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[HopingForJesus]

I am new here and will post under this section as well.
I am looking to find a loving denomination that is non ritualistic, uses music in praise and worship but is somewhere in between old hymns and rock guitar. I went to a new church last week, and I am not sure if that will be where I go or not. I kind of feel out of place everywhere I go so it is a bit hard. It was Pentecostal. I perhaps may fall more along the lines of Protestant, but I just really have no idea. I used to be Catholic. I want to go to where the Lord wants to plant me as I have much growing to do in him. Some of the situation surrounding me are...
1. I need to find a place not focused on ritual
2. I believe in order in the church when it comes to gifts of the Spirit
3. It should follow the whole Bible
4. My husband and I were married in a court setting and someday I would like to get re-married in a church. He was formerly divorced from his wife who cheated on him
5. My husband is of Lutheran background and would not be comfortable with too "exciting" of a church
6. Preaching love is importance, and I am fully aware of the importance of following Christ...a good balance in teaching is important to me, not all fire and brimstone
7. I am sensitive to extremely loud noise (Please don't think this is weird, but I get startled and deal with anxiety)
8. Fellowship is important and also helping others
9. I am not sure about how I feel about women and their role in the church coming from the Bible, so that is a topic of confusion for me which my husband has a somewhat traditional view.

Any input is appreciated. Please forgive any redundancy on my part and God bless you all and have a Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate it...

ONE more important thing...I would eventually like to be baptized as an adult once I am ready...and having communion once in awhile is nice too.

I hope that everything I have written is ok. I have been honest about this and am still not really sure about where I fit.

 

[sim-value]

I think an adventist church would be the right place for you ...

1. I need to find a place not focused on ritual
Can happen to any church but whe do not have that many rituals...
2. I believe in order in the church when it comes to gifts of the Spirit
Whe too
3. It should follow the whole Bible
Whe do by following for example: Biblical Sabbath,Rules about Clean and unclean animals,Baptisism by diving into water (like jesus was baptised) and so on ...
4. My husband and I were married in a court setting and someday I would like to get re-married in a church. He was formerly divorced from his wife who cheated on him
According to our belives any marriage made according to the Legal and traditional situation in the Country you live is valid before god
5. My husband is of Lutheran background and would not be comfortable with too "exciting" of a church
The whole Message of Christ should be Exciting to us !!
But i get what you mean, you wont find any wild dancing or loud music in an Traditional adventist church ...
6. Preaching love is importance, and I am fully aware of the importance of following Christ...a good balance in teaching is important to me, not all fire and brimstone
Whe do not belive in a Firery hell or Salvation by works, so love especially christs love for us is a very important topic
7. I am sensitive to extremely loud noise (Please don't think this is weird, but I get startled and deal with anxiety)
YOu wont find any in our places of worship
8. Fellowship is important and also helping others
This is a true sign of the holly spirit and i hope you will see this in any church you enter
9. I am not sure about how I feel about women and their role in the church coming from the Bible, so that is a topic of confusion for me which my husband has a somewhat traditional view.
In the adventist church women are allowed to do anything men do ... (all im currently concious off )

For further questions look in the traditional adventists forum ...

Greetings /me

 

[Albion]

I am new here and will post under this section as well.
I am looking to find a loving denomination that is non ritualistic, uses music in praise and worship but is somewhere in between old hymns and rock guitar. I went to a new church last week, and I am not sure if that will be where I go or not. I kind of feel out of place everywhere I go so it is a bit hard. It was Pentecostal. I perhaps may fall more along the lines of Protestant, but I just really have no idea. I used to be Catholic. I want to go to where the Lord wants to plant me as I have much growing to do in him. Some of the situation surrounding me are...
1. I need to find a place not focused on ritual
2. I believe in order in the church when it comes to gifts of the Spirit
3. It should follow the whole Bible
4. My husband and I were married in a court setting and someday I would like to get re-married in a church. He was formerly divorced from his wife who cheated on him
5. My husband is of Lutheran background and would not be comfortable with too "exciting" of a church
6. Preaching love is importance, and I am fully aware of the importance of following Christ...a good balance in teaching is important to me, not all fire and brimstone
7. I am sensitive to extremely loud noise (Please don't think this is weird, but I get startled and deal with anxiety)
8. Fellowship is important and also helping others
9. I am not sure about how I feel about women and their role in the church coming from the Bible, so that is a topic of confusion for me which my husband has a somewhat traditional view.

Any input is appreciated. Please forgive any redundancy on my part and God bless you all and have a Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate it...

ONE more important thing...I would eventually like to be baptized as an adult once I am ready...and having communion once in awhile is nice too.

I hope that everything I have written is ok. I have been honest about this and am still not really sure about where I fit.

Hi. Thank you for putting your question to us. We'll try to help.

As I read your list (and thanks for being as specific as that!) I tend to feel that a quick, categorical answer will not be right for you.

Your husband's background is at odds with several points you've made here (ritual, formality, traditional theology and music, etc.) such that I don't think it will be easy to find a compromise that takes in both of your needs. On the other hand, it might also be difficult to find a 'praise and worship' kind of church that is simultaneously not loud. It is possible, but you know that it might take some looking around. Fellowship, love, and orderliness cross denominational lines, and the "whole Gospel" is a matter of personal judgment.

In other words, this is tough. I am inclined to say that you would do well to sample the mainline Protestant denominations--Methodist, Presbyterian, Baptist, etc.--until you find that particular congregation that has the "feel" and style that you can accept...and your husband, too, God willing. I think they could be sufficiently like his orientation to satisfy him and also sufficiently love and service-oriented without too much ritual to be OK for you.

I rule out Lutherans and Episcopalians as too ritualistic for your taste and also because their views on Communion and Baptism seem (from the little you wrote on those subjects) to be at odds with your own thinking. A non-denominational church, such as are becoming increasingly popular, could be right also, but there is such a diversity of styles among them that it's impossible to direct you to the right one from afar.

If this attempt at an answer raises new considerations or you'd like to add to your list, we'd be happy to have you get back to us.

 

[HopingForJesus]

My hubby isn't too picky but there are certain things I know he would not be too comfortable with. As for me and ritual, I am already stuck in ritual too much each and every day and it is something I need to stay far away from.
Thank you for the suggestions. I want to try out so many places lol. But, hubby works weekend mornings and we have only one car and that makes it hard too. So, I will have to look around and see. The one church I attended has a van that will pick me up. I am just not sure if that is where I will be or not, but I also don't want to go to a church just based on what I think I want. I want it to be where God wants me, even if I am not used to it. Just rock guitar is a bit hard for me lol.
Peace and God bless both of you

 

[Bobinator]

Main thing is that you don't settle for anything less than a Holy Spirit-filled church. A church without the workings of the Holy Spirit is unprofitable. A non-denominational church is probably one that fits your description best. I belong to one myself. These can be challenging to find, but pray and God will lead you. Attending a Pentecostal or Assembly of God church, at least for the interim, would be okay. I understand many are Holy Spirit filled and exercise the gifts of the Spirit. Starting a home group ministry, or being a part of one is a good thing too, although everyone should fall under someone's authority.

I don't really think "seeking Holy Spirit baptism when your ready" is advisable. I think it's the first real step in your walk with God. One cannot enter the kingdom of heaven unless he/she is baptised in water and of the Spirit. This is what Jesus said. If I were you, I wouldn't hesitate. The only thing required for this is repentance.

God bless.

 

[MrPolo]

I also don't want to go to a church just based on what I think I want. I want it to be where God wants me

I think you hit the nail on the head here. When you come up with a list of music and ritual/no ritual or excitement or whatever, you are imposing on God what you want His Church to be. Be sure that where you go, that you are saying "Your will be done" and not "My will be done."

 

[Zoness]

Main thing is that you don't settle for anything less than a Holy Spirit-filled church. A church without the workings of the Holy Spirit is unprofitable. A non-denominational church is probably one that fits your description best. I belong to one myself. These can be challenging to find, but pray and God will lead you. Attending a Pentecostal or Assembly of God church, at least for the interim, would be okay. I understand many are Holy Spirit filled and exercise the gifts of the Spirit. Starting a home group ministry, or being a part of one is a good thing too, although everyone should fall under someone's authority.

I don't really think "seeking Holy Spirit baptism when your ready" is advisable. I think it's the first real step in your walk with God. One cannot enter the kingdom of heaven unless he/she is baptised in water and of the Spirit. This is what Jesus said. If I were you, I wouldn't hesitate. The only thing required for this is repentance.

God bless.

The only problem with non-denominational churches and independent spirit-filled churches (in my experience, others may vary) is that firstly they vary widely from congregation to congregation and second some of them lack a concept of order and may get overly "exciting", so a few points that the OP listed would be in violation by some of these congregations.

I do not know enough doctrine of those churches to fully comment on them but I think they lean towards the more Wesleyan approach (minimal fire and brimstone) in their thinking, at least the ones I attended.

 

[heymikey80]

1. I need to find a place not focused on ritual.
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Mkay, fits the EPC.

2. I believe in order in the church when it comes to gifts of the Spirit
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Also EPC. Many EPC churches don't broadcast gifts of the Spirit in worship, but others are open to the Spirit's orderly work. We're kind of "eclectic" on this issue. One EPC church may be cessationist; most allow the gifts, but don't emphasize their exercise in worship.

3. It should follow the whole Bible
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EPC.

4. My husband and I were married in a court setting and someday I would like to get re-married in a church. He was formerly divorced from his wife who cheated on him
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I'm sure the EPC will do affirmation of vows before God, but you may need to discuss it with the pastor.

5. My husband is of Lutheran background and would not be comfortable with too "exciting" of a church
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Most EPC churches aren't ecstatic worshippers.

6. Preaching love is importance, and I am fully aware of the importance of following Christ...a good balance in teaching is important to me, not all fire and brimstone
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EPC.

7. I am sensitive to extremely loud noise (Please don't think this is weird, but I get startled and deal with anxiety)
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Well, some of our amps are set pretty loud, but you'd have to try out the particular EPC church you're near.

8. Fellowship is important and also helping others
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EPC

9. I am not sure about how I feel about women and their role in the church coming from the Bible, so that is a topic of confusion for me which my husband has a somewhat traditional view.
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The EPC leaves this to individual churches to figure this out, so you may have to talk with them specifically.

http://www.epc.org

 

[Redheadedstepchild]

You could try a Calvary Chapel. My understanding is that they are similar to Baptists theologically, and are "Spirit Filled" in the sense that they are charismatic, but "believe in order" as you say.

 

[Izdaari Eristikon]

You could try a Calvary Chapel. My understanding is that they are similar to Baptists theologically, and are "Spirit Filled" in the sense that they are charismatic, but "believe in order" as you say.

That would also describe certain Assemblies of God churches. Mine for example. Maybe that our Pastor is former Calvary Chapel has something to do with it.