Okay....it's going to be tricky for me to post this without giving too much detail. I hope I can communicate clearly....
I know of a very dysfunctional family with 3 adult children (all children live away from home, 2 of them are married). This family is protestant with the exception of one of their sons, who converted to Orthodoxy years ago (which did NOT go over well with the family, but that is another story...). In a nutshell, the mother of this family is a Diva (must be at the center of everyone's attention or else) who loves to use guilt and other forms of emotional manipulation to get her kids to do what she wants. The father is a passive guy who only steps into the fights the mom starts when things get out of control. His way of dealing with any conflicts between the parents and adult kids is to use scripture to manipulate them . His favorite one to use is the scripture about how children are to obey their parents in the Lord (somewhere in the OT....not taking time to look it up now). Unfortunately, when he does this, everyone knows they are being manipulated again, but on one in the family is sure of how to refute this.
What I would like to know is this: In Orthodoxy, how much credence do we have to give that one Bible verse as adults? I have no problem with the idea of respecting parents, but when this verse is used for abusive purposes, I'd like to know how to refute it from an Orthodox standpoint (or at least from a standpoint that does not contradict Orthodoxy....). Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance!
I know of a very dysfunctional family with 3 adult children (all children live away from home, 2 of them are married). This family is protestant with the exception of one of their sons, who converted to Orthodoxy years ago (which did NOT go over well with the family, but that is another story...). In a nutshell, the mother of this family is a Diva (must be at the center of everyone's attention or else) who loves to use guilt and other forms of emotional manipulation to get her kids to do what she wants. The father is a passive guy who only steps into the fights the mom starts when things get out of control. His way of dealing with any conflicts between the parents and adult kids is to use scripture to manipulate them . His favorite one to use is the scripture about how children are to obey their parents in the Lord (somewhere in the OT....not taking time to look it up now). Unfortunately, when he does this, everyone knows they are being manipulated again, but on one in the family is sure of how to refute this.
What I would like to know is this: In Orthodoxy, how much credence do we have to give that one Bible verse as adults? I have no problem with the idea of respecting parents, but when this verse is used for abusive purposes, I'd like to know how to refute it from an Orthodox standpoint (or at least from a standpoint that does not contradict Orthodoxy....). Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance!