or is he just not that into me??

[mwb]

biffy-You should detach yourself from the strong feelings you have for him. I agree with others who have posted along the same lines. But I will say that he just may be too occupied with other things to have a serious relationship with someone. So if he ever gets back to you, it would be a blessing.

jlhart-What's happened to you is awful. I don't think it's too much to ask of someone to give an answer, especially if it's just over the phone. It's not that difficult to be courteous. I've been there & I don't blame you for being angry.

 

[biffy]

I'm thinking courage is important...a life lived in fear is a life half lived...i'm going to contact him very casually as i always have and see if his response is normal or a bit colder than usual...pray for me...that i do what God would want...not just what i want...i think God would want me to be a little more courageous than sitting here reading...pondering...and thinking about it...it's not what life is about...

 

[nathan82]

^ That's the spirit!

I asked out a girl at my church about 2 weeks ago and got rejected. Not once do I regret it!!!

From Matthew, Jesus bid Peter to walk on water. It's all about taking that risk...to "walk on water" so to speak. And if it doesn't work out, Jesus will always lend His hand. Check it out...Matthew 14:20-something.

 

[biffy]

Ahhhhhhh....just keeping you updated....he emailed to let me know he was still alive and said:
"Very busy week but i'll let you know if i'm home to
have a chat."
Ok...i'm going to keep you all posted and if he is into me then this discussion can head towards...don't ever assume...be courageous and honest and you will never regret it!!...slight concern on the "if" but we will see....

 

[eatenbylocusts]

No answer is still an answer.

Not too long ago someone thought they had sent me an email, but it never got to me. The answer was a no anyway, but it does happen....rarely. It was someone from my single's group and I have no reason to doubt his story since we see each other every once a while at church things.

 

[sherri]

*prayers for you. I hate these kinds of situations. Being left in limbo when you like someone is almost like being stretched on a rack.

 

[biffy]

i can update and i need some more hmm not sure what..maybe advice?!?!....i talked with him and he was very honest with me...he has had a broken heart for 2 nearly 3 years and hasent' been able to see anyone else in a romantic way since this girl and this upsets him...should i tell him how i am feeling...?? he was honest with me...or should i just be his friend for now...?!?!

 

[~Nikki~]

Not sure if I'm allowed to post here so I'll just say...I'm putting a reply to your last post on your other thread in the Courting Couples section...

 

[mwb]

All hope is not lost. In fact this might work out better in the end. Just be his friend, get to know him, be there for him. It sounds like a lovely start to a possible long-term relationship. The worst case scenerio is even though nothing may develop between you two, you will be helping him through a rough time.

 

[sherri]

All hope is not lost. In fact this might work out better in the end. Just be his friend, get to know him, be there for him. It sounds like a lovely start to a possible long-term relationship. The worst case scenerio is even though nothing may develop between you two, you will be helping him through a rough time.

 

[biffy]

Heya i have just been through two sudden deaths in my immediate family...both at once...a lot of my friends stayed away...i guess you could say they were almost scared or something to even approach me?!?! i have a lot of friends and maybe 3 or 4 have really been there...including my new friend who i've been telling you about in this post...i'm glad i didn't wipe him off just because i was unsure...or scared...hehe but he's a great guy i think a lot of him and i'm glad he's around ...i guess God really does know what He is doing even if sometimes life dosen't really make sense

 

[JPPT1974]

Heya i have just been through two sudden deaths in my immediate family...both at once...a lot of my friends stayed away...i guess you could say they were almost scared or something to even approach me?!?! i have a lot of friends and maybe 3 or 4 have really been there...including my new friend who i've been telling you about in this post...i'm glad i didn't wipe him off just because i was unsure...or scared...hehe but he's a great guy i think a lot of him and i'm glad he's around ...i guess God really does know what He is doing even if sometimes life dosen't really make sense

You are right about that as sometimes
Some things don't make sense at all
Only the Lord knows why they do make sense
For our sakes!

 

[Mark2010]

If gals only knew the torment they inflict on men's souls sometimes. Yes, I'm not surprised that he has taken 2-3 years to get over a past relationship. Probably makes him want to proceed with caution in a new one.

But glad that the two of you are speaking again. Sorry to her about the loss of family members.