No More!!!!!

[Daysoni]

Do you ever feel that you can make such great changes or take such big steps in certain struggles in your life? Your happy that you did it. And then you get blown out of the water. Your work isn't good enough for those whose opinion could help you. And then you get more bad news. And the doctors and counselors find out that there is more wrong with you. They put more labels on you. Is there going to be a change for the better while I'm here on earth. Or should I just sit back and except it all. I'm tired of diagnoses. I want no more. I just want to be known for me. Not the sick girl.

 

[edwardelricsfan]

Do you ever feel that you can make such great changes or take such big steps in certain struggles in your life? Your happy that you did it. And then you get blown out of the water. Your work isn't good enough for those whose opinion could help you. And then you get more bad news. And the doctors and counselors find out that there is more wrong with you. They put more labels on you. Is there going to be a change for the better while I'm here on earth. Or should I just sit back and except it all. I'm tired of diagnoses. I want no more. I just want to be known for me. Not the sick girl.

Amen to that!!!!

 

[UnitynLove]

How many times have you heard the expression, "Nobody's perfect"? We use and hear this expression almost every day. But it's true—I'm not perfect, you're not perfect, nobody's perfect. Hopefully though, we are all getting better, on our way to perfection. The important thing to remember is that even though we're not yet perfect we're still OK. Just because we haven't yet arrived doesn't mean that we're not on our way.

It's true that most of us still have a long way to go. I used to get discouraged about how far I had to go, and it seemed like I was reminded of it every day, even every hour. I carried a constant sense of failure, a feeling that I just was not what I needed to be, that I was not doing good enough, that I should try harder—and yet when I did try harder, I only failed again.

I have now adopted a new attitude: "I'm not where I need to be, but thank God I am not where I used to be; I'm OK, and I'm on my way!" I now know with all my heart that God is not angry with me just because I have not yet arrived. He is pleased that I am pressing on, staying on the path. If you and I will just "keep on keeping on," God will be pleased with our progress.

Keep walking the walk by taking one step at a time. This is an important thing to remember. It is true that we have to keep pressing on, but thank God we don't have to hate and reject ourselves while we are trying to get to our destination.

If I invited you to take a walk, you would think I was crazy if I became angry after the first few steps because we had not yet arrived at our destination. We can understand ordinary things like this, and yet we have a difficult time understanding that God expects it to take some time for us to grow spiritually.

We don't think there is something wrong with one-year old children because they cannot walk perfectly. They fall down frequently, but we pick them up, love them, bandage them if necessary, and keep working with them. Surely our awesome God can do even more for us than we do for our children.

This process is always difficult. Growing and learning is never easy. But the changes make us a better person. We begin to think differently, then we begin to talk differently, and finally we begin to act differently. This is a process that develops in stages, and we must always remember that while it is taking place we can have the attitude, "I'm OK, and I'm on my way!"

Enjoy yourself while you are changing. Enjoy where you are on the way to where you are going. Enjoy the journey! Don't waste all of your "now time" trying to rush into the future. Remember, tomorrow will have troubles of its own (Matthew 6:34).

Today you may be wrestling with a bad temper and thinking if you could just get freedom in that area, everything would be all right. The thing is, you may have forgotten that God will then reveal something else that needs to be dealt with, and you will be back in the same frame of mind again, thinking, "If only I didn't have this problem, I could be happy." We must learn to look at these things in a new way.

We can be free to believe that we are indeed OK and on our way—not perfected yet, but pressing on. We can be free to enjoy life, enjoy God, and enjoy ourselves.

 

[edwardelricsfan]

thank you that was a good story

 

[Mayflower1]

Preach to the choir girl!!! I know where you are coming from!

 

[edwardelricsfan]

we all get in that boat don't we?

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Do you ever feel that you can make such great changes or take such big steps in certain struggles in your life? Your happy that you did it. And then you get blown out of the water. Your work isn't good enough for those whose opinion could help you.

Oh man, I have had that happen so often in my life. For example, last year, I was getting A's in my classes and that was a HUGE deal to me because in the past, depression has really affected my ability to get good grades in school............. so I told a "friend" about my grades and instead of getting a "congratulations that's great" I got a "To be honest, I don't really care about your grades". That is just one of many examples where I would be happy about some small accomplishment I'd made and then had some person make it seem like it didn't matter.

Here is a good quote to remember during times like those:

"People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway." -- Mother Teresa

And then you get more bad news. And the doctors and counselors find out that there is more wrong with you. They put more labels on you. Is there going to be a change for the better while I'm here on earth. Or should I just sit back and except it all. I'm tired of diagnoses. I want no more. I just want to be known for me. Not the sick girl.

It seems to me that there are two types of doctors. I have encountered both kinds. Some doctors and therapists that I went to in the past would treat me differently and label me; they always seemed to think that I would be depressed FOREVER and there was nothing that I could do about it.

But there are also doctors out there who believe that you can recover from depression; they don't label you and they treat you like a person and not a "patient with depression". I started only going to family doctors, therapists, and psychiatrists who exhibitted that sort of attitude, and low and behold, I have been feeling a LOT better and accomplishing a lot more. My psychiatrist took me off all my medicines instead of putting me on more and more. My therapist tells me that with the right attitude, I can overcome my PTSD/anxiety/fears, and I have been doing just that.

Last year I read about a thing called "teacher expectancy effect". The basic jist of it is, if a teacher thinks a child will do well, they will treat that child differently and that child will indeed do well, making a self fulfilling prophecy on the teacher's part. Likewise, if the teacher does NOT expect a child to do well, then the teacher will treat that child differently and that child will not do as well.

I wonder if something similar occurs between doctors and their patients? I wouldn't be surprised if it did; I would imagine that a doctor's attitude would greatly affect their patients' attitudes. And a patient's attitude about their treatment is important -- think about the placebo effect vs. the nocebo effect. People who've had sugar pills or even fake surgeries have recovered simply because they believed that they would. Parkison's patients actually had their levels of dopamine increase after going through a placebo treatment. Likewise, people who believe a treatment will harm them can actually experience adverse effects.

Sorry for rambling.. I've had a lot of caffiene with my lunch lol.. it makes me quite chatty :o

 

[EckoZero]

Do you ever feel that you can make such great changes or take such big steps in certain struggles in your life? Your happy that you did it. And then you get blown out of the water. Your work isn't good enough for those whose opinion could help you. And then you get more bad news. And the doctors and counselors find out that there is more wrong with you. They put more labels on you. Is there going to be a change for the better while I'm here on earth. Or should I just sit back and except it all. I'm tired of diagnoses. I want no more. I just want to be known for me. Not the sick girl.

I know exactly where you're coming from. But hey, who cares what the therapists say right?
I learnt several years ago that in the end, the only people you can really trust are yourself and God.
People make mistakes, people get sick, but God doesn't love us any less and neither should we love ourselves any less.

I know how you feel because I foguth mental illness myself for 3 years. It was a long and hard battle, and so many times I gave up. I couldn't take it, and I broke down and I cried. And even when my dad wasn't around, when my brother wasn't around, God was there. He never left me.

Sometimes we all needa shoulder to cry on, just let it all out to just... feel better again. And no one has a bigger or softer shoulder than God. And he'll lend it to you whenever you need it.

God's not just there saying "Yeah cool, you're worshipping, I'm good", Gods their saying "You're my child, and I love you. And whatever happens to you now, will someday all be gone. You'll be sitting next to me in Heaven and all the pain and sadness will be gone. All the misery and injustice, that'll all be gone too. And life will be perfect for you".

And in my own strange way, I feel sorry for people who haven't battled mental illness.
Imagine how hard our life has been, living with mental illness. When that gets better what will life be like then? It will be like breathing again for the first time. Like eating again for the first time. Like living, for the first time. And when we get to Heaven? Compare a life in Heaven with what we have now.

How sweet is life gonna be in God's presence huh?

I guess, in a roundabout way, my point is, there's two sides to every story. And I know the hurt and the pain is one side. I know the labels and the names and the medication and therapy, that's the same side.
But every now and then we have to flip the coin over. To take a look at the other side.
And on the other side of the coin of life, is God, smiling right back at us Now that is worth getting out of bed for