Obsessions

[thenewageriseth]

I think I have a problem with obsessing over people that I enjoy being with, hanging out with,etc. In short my favorite people, usually. People like teachers, or friends, or cousin(s), etc.Like I'm pretty sure I'm heterosexual, but when I asked my dad about obsessions towards people of the same sex, he said that I should'nt have those thoughts occupying my head. But, most of the time, it seems like it's not a sexual gender thing.
This has been happening since I was 13. I had an unhealthy obsession over a boy before, last year and it went away...although sometimes for some reason I have these homosexual dreams about these people, so I'm not sure what's going on...can someone help?

Thanks,
Bo Peep

 

[JanusLimegold]

You know if you are having obsessions with people, but having dreams does not necessarily mean that you are having an obsession about someone. I had become bisexual only for the past 8 years. Before the age of 14, I only had sexual thoughts about girls. Before then, I had sexual dreams about other guys I definitely wasn't attracted to.

 

[Rev. Smith]

I think I have a problem with obsessing over people that I enjoy being with, hanging out with,etc. In short my favorite people, usually. People like teachers, or friends, or cousin(s), etc.Like I'm pretty sure I'm heterosexual, but when I asked my dad about obsessions towards people of the same sex, he said that I should'nt have those thoughts occupying my head. But, most of the time, it seems like it's not a sexual gender thing.
This has been happening since I was 13. I had an unhealthy obsession over a boy before, last year and it went away...although sometimes for some reason I have these homosexual dreams about these people, so I'm not sure what's going on...can someone help?

Thanks,
Bo Peep

Hello and blesings Bo: This kind of attachment is a normal part of growing up. At 18 you are still dealing with the issues of you teen years. This does not mean you are "cildish", it means that we mature at different rates. Some 20 year olds still obsess over comic books or computer games, even as they o their college work, and so on.

One of the hallmarks of adolesance is a hunger for approval, its why teems form "packs" and place excessive importance on the opinions, activities and relatonships of their friends.

Occasional homosexula thoughts and fantasies are also normal. Psychologists say its how we are wired, how our minds test our sexuality. As A churchman I give this creedance, but alos believe that it is how the enemy tests us, that temptation to a variety of failings is presented to us, the enemy needs only one to "click" and lead us astray.

For now, enjoy your youth, friends and life. If you still have these issues in a few years, or are very troubled by them consider pastoral or secular counseling. (I reccomend a pastoral couselor if homosexual thoughts persist, the secular therapist is likely to tell you to "go for it", which in the long run isn't going to help your spirituality)

 

[KTskater]

Wow, I never thought anyone was as obsessive as me. I had three year crush on a guy when I was 9, and I would dream about him, write his name on peices of paper, write songs, stories, have concious fantasys, follow him around (okay so I was kindda of a stalker).
Anyway, I think the best thing you can do is to keep your focus on God. Obsess only about Him and you can't go wrong.

 

[thenewageriseth]

Wow, I never thought anyone was as obsessive as me. I had three year crush on a guy when I was 9, and I would dream about him, write his name on peices of paper, write songs, stories, have concious fantasys, follow him around (okay so I was kindda of a stalker).
Anyway, I think the best thing you can do is to keep your focus on God. Obsess only about Him and you can't go wrong.

Yeah, i was like that too, last year, "stalking" a guy...it was one of the dumb things to do, cuz I think he realized I was hiding around corners...heh...No more boys for me, least for a while...

 

[SparkyMel]

Heheh I do that!
I mean... did that...

I stole a picture of the girl that i obsessed about for aaaaaaaages from a notice board, and joined societies and clubs in school so I could see her. I walked a different way around school so I could bump into her and i got her mobile number off a friend... oops...

All I can say is, dont worry about it. The feelings will pass (even when they seem like they're not going to) and you might end up obsessing over a girl! So don't worry... And even if you are gay or bi or whatever, then don't stress. Jesus loves you no matter what.


(sorry, this post is one of my less eloquent and more teenagerish I'm allowed my lapses occasionally... )