On loneliness

[miss-a]

Charles Stanley's teaching this week was called Our Constant Companion, and one of the statements he made was that when we feel loneliness "that emotion is not from God." And, well, of course it isn't, but I'd just never thought about it specifically like that before.

Though I don't think I'm feeling terribly lonely right now, or at least certainly not in the painful sense it has been in the past, I thought that statement would be very good to remember for when the pain of loneliness strikes, and I wanted to post it for others it might help.

 

[Nanopants]

Shaming others for suffering doesn't help anyone, except maybe people like the author of that book.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

Charles Stanley's teaching this week was called Our Constant Companion, and one of the statements he made was that when we feel loneliness "that emotion is not from God." And, well, of course it isn't, but I'd just never thought about it specifically like that before.

Though I don't think I'm feeling terribly lonely right now, or at least certainly not in the painful sense it has been in the past, I thought that statement would be very good to remember for when the pain of loneliness strikes, and I wanted to post it for others it might help.

While it isn't OF God, it is something we all feel as an emotion . Jesus himself suffered greatly with this toward the end of his life leading up to his arrest and certainly on the cross.

I think we need a Plan so when Lonliness occurs, we can institute our plan ; we should sit down in good times, and make a list of things to do when lonliness visits us. My list would include : Go to the beach for a few hours and soak up some sun/listen to my Walkman/ listen to the waves/and walk along the waters edge. And-or , get involved in one of my many hobbies , go for a drive out in the country, go for a hike on a wooded Trail, go fishing, list all the blessings I have in my life currently, get together with a good Friend, read a favorite book, watch a favorite movie, visit a Nursing Home for visitation, look for a way to serve the Lord and Others.

The Lonliness will lift eventually, but it depends on us to shorten its stay .

 

[Sophrosyne]

I think loneliness is part of the way God made us. Adam felt loneliness on a sort of level that is why God made Eve. I think God designed us to want to seek out a mate and that when we don't have our mate we can experience the longing for one.... or loneliness.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Shaming others for suffering doesn't help anyone, except maybe people like the author of that book.

who is shaming anyone?

I think lonliness does happen to everyone. You can be in a crowded room full of people and feel alone. Physically you may not be alone, but inside you still feel lonely. There is no shame in feeling lonliness, but I don't think God would want us to stay in that state. I have found that usually when I feel the most lonely is when I am focusing too much on myself. When you help others you are thinking about them and it puts you in a better mindset.

 

[miss-a]

Shaming others for suffering doesn't help anyone, except maybe people like the author of that book.

Sorry if it came off that way. It wasn't intended in that tone by me or by Stanley. Actually it was an encouragement that God is with us and we don't have to be lonely.

As someone for whom loneliness has in the past gone far beyond an emotion to an all consuming horror, for me to have the reminder, "This is not from God," is a positive thing. I think should the enemy ever visit me with such lies about being alone again, to have the thought "this is not from God," would give me the strength to send the liar packing before he could take me down with it.

Again, apologies for the offense.

 

[blackribbon]

I am feeling lonely tonight. One of my close friends just flunked out of nursing school. Moving forward alone again.

 

[dayhiker]

Sorry to hear that black. HUGZ

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Oh so sorry to hear about your friend. I hate when bad things happen especially close to the holidays.

This doesn't just happen around the holidays but lately when I am watching some lifetime movie I cry....not really because I'm so into the story, but I just get sad.

But in some small way I am glad to be able to be able to show that sadness easier than I used to. I never used to be the one crying over movies!

 

[dayhiker]

I have cries at movies for ages. it might not be a sad moment tho but its usually the moment when something changes in the persons character. The thing that has been causing them to hurt others finally is seen for what it is and they decide to treat people differently. That's when I cry every time.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I have cries at movies for ages. it might not be a sad moment tho but its usually the moment when something changes in the persons character. The thing that has been causing them to hurt others finally is seen for what it is and they decide to treat people differently. That's when I cry every time.

crybaby

Glad to know I am not alone LOL

 

[dayhiker]

However ..... I'm macho while I cry! lol

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

However ..... I'm macho while I cry! lol

macho macho man! I just want to be a macho man LOL (sang in my best rendition)

Village People - Macho Man OFFICIAL Music Video (short version) 1978 - YouTube

 

[dayhiker]

lol .. Well, when I was young I was macho kinda like the indian! IE skinny macho.

today ... not so much.

 

[blackribbon]

My husband needed a box of kleenex in the room to watch many movies. (thinking about this made me smile).

I may rent a number of movies that make me cry over my break. I need to get some tears out before next rotation so that I don't forget how to cry. I find it emotionally exhausting when people get booted out of school because of one point...that point is the difference between an 79% and 80%. Anything less than a 80% is failing at our school...most nursing school accept a 75% as passing.

Say a prayer or two for "Nayla"...the instructor is going to look over her final and see if she can find one point to give her back on Friday. I know my program...I am not holding my breathe but I won't stop praying for her until the C++ actually shows up on her transcript. Ironically, because of the way they grade...if she gets the point, she will probably end up with a B and not a B- in the class (very convoluted grading method).

 

[dayhiker]

That is tough to get booted at 79%. I've prayed for Nayla. That is nice that they are willing to look over the her test. Lord let there be a point there.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I just said a prayer for her too.

Glad you got to smile blackribbon and I think you have a good idea to watch a bunch of crying movies. The Notebook always gets me, as does P.S. I love you.

I am trying to think of a good movie to watch on Christmas with the boys. I had one last year and it wasn't all that good, but I did rent one and I can't remember the name of it, but to my surprise my older son wanted to watch it. It was about a guy that was very successful and then somehow he gets plunged into how his life would have been if he had married his high school sweetheart. He didn't like it at first, missed all the money and fancy lifestyle but in the end he liked the second choice. I wish I could remember the name of that movie

 

[dayhiker]

I remember watching a show/movie that had a theme something along that line, Michelle.
I heard a minister once say that he had had a number of high level business men come to him in their 50s and say they didn't know how to relate to their wives and kids as they had spend all their thought and time on moving up the cooperate ladder. They felt empty when it came to having feelings for their spouse or anyone on a personal bases.
I also have a friend who was a system programmer. Was really good at it. Not 50 he refuses to do that any more and just does personal relationship activities. No more time alone in his cube with the computer.
So that movie address a very real phenomenon.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I found it! It is ironically (or not) called "What if...."


What If... (2010) - IMDb

 

[blackribbon]

I suspect that this sentiment is why there are a surprising number of men who are in their 40's and 50's in nursing school...many with advanced degrees in different fields. It isn't really a job with prestige for men and there is nothing quite as personal as the things we have to look at and touch.