Nursery.

[sammipher]

What do you think of nurseries? Obviously, since I am a SAHM the only nursery my daughter is left in is the church's nursery. For over two months I was nervous about leaving her there. No one has ever watched her...not even our parents. We have been using her immunizations as a excuse not to leave her in there with the other kids..plus of pediatrition really said it was not such a good idea if we could help it...but, she recently got her shots...so no more excuse there. So last wednesday night the pastor's wife(who is very sweet and has four children of her own) asked if she could keep her in the nursery...I was kind of hesitant..but, knew she was in excellent hands and said yes after talking with hubby about it(plus I already have spent twice back there rocking her myself when she was fussy..just to get the feel of it). I was a nervous wreck..Nearly in tears...I have no finger nails left from biting them. By the hand shaking number I rushed back to the nursery to make sure she was alright...of course she was..just laughing and cooing at everyone. So today I left her again in the nursery...of course I have a list to tell them.."if she has a poopie diaper or t.t. diaper and you don't want to change..please come and get me or she cries or she...."...my friend looks at me..mother of two and says "I have changed dirty diapers before...she will be fine"...and guess what on hand shaking I forgot to go check on her..I was that comfortable. It was easier this go around. I know she is in very good hands with our church family. I am very surprised at myself for letting her stay in the nursery. What was your first time like leaving your baby with someone else?

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

My son was a year and my daughter a half year before I left them in the nursery. However, when my daughter was a year, I began working in the nursery and your reaction is typical of every first-time mother. Often we'd catch them peeking in to make sure their little one was just fine. Usually, first-born babies started in the nursery later and then the second and third borns were tossed in practically after birth Well, maybe not that soon, but we'd get a number of younger siblings during their first month or two.

Your little one will be fine. Be prepared, they will get sick and this is normal. Both my daughter and son had cold after flu after cold the first year or so but after, they both seem to have immunities of steel and rarely get ill now.

LOL, I was just thinking of the first time I left my kids. With my son, he was probably 6 months, before I had one of my parents watch him. With my daughter, within two weeks of her birth, I had no problem having my dad watch her and I went shopping for baby clothes. She was VERY fussy and I desperately needed some quiet time.

 

[CarrieAg93]

I left my kids with family and friends early on, probably at around a month. As soon as I was feeling up to getting out.

My oldest went to the sitter at 3 mos. I was a SAHM when I had my 2nd so he probably went to the church nursery around 6 mos. We start sending them to the nursery when they are awake and making noise during the service. I don't see any reason to have the nursery people watch them when they sleep all the time.

I think it's good to leave your kids with other people. It teaches them that they are ok without mom/dad and that mom and dad are coming back.

 

[Leanna]

I am a SAHM and I kept David with me during church until he was just about one year old, but my church had a room with a window into the sancturary and sound that I could take him into when he got rowdy. I didn't want him getting sick, and most of the parent sin my church did the same thing. We did peek in the nursery sometimes but all the kids there were over 1 year and they pointed at my son and said, "baaayybeeee." So he would have been the only young one. When we went to our new church and I left him in the nursery for the first time, just about 3 weeks ago, I was almost teary eyed. hehe. He was fine and I knew it but still.... my little baby's getting grown.... lol. I imagine with my second/third child I will get over it sooner, but I still plan on "wearing" him/her in church until he is at least 6 months old.

However, on the subject of babysitters, David was already practiced with that. He has been left with each set of grandparents from shortly after birth so that my husband and I could go on dates. I think its good for both mommy and baby, although I do always miss him. It is also good for the marriage.

 

[lucypevensie]

I kept my first with me for about 2-3 months, then put her in the nursery. It was scary for me, and they had to come get me a few times because they didn't know how to sooth her like I could. I was a nervous one. But then around 7 months old she started to get comfortable and have fun.

My second one was dropped off in the nursery at 2 weeks old No lie! OK, a good friend was working in there, so it wasn't so hard. I was less nervous with my second one. By that time the nursery had gotten vibrating pagers for the parents so that we could be called on easily. Those pagers really helped.

 

[Neenie1]

OUr church doesn't take children in the nursery until after 12 months. So my son just stayed with me until then, we have a "cry" room for babies, where mum or dad can go up and feed the baby or settle them if they are too noisy in church. (usually it's just mums that go in there though) Our daughter still seems to sleep through the church service anyway.


But I do remember well, how you feel when you first leave them with someone. ALways rushing back to check they are OK. Usually they are, its the mums who have the most difficulty with it.

 

[sammipher]

Well I would like to keep her with me in service..but, every service we have attended..which is twice on sundays and once on wednesdays...she has cried. I have to get up and take her to the lobby...if she is too loud there(thin walls)...I have to take her to the bathroom. She doesn't sleep all the time either...actually she is up usually all day with just a couple of small naps. She is a day person now that she has settled into a routine. So if she were a sleeper I would just hold her myself. Not only that our pastor is quite animated and when he gets on it..he gets on it...he loves to holler..which scares her. Our microphones are a little on the loud side no matter where you sit, it's a small church. Since there is no place for me to listen to the sermon...I don't get to hear the service when I have her. Hubby volunteers to sit with her ..but, I don't like to say this..but, we both know I can quiet her faster and longer. So recently I started taking her to the nursery just to change diapers...cause they have a changing table there and the counter in the women's bathroom is getting on my nerves. Since she was fussy still and nervous about leaving her...I stayed back there two or three times during services getting the feel of the nursery and rocking her. Our church allows kids of any age in the nursery..I think til school age..at that point they are able to listen to the message(usually it's children two to three and under in the nursery). Sometimes there is only one baby in the nursery...sometimes there is two...two is the norm and that's counting Lilly..except on sunday mornings which can reach a whooping 4!!! So I am not too concerned with her catching stuff, though it only takes one child. Plus I know each and everyone of my church family..yes family, that's what they are to me...so I trust them. All our nursery workers are mothers who have two or more children of their own. So I am feeling very confident about the nursery now and I do need to here the word as much as possible(I'm not doing much good if I have to go to the lobby or bathroom every service when the Lord has provided our church a nice nursery..as well as staff to run it..for me to keep Lilly in). As for our parents watching her..both sets is a no no..both famalies have serious issues that I don't need to go into. It's not safe at either home.

 

[Leanna]

As for our parents watching her..both sets is a no no..both famalies have serious issues that I don't need to go into. It's not safe at either home.

We had to stop leaving our son with my husband's parents because they thought it was a joke to go behind our back and do whatever they wanted. Like its a joke to give a baby pop or mashed potatoes (when he was still on only formula, hello)..... then they would make it into a joke about "spoiling" their grandkid..... yeah that didn't go over well.

 

[Leanna]

Disclaimer: I realize other people may think that the whole grandparents doing that kind of thing is just great but neither my husband nor myself like it and thats our opinion.

 

[Princessperky]

Heh, cute disclaimer, and I totally agree, I managed to cure my MIL of many of her issues, but she lives in PA, and we in NC .

I have found that since nither of my kids likes to be held by strangers and the nurseries we have tried do not use distraction (sorry but that is my first response to a 'strangeer' unhappy child) THat it is not worth it to help DS or DD learn to be in a nursery . Unfortunatly even though both are VERY quiet in church (looking at books or people, sitting /standing) I havn't found a church that will let them stay with us .

Kindof sucks, missing out on church cause of it .

 

[CarrieAg93]

Heh, cute disclaimer, and I totally agree, I managed to cure my MIL of many of her issues, but she lives in PA, and we in NC .

I have found that since nither of my kids likes to be held by strangers and the nurseries we have tried do not use distraction (sorry but that is my first response to a 'strangeer' unhappy child) THat it is not worth it to help DS or DD learn to be in a nursery . Unfortunatly even though both are VERY quiet in church (looking at books or people, sitting /standing) I havn't found a church that will let them stay with us .

Kindof sucks, missing out on church cause of it .

We've never been told that we CAN'T keep them with us. That's too bad. It should be your choice.

 

[Picture.Of.Obedience]

We arent leaving our son in the nursery, my hubby wants worship to be family time, we dont want to sent trevor off, but teach him at an early age to be goo dand sit in church, when he is older we will bring quiet toys and color books and things, but we want him to get used to it. if he cries or fusses, i go with him to the nursery, and stay back there till he is ready to come back in and sit with me

 

[Neenie1]

We had to stop leaving our son with my husband's parents because they thought it was a joke to go behind our back and do whatever they wanted. Like its a joke to give a baby pop or mashed potatoes (when he was still on only formula, hello)..... then they would make it into a joke about "spoiling" their grandkid..... yeah that didn't go over well.

Some joke, could've made him sick - not nice.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I have let Christian go to the nursery since she was about 1 1/2 months old, she loves it. She loves being with the people in there and loves the attention she gets for being the youngest in the nursery, as well as the fact that as soon as we enter Church she is wisked away by the older gentleman in the church, they are like adopted grandparents. Everyone absolutely loves Christian as she is always happy and smiling at them. If we don't take her to the nursery she gets really mad and won't stop growling or "talking" until we take her there.

 

[Joykins]

My son got really scared of the music in church when he was about 3 months or so and would wail whenever the worship team started up. So I took him to the nursery and he was really much happier there. I think my daughter was about the same age when I started her there. Seems like I spent a lot of the services during that age of baby just sitting in the nursery nursing them...but my kids are really outgoing and they prefer to be in the nursery or Sunday School with the toys and other kids and kid-appropriate Bible stories and activities rather than sitting in the service and I don't blame them.

 

[sammipher]

We had to stop leaving our son with my husband's parents because they thought it was a joke to go behind our back and do whatever they wanted. Like its a joke to give a baby pop or mashed potatoes (when he was still on only formula, hello)..... then they would make it into a joke about "spoiling" their grandkid..... yeah that didn't go over well.

You think that is bad...my mom came over here about three weeks ago with two ice cream sundaes from mc donalds...well I asked could she just watch lilly while I changed...literally not hold..just watch her while she was laying there on the couch...I was gone like two minutes...my bedroom is just off from the living room..when I came back in my mom had given her some of the ice cream!!!!! I was so mad. When I asked her nicely not to do that anymore..she goes off into this story about how when I was little my uncle toby gave me a porkchop bone and I just gnawed away on it when I was practically just sitting up and getting into mashed baby food..I informed her that I wanted to do things my way and I don't want to give her ice cream at this age. She just says "well you and (hubby) are gonna find that all those books and peds are not always right..your still here". Talk about not getting the picture. This coming from the lady I have tried and tried to convince that they no longer give paragart(sp?) to children anymore(lilly has the colic) and then tells me she knows someone who knows someone that can get some and we'll just mix it in with her formula Our ped told me it literally dopes infants up that's why they don't give it out anymore, that's why she has some other kind of drops .....I get so irritated with her sometimes.

 

[sammipher]

Btw...nusery..I am so confused on it right now. Guess what...Lilly has the PINK EYE. Yep, we are not sure where she got it from. Symptoms started yesterday...and now me and hubby may have it. I have notified our church and anyone else we have been in contact with. I took her to the doc today and she got some cream for it that goes in her eye. She is miserable to say the least. Now hubby and I are itching our eyes..but, it's hard to tell cause it's kind of like when someone says they have head lice..you automatically start itching thinking you have it to. We are being extremely careful..we bought the hand foam..the whole nine yards...I had the pink eye a few years back and it was not fun. I feel really sorry for her.

 

[selune]

Yep sammipher, my mom thinks that because we have different rules and such than they did that it's some sort of insult to the way they parented. I have told my folks several times that the TV stays off the news channels when the kids are around (my 7 year old is prone to nightmares and imagine her seeing the images from New Orleans) they don't get it, they think that the kids absolutely SHOULD see things like that regardless of age, telling them that a bad storm hit N.O. and hurt a bunch of people and did a lot of damage isn't enough they should see it...Needless to say I'm glad they live across the country and we only have to deal with this occasionally.

As to nursery, (Sorry off topic for a while there...) I usually stay with my kids in the nursery if they go down that or my husband does. We keep them in the service until children's chruch, but then the little one wants to follow the other kids. Depending on whether he's napped or not, we stay with him if he's had a cranky morning, so the older ladies who watch the nursery don't get overly burdened.

 

[selune]

Btw...nusery..I am so confused on it right now. Guess what...Lilly has the PINK EYE. Yep, we are not sure where she got it from. Symptoms started yesterday...and now me and hubby may have it. I have notified our church and anyone else we have been in contact with. I took her to the doc today and she got some cream for it that goes in her eye. She is miserable to say the least. Now hubby and I are itching our eyes..but, it's hard to tell cause it's kind of like when someone says they have head lice..you automatically start itching thinking you have it to. We are being extremely careful..we bought the hand foam..the whole nine yards...I had the pink eye a few years back and it was not fun. I feel really sorry for her.

just read the new post. Best wishes with the pink eye, it's so hard for the little ones to handle having goo put in their eyes. Our second to youngest had it once and we had to watch where he put his hands (shopping cart was the culprit we think) so that he wouldn' tget something like that again.

 

[Leanna]

You think that is bad...my mom came over here about three weeks ago with two ice cream sundaes from mc donalds...well I asked could she just watch lilly while I changed...literally not hold..just watch her while she was laying there on the couch...I was gone like two minutes...my bedroom is just off from the living room..when I came back in my mom had given her some of the ice cream!!!!! I was so mad. When I asked her nicely not to do that anymore..she goes off into this story about how when I was little my uncle toby gave me a porkchop bone and I just gnawed away on it when I was practically just sitting up and getting into mashed baby food..I informed her that I wanted to do things my way and I don't want to give her ice cream at this age. She just says "well you and (hubby) are gonna find that all those books and peds are not always right..your still here". Talk about not getting the picture. This coming from the lady I have tried and tried to convince that they no longer give paragart(sp?) to children anymore(lilly has the colic) and then tells me she knows someone who knows someone that can get some and we'll just mix it in with her formula Our ped told me it literally dopes infants up that's why they don't give it out anymore, that's why she has some other kind of drops .....I get so irritated with her sometimes.

Yes that is much worse!! Poor you!