No way out

[littletomatoes]

Hi everyone this is my first post here.

I've been struggling with depression on and off for the past couple of years. It seems like everytimes something goes right immediately a downward spiral has to follow. On top of that, recently me and my boyfriend of four years (which god has put us together) has broke up. I am having an unbearable time dealing with this and is wondering if anyone could offer me some true tips regarding dealing with a heartbreak. ( Not the usual go out more, keep busy, etc etc).

Please help!

 

[romans324]

Hi littletomatoes,
I am suffering alot lately which has been going on for months now. My issues may not be the same but the the hits seem just as hard. My issues deal with rejection, self worth, my marriage, money, working, my health, pretty much everything you can think of. Yeah I will admit I am mad at God with some of th epromblems, then I get made at myself for the sin I cause. But out of all this darkness that seems to be around me I just feel utterly alone and in dispair. But someone in one of these forums helped me realize something. I need to give my hurt and dispair to God and focus on helping others. I have learned by pushing the thoughts away and putting others needs ahead I do get peace. Now dont get me worng when I am not helping those same problems come back and I feel weak and useless. And only by encouragement form others whom God uses helps me to say my hope is not in void. For if I trust God with my eternal soul why can I not trust God with my life now? Hoped it helped !

 

[Everlasting33]

Ya know, I have been through a lot this past week (extreme anxiety and financial burdens) so my heart goes out to you.
My boyfriend and I are in troubled times and I know how much it would hurt if we split up...I can certainly empathsize with you!

What has gotten me through those tough times was really doing things I enjoyed. I had to choose to remain positive spite the negative. I had to choose to watch a comedy spite feeling very sad. I had to choose to exercise spite feeling lethargic.

But I would also suggest giving yourself the freedom to cry and let it all out.
Also, be patient with yourself. Do not expect perfection, do not expect fairness but accept the fact that only you can control you.

And if you need to talk, please PM me...I really know how ya feel...I have been down that road many times before

I hope you feel better!

 

[littletomatoes]

Thanks so much for the support, it seemed like my life has gone through a complete 180 recently, all negative, on TOP of everything else I had to deal with as well.

The most painful I would say have to do with the breakup (since we just moved into a new apt we are roommates and I have to deal with seeing him daily). Since we are both christians and god wants us to be together, this is even harder. But what I'm truly worried about is this affecting school. I am in college and my courseload this quarter is especially tough, demanding, and important.

Sometimes I just feel like the pressure is coming down on my so hard I'm a flat pancake.

 

[JoshuaM]

i am suffering current heartbreak too. What i can tell you is that we cannot expect people to mend our broken hearts or fulfill us. Also, God is always there for us. Sometimes people cannot be trusted, but we can always trust God. One thing that is important is that we do not hold ourselves in a guilt prison, we do not blame God, and if somebody has wronged us we need to forgive. those things can be barriers in our growth.. I can tell you, the girl i am in love with, i feel God has a purpose for us, but God doesn't force people, even if the purpose is to just be friends. God lets a person to refuse. She has false ideas about me that are very negative and insists on believing them. It breaks my heart and it is always futile to defend myself since she insists. Finally i am reminded that God is my only hope in this life.