this thread and this is only my second post. I'm divorced but I don't mind it at all. My whole family lives around me and my ex and I spend holidays and the occasional Sunday with the kids. We are good friends and it just somehow works. We make way better friends than spouses and I thank God for allowing me to get out of a relationship that made me miserable (and him too!) and yet still keep my family together. Please lean on the Lord to show you the way; He is always right.....about everything.

 

[davedajobauk]

63 going on 64 ...
engaged 3 years this coming Christmas to a wonderful lady
When, we marry... It will be my third time

I feel 'blessed' with her company and fellowship

dave

 

[Migdala]

I ask because while I think I am doing fine, many times I am not.

I'm not over 50 yet.....I'll be 47 in June. But I just got divorced a few months ago, in November. It was my third divorce. The ex has a serious relationship with his new girlfriend that he ended up with only 2 weeks after he left me. He lives in the state that I want to live in more than anything, and he is very happy, living the life he has always wanted. He even has a daughter that he didn't even know he had (he had dated this girl in high school and she got pregnant by him and he never knew it-he just found out the child is his). The girl is gay, which is one of his biggest fantasies. He is living the life he wants. But he hates Jesus with a passion.

Me, on the other hand, am living here with 3 roommates, miserable. I stay in my room, alone. I have no real friends (only aquaintences), and I don't go anywhere but work and church. I have not had a single date.

But hey. I'll be happy when I make it to Heaven. This earth is nothing but Hell. I just go to work and come home and sleep so I don't have to think about life.

 

[marky1]

Although my immediate reaction to the finalization of the divorce was a feeling of relief, I soon began to ask myself, “What have I done?”, “I am totally on my own (at this age); how in the world will I make it?”, “Am I crazy”???