Not caring about anyone or anything

[jjust19]

I'm just wondering if it's a sin to be apathetic about things. You see, the only people/spirits I can honestly say I love are God, Jesus, and the blessed Holy Spirit. I honestly don't care about anyone else, which worries me, for I have many friends, but they're superficial friendships. Having asperger's syndrome, I don't really mind being alone at all and find comfort in Christ.

 

[hedrick]

The love Jesus called for isn't primarily emotional. It's caring about what happens to people, and treating them right.

I'm in a somewhat similar situation (though I'm not diagnosed with AS). I'm relatively cool towards people, and have almost no really close friends. It's unfortunate, but I see no evidence it is sinful.

I often wonder whether if I knew what I know now I could have done a better job when I was younger. I don't think you can develop feelings such as caring about people on demand, but you can try to put yourself in situations where relationships may develop.

Are you getting any treatment? I've had two Sunday School students on the spectrum, one with AS and one with PDD-NOS. I knew the one with AS before he got much treatment. Just a few years have made a big difference in him. The one with PDD-NOS was treated before I met him. I'm not sure I'd identify him as on the spectrum if his parents hadn't said something.

 

[disciple1938]

Read first john. it might help you

 

[Take The Right Approach]

Have you been diagnosed with any other mental health conditions besides Aspergers? No need to go into detail, just yes or no will suffice. If so, it/they could play a big part in this.

 

[HoldingOnToGrace]

I'm sorry if I can't be of much help but I can prey for you?

 

[Ludicrus]

I'm just wondering if it's a sin to be apathetic about things. You see, the only people/spirits I can honestly say I love is God, Jesus, and the blessed Holy Spirit. I honestly don't care about anyone else, which worries me, for I have many friends, but it's more of superficial friendships. Having aspergers, I don't really mind being alone at all and find comfort in Christ.

I have often said, "I don't like most people but I love them." Which is acurate. I don't really like a lot of people that I meet.

I've had to ask the Lord to help me love people the way He wants me to.

1 John 4:7-8 AMP
7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is (springs) from God; and he who loves [his fellowmen] is begotten (born) of God and is coming [progressively] to know and understand God [to perceive and recognize and get a better and clearer knowledge of Him].
8 He who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love.

So God gave me the ability to love people, even though there are a lot of them I definitely do not like.

 

[ReesePiece23]

I'm the same. I'm emotionally very cold as a person, I don't bond with family very well and it really doesn't bother me. There is a place in my heart that is just a block of ice. My biggest fear is thawing that part of my heart and discovering what's there.

I've never hugged or kissed anyone else other than my ex girlfriend. I've never had a typical father son relationship with my dad and I pretty much just walk alone; isolated from the rest of my family.

I'm sometimes described as rather terminator like. For instance; when a family member dies, I appear to them completely unphased.

However, since discovering my faith, that block of ice over my heart has very slowly started to thaw out... And it scares me a little. I've cried real tears just recently - which is something I didn't think I could do.

I have aspergers by the way.

 

[Ludicrus]

I'm the same. I'm emotionally very cold as a person, I don't bond with family very well and it really doesn't bother me. There is a place in my heart that is just a block of ice. My biggest fear is thawing that part of my heart and discovering what's there.

I've never hugged or kissed anyone else other than my ex girlfriend. I've never had a typical father son relationship with my dad and I pretty much just walk alone; isolated from the rest of my family.

I'm sometimes described as rather terminator like. For instance; when a family member dies, I appear to them completely unphased.

However, since discovering my faith, that block of ice over my heart has very slowly started to thaw out... And it scares me a little. I've cried real tears just recently - which is something I didn't think I could do.

I have aspergers by the way.

Oh, the tears used to make me so angry! LOL I wasn't used to them. People used to be afraid of me.

I became a Christian and started dealing with issues and seeking Him and asking Him for help and asking Him to change me to be what He wanted me to be.

I felt for quite a while that I had become a blubbering idiot overnight. He made me sensitive to other's feelings. He taught me to empathize. He also put some very special people in my life who knew how to help me.

Now I still have difficulty reading people. I still tend to take people literally, but I am so much better than I used to be.

Oh, and I am still "too honest", according to some people.

That's okay today. I trust God. He promised to continue the work which He started in me until Jesus returns for me. So, I'm still a work in progress.

Did you know that God stores our tears in a bottle? Yeppers! Our tears are precious to God and He makes a record of them.

Psalm 56:8 AMP

"You number and record my wanderings; put my tears into Your bottle—are they not in Your book?"

 

[MoeSzyslak]

I do generally care for people.
It's the people that want nothing to do with me.

 

[Ludicrus]

I do generally care for people.
It's the people that want nothing to do with me.

I know from experience that we can be a little off putting. I don't know anothr word for it except for maybe overwhelming.

I get into researching something and somebody will bring up something similar or related to it and off I go. And, like I said, I'm not good at reading people. I'll talk their ears off!

Poor people.

 

[MoeSzyslak]

I know from experience that we can be a little off putting. I don't know anothr word for it except for maybe overwhelming.

I come off as "stand off-ish" and "leave me alone-ish". I am aware of that. I just can't change it no matter what I try.

 

[Ludicrus]

Oh, okay!

Well, the only thing I know to do is to pray when I have a problem. But I did have a thought, don't know if it applies.

With the spiritual environment we are currently in where it seems that a lot of people are anti-christian, perhaps that's a good thing?

I would ask the Lord about that.

I know I'm a loner and I pretty much stay to myself. By choice. I used to desire a lot of friends like neuro typical people have but I've learned that perhaps that isn't what is healthiest for me in the longrun.

I have a problem of trusting people I shouldn't and not trusting people I should. After getting hurt over and over again, I've decided that my desire for friendships may not be worth the price I've been paying. Especially with those that profess to be Christians and are not.

Except for those "divine appointments" where the Lord had me meet up with someone for a reason, I don't really have friends and I just cut off a woman that I thought had been my friend for two decades, until I found out that she was making fun of me on her facebook page behind my back. And her buddies are in the occult! She forgot that I had finally, after over a decade of her pleading with me, had signed up for facebook.

So, I cut her loose and haven't returned any phone calls. It hurt but my expectations of people compared to 20 yrs ago have really gotten a lot lower. If they are nice and kind with no ulterior motives, then I am pleasantly surprised.