Not long now

[looksgood]

Well, I made up my mind to ask the girl out. I had to wait a little while for a few reasons, but soon enough I will have gone ahead and done it. I was very nerves but I am less now than I was before.

Still I am a bit...uneasy about it. If she sayes no nothing changes, but if she sayes yes, EVERYTHING changes. I know I am not marrying her, just asking her out. But I never been in a relationship.

Here is hoping I am ready for it. Little more encouragement please? I don't need it, but it is nice to get it.

This link tells you about it if you don't know already http://www.christianforums.com/t78659

 

[SGaulke26]

I think it's great that you're going for it. It's so hard to find genuine Christian men today, she would be lucky to have your company. Just remember, if she says no - God has a plan for you. It might not be her, it might be her. Just be patient and have fun in the meantime.

 

[mamaneenie]

Sometimes the risk is worth it. If she rejects you, at least you know where you stand. I am hoping she will say yes though. As SGaulke says, there are few really genuine nice guys around. (although I've got mine and he is all mine)

 

[looksgood]

I think it's great that you're going for it. It's so hard to find genuine Christian men today, she would be lucky to have your company. Just remember, if she says no - God has a plan for you. It might not be her, it might be her. Just be patient and have fun in the meantime.

Yup, that is the plan lol. If she says yes, we will see what happens. If no, well then I will just wait till next time and not take so long to ask the girl out. If that girl says no, I will just wait to see what else comes up. God has been good to me. And many times the best blessings are the ones we don't expect. And sometimes the worst things are the ones we want. So I am leaving it all in His hands. I am just doing what I talked with Him about. He hasn't said to do otherwise yet.

 

[looksgood]

Sometimes the risk is worth it. If she rejects you, at least you know where you stand. I am hoping she will say yes though. As SGaulke says, there are few really genuine nice guys around. (although I've got mine and he is all mine)

Goes the same for really genuine nice christian women. But I ain't got mine yet lol.

 

[Kirisutokyoo-shinja]

Question, what does one do after an answer of "no"?
Conversation just ends? One walks away, no other words spoken? (either party that is)
Or talk of something else? And if so, then what? Play it off.
lol
Question of the week.

 

[looksgood]

Question, what does one do after an answer of "no"?
Conversation just ends? One walks away, no other words spoken? (either party that is)
Or talk of something else? And if so, then what? Play it off.
lol
Question of the week.

LOL, take it like a man, suck it up, and go home and act macho for no reason lol.

Actualy You could just not get your hopes up that high in the first place to where you would be crushed if she said no. That way you can brush it off, say you were only wondering, and if you are already friends you can continue with a regulare conversation friends would have. If not you can use it as a spring bord to make a friend.

 

[Katty]

LOL @ the response above.

Don't use the fact that you want to get with her to be a motive to become closer friends with her cause then you're setting yourself up for a potential heartbreak and sleepless nights. Really care about her as a friend wether or not you are the one who makes her happy. If you're friends with her and it develops into something more, so be it. If not, you haven't lost a friend.

~Katty~

 

[looksgood]

LOL, I agree katty.

 

[enslow]

Question, what does one do after an answer of "no"?
Conversation just ends? One walks away, no other words spoken? (either party that is)
Or talk of something else? And if so, then what? Play it off.
lol
Question of the week.

Depends on how they answer "no". If she slaps you in the face and says are you nuts? Then I'd run, not even say anything

Seriously though, I doubt any girl would say flat out no. She might say "I'm already seeing some one, but thanks for asking." If it's on the phone, then you can simply say "you're welcome, I really hope things work out between you two." If she says she's busy and you can't find a time to get together, and she appears evasive, leave her your number and simply tell her to feel free to call you. She probably won't call you, but I think that is a respectful way to leave it.

Chances are that if she's really interested to go out with you, she'll some how make herself available, or at least make a genuine effort to make the date.

Good luck!

Enslow