You are introducing the ideas of men that contradict the bible.
If you can't accept the very clear teaching of the bible that men will be judged for their actions, then I can't help you.
I will try to provide some clear scriptures to further the point, however. You can mince them up in any way you choose if will ease your conscience.
Why would Jesus spend so much time instructing us in the good works we should do if we are incapable?
Here's the key:
We have to ASK!
Ask, Seek, Knock
7"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.
9"Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! 12So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.
The Narrow and Wide Gates
13"Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
The problem with Calvinist is that they ignore most of the gospels and elevate a few passages of Paul to build an entire religion upon.
more from Matthew
21"Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
and more
The Wise and Foolish Builders
24"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash."
Jesus wants us to hear his words, ask for help, and DO THE RIGHT THING.
This is within our grasp because God wants us all to be saved.
He condemns no one. We have the choice to accept his gifts or reject them.