Obsessing over "I love you"

[EtainSkirata]

I keep posting in here; I AM seeing a therapist but I haven't told her about this. But I've been feeling like I'm falling out of love with my boyfriend. I DO NOT LIKE this feeling. I want it to go away. Lately I've been WANTING to say "I love you," but I can't say it if it's not true.

It's dumb; I want to spend time with him, I want to do better at being a good girlfriend and caring for him, I like being around him, he's smart and funny and kind and just amazing. But this FEELING is driving me nuts! "I love you" keeps popping up as something I want to say to him, but then I second guess it, and don't say it.

Is WANTING to love him enough for me to say it? Am I just over thinking the concept of love (probably)?

 

[eleos1954]

I keep posting in here; I AM seeing a therapist but I haven't told her about this. But I've been feeling like I'm falling out of love with my boyfriend. I DO NOT LIKE this feeling. I want it to go away. Lately I've been WANTING to say "I love you," but I can't say it if it's not true.

It's dumb; I want to spend time with him, I want to do better at being a good girlfriend and caring for him, I like being around him, he's smart and funny and kind and just amazing. But this FEELING is driving me nuts! "I love you" keeps popping up as something I want to say to him, but then I second guess it, and don't say it.

Is WANTING to love him enough for me to say it? Am I just over thinking the concept of love (probably)?

weird as it sounds, it is very possible to love someone but not like them

 

[Mari17]

I keep posting in here; I AM seeing a therapist but I haven't told her about this. But I've been feeling like I'm falling out of love with my boyfriend. I DO NOT LIKE this feeling. I want it to go away. Lately I've been WANTING to say "I love you," but I can't say it if it's not true.

It's dumb; I want to spend time with him, I want to do better at being a good girlfriend and caring for him, I like being around him, he's smart and funny and kind and just amazing. But this FEELING is driving me nuts! "I love you" keeps popping up as something I want to say to him, but then I second guess it, and don't say it.

Is WANTING to love him enough for me to say it? Am I just over thinking the concept of love (probably)?

This sounds like another spinoff of your "I must be totally honest with my boyfriend" obsession. And maybe morphing into relationship OCD (ROCD)?

 

[subtlecollision]

It's hard to know if it's truly because you don't love him... but then again, if this is a new thing that popped up and you have OCD, then maybe it is relationship/confession OCD. It sounds like the OCD thought is saying "how do I know 100% for certain that I love my boyfriend?" Is it that fear that's bothering you or are you starting to realize things that are making you dislike your boyfriend?

 

[John Owen]

Love is a word that includes both the will and emotions. First you have emotional feelings, then you make a decision of the will to do something for that person that shows your love. Then you get to know them and see that they have bad breath or they are late or they like Star Wars or some irritating thing. You have to look at the person, their life, character, maturity and decide, do I want to spend the rest of my life with this person. Then you make the commitment. Then think about the marriage vows. You vow to love them among other things. And you do that because you will, I promise you, have days that they absolutely drive you up a wall. Hollywood presents this " we fell in love and have never argued" kind of love that is fake. God will give you the ability to love them even if they wrong you, which they will.