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Whoa! Wait a minute there mate! I wasn't putting your character under fire at all! Forgive me if that's how you got that, but that sure isn't what I was aiming for!
I think I've realized from your post and by others here that to some, dating is no longer a romantic thing but rather an additive to friendship. Can't say I'm any more clear on the issue; still mindboggled by it all.
Oh crikey mate! Who ever said that a long time is necessary before anyone can feel anything! I don't like it when folks keep their emotions all tucked away and I don't believe in long term engagements, so clearly I don't find your '50 years' appealing either. And have mercy on my 3 elder siblings who are now married! Strewth!
heheheh!! I can be a bit extrmeI'm sorry and your forgiven as well
good points
Thanks mate! I think I just hit a nerve on you.
But I will stand on my belief of what dating is. While I don't like dating full stop, I'm the kind who sticks to the origins of what something is. While you see it as an 'additive to friendship', that's not what it originally was, so I tend to see it still as it traditionally was but still do understand your point of seeing it.
thats a common nerve for people to hitand no matter how many times it happens I always seem to respond like a fool.... I'm like that darn fly crashing into the window
and thats totally ok
I don't really see it as an additive to friendship. The way I see it, when you are interested in a woman, you go through a few stages directed towards marriage: seeing if it's worthwhile to get to know each other more intimately with a view towards discerning whether you ought to marry each other, getting to know each other more intimately with a view towards discerning whether you ought to marry each other, discerning whether to marry each other, and then marriage. When I suggest that he ask her out, I am suggesting that he do step 1 and signal his intention to begin this process. I suppose you can do part of step 1 without telling her you're interested, and you probably should do some of the groundwork of step 1 before telling her you're interested, since, well, the alternative is asking her out the moment you meet her (which isn't a terrible idea, but it's not a wildly successful one). Anyway, I married my wife a little over a year after meeting her, so, make of my advice what you will.
And your argument is a little absurd. Traditionally, people didn't date. The stuff you see in Jane Austen novels was commonplace among the upper classes. The lower classes usually had even less dithering about and marriages were frequently arranged. It was terribly common for people of some short acquaintance to become engaged, and quite often the first open expression of romantic interest was a marriage proposal. "Dating", where people express romantic interest in each other, "go steady", eventually get engaged, and get married is a thoroughly modern activity, modern enough that I think it's silly to refer to its "origins". And note that even in its origins people got engaged rather quickly by our post-modern standards. Which doesn't really have any bearing on anything you're saying, but it bears mentioning.
Anyway, the template I mentioned above should take between 1 and 2 years. With me and my wife, it was a little over a year from when I met her that we got married.
dating and a date are two very different things...
If you like the girl, I say ask her out for coffee to chat about (insert some topic you both show an interest in).
You aren't going to be able to scrutinize if she likes you a) over the internet and b) at church. You're better off putting yourselves in a social situation away from all that in order to determine it for yourself.
At least if she doesn't seem to be interested, it was only a friendly coffee in the end. Nothing lost, plenty to gain.
Or, you could sit here on the fence and think about it, not getting anywhere at all in either direction
Hey, your choice.
Is that movie's content in any way related to the garbage that Ross Jeffries put(s) out? edit:You are in friendzone because you have not shown her your worth as a potential boyfriend. You had some chit-chat at a meeting and online, all of which is friendzone stuff. In spite of what women will tell you, it is almost impossible to go from friendzone to dating.
I'm gonna get my butt kicked for this, but I recommend watching the movie "The Tao of Steve" a few times. That movie will teach you everything you need to know.
Is that movie's content in any way related to the garbage that Ross Jeffries put(s) out?
Okay, so to take what you said before; you meet a girl and you are interested. You ask her to 'date' you in the hopes that she may be a future partner (though you've only recently just met her). So your in it in the hopes of getting married ... 'but by the way, you aren't my girlfriend!' At what point in the 'dating' do you call her your girlfriend? Please, I am not trying to get on your nerves too, but I really am confused as to how you folks work this thing out!
I asked her if she'd like to get some coffeeand she said "yes"
she however said that she wanted me to know that it was gonna be a hang out between freinds. Honestly though? I think this is because that we have only talked for about a month or so..... so I think anything beyond freinds would be moving to fast [to say the least]. It's a step in the right direction
I asked her if she'd like to get some coffeeand she said "yes"
she however said that she wanted me to know that it was gonna be a hang out between freinds. Honestly though? I think this is because that we have only talked for about a month or so..... so I think anything beyond freinds would be moving to fast [to say the least]. It's a step in the right direction
You are in friendzone because you have not shown her your worth as a potential boyfriend. You had some chit-chat at a meeting and online, all of which is friendzone stuff. In spite of what women will tell you, it is almost impossible to go from friendzone to dating.
I'm gonna get my butt kicked for this, but I recommend watching the movie "The Tao of Steve" a few times. That movie will teach you everything you need to know.
I think it's a perfect opportunity for us both to really see what the other person is like
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