No feelings for men

[jennwiln]

The last relationship I had was in 2002 in college, with a man. Since then I have no friendship or relationship with a man. I want to have a children but maybe in adoption. I am not a lesbian, but I just do not have that attraction that I use to. I just can't be around them like I wanted to at one point. I see them in a different way as spitting,cursing, and rude to women. I guess when you live in a urban city where there is no respect for women, you are use to lacking respect for men.

I want to be able to adopt kids maybe in my forties or fifties, if I live that long. I do not know what to do. Please give me advice.

 

[tapero]

Hi, You might meet someone you like down the road. I wouldn't discount all men. Isn't spitting disgusting? I can't stand it and don't understand why they do it. There are good guys out there. You might meet someone at church or some other social activity. I wish you well, God bless you. Tapero

 

[Johnnz]

If you meet someone who loves you your view of at least one man will really change. It's a pain, but so many men view women is purely sexual terms, not as coequal people.

John
NZ

 

[jennwiln]

Hi, You might meet someone you like down the road. I wouldn't discount all men. Isn't spitting disgusting? I can't stand it and don't understand why they do it. There are good guys out there. You might meet someone at church or some other social activity. I wish you well, God bless you. Tapero

I just do not want to go through the games of realtionships. I believe I will be alright.

 

[FallingWaters]

I just do not want to go through the games of realtionships. I believe I will be alright.

I kinda get the impression the last relationship hurt you pretty bad... If and when you ever decide you want another relationship, there are plenty of nice guys still left... maybe you should plan on moving to the country to find one

 

[jennwiln]

I kinda get the impression the last relationship hurt you pretty bad... If and when you ever decide you want another relationship, there are plenty of nice guys still left... maybe you should plan on moving to the country to find one

I live in the United States. I just not interested.

 

[chadders]

I admit some guys are imature with how they treat others (especially women). But not all guys are like this. I have met some really sensitive, friendly and open guys. There are a lot of men who want to have an open relationship with women but just don't know how (that being said, some men do know how). But definately don't dicount males altogether. By doing that you immediately discount all that can be good in guys.

God bless you.

- Chadders.

 

[jennwiln]

I admit some guys are imature with how they treat others (especially women). But not all guys are like this. I have met some really sensitive, friendly and open guys. There are a lot of men who want to have an open relationship with women but just don't know how (that being said, some men do know how). But definately don't dicount males altogether. By doing that you immediately discount all that can be good in guys.

God bless you.

- Chadders.

i would like to have a friendship with a man, but not a serious relationship. There is nothing wrong with that.

 

[chadders]

i would like to have a friendship with a man, but not a serious relationship. There is nothing wrong with that.

Well that's good news. God bless you.

- Chadders.

 

[rambot]

If I may be so bold (as a man) I'd like to offer my two senses

A few questions:
1) Do you WANT to be attracted to men/women? or do you not care either way?
2) When you see men who aren't spitting or being rude to women, do you grant that some men aren't like that?
3) Do you see friendship as a POSSIBLE precusur to a relationship or do you completely rule out the possibility?

As a man who has been (as I look back on it now) really, really difficult and unfair to a girlfriend, I look back on it now and definately say I changed for the better (also that I wish her nothing but the best and that I hope she "recovered" from me....). My problems were complicated and simple at the same time. I wasn't rude mean or disrespectful but I had other issues. As I got older, I started to mature and things made more sense. I was happier with myself and felt more confident.

IF, you are 40 years old and still are surrounded by immature men, I'm sorry.

 

[jennwiln]

If I may be so bold (as a man) I'd like to offer my two senses

A few questions:
1) Do you WANT to be attracted to men/women? or do you not care either way?
2) When you see men who aren't spitting or being rude to women, do you grant that some men aren't like that?
3) Do you see friendship as a POSSIBLE precusur to a relationship or do you completely rule out the possibility?

As a man who has been (as I look back on it now) really, really difficult and unfair to a girlfriend, I look back on it now and definately say I changed for the better (also that I wish her nothing but the best and that I hope she "recovered" from me....). My problems were complicated and simple at the same time. I wasn't rude mean or disrespectful but I had other issues. As I got older, I started to mature and things made more sense. I was happier with myself and felt more confident.

IF, you are 40 years old and still are surrounded by immature men, I'm sorry.

Even though I am in my mid twenties, I really just want a man who is a friend and nothing more. I just don't have it in me to go through another relationship again.

 

[mebby02]

there are some great guys out there l know some guys do give you a hard time. But don't worry hun not all guys are all like that. There is some awesome guys out there
God bless sweety

 

[juicebox]

Put your trust in God, he will find he perfect man for you.
trust God and pray about it.

God as a perfect plan for you.
it can inclued you having a husban or not.

Pray, i will for you

 

[Heiroglyph]

Hi, You might meet someone you like down the road. I wouldn't discount all men. Isn't spitting disgusting? I can't stand it and don't understand why they do it. There are good guys out there. You might meet someone at church or some other social activity. I wish you well, God bless you. Tapero

As a man I can tell you why I spit. Let's say im cutting some wood, I inadvertantly get some saw dust in my mouth, Id rather not swallow it because it is not good for me, so I spit it out. Ok say I cough and get some phlegm out of my lungs, again I don't want to swallow it, so I spit it out. There may be other rasons for spitting generally it is because you don't want to swallow whatever it is in your mouth. Do you swallow it?

 

[Heiroglyph]

Hi, You might meet someone you like down the road. I wouldn't discount all men. Isn't spitting disgusting? I can't stand it and don't understand why they do it. There are good guys out there. You might meet someone at church or some other social activity. I wish you well, God bless you. Tapero

The reason to spit is so as not to swallow whatever it is in your mouth, such as sawdust

 

[Saucy]

I have a good friend who thought she didn't really like guys. She was very independant, didn't care if she ever dated or married and never thought she needed a man. Well, she met my other best friend and they dated for awhile. She learned a lot from this relationship and now can't wait to get married. They did break up, but she now has a different opinion on dating.

The bible says it's not good for man to be alone. This means mankind as a whole. Once she found a good guy, she enjoyed it. It's just a matter of waiting for God to bring that right guy into your life and your feelings will change when you meet him.

 

[jennwiln]

I have a good friend who thought she didn't really like guys. She was very independant, didn't care if she ever dated or married and never thought she needed a man. Well, she met my other best friend and they dated for awhile. She learned a lot from this relationship and now can't wait to get married. They did break up, but she now has a different opinion on dating.

The bible says it's not good for man to be alone. This means mankind as a whole. Once she found a good guy, she enjoyed it. It's just a matter of waiting for God to bring that right guy into your life and your feelings will change when you meet him.

Just because the bible said that it is not good for a man to be alone, does not mean that it is refering to marriage. It can me that we should not go through life being alone and not having friend or spirtual family around.

 

[jennwiln]

Put your trust in God, he will find he perfect man for you.
trust God and pray about it.

God as a perfect plan for you.
it can inclued you having a husban or not.

Pray, i will for you

I just want to be happy without having to go through the frustrations and nonsense of having a relationship. I just want God to met my needs, especially financially.

 

[FallingWaters]

...I just don't have it in me to go through another relationship again.

Well, then, don't. Dating is actually a pretty recent invention, and not really all it's cracked up to be. If you want some justification and support for NOT DATING, there's a great book by Josh Harris called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". I highly recommend it.

 

[Akathist]

The last relationship I had was in 2002 in college, with a man. Since then I have no friendship or relationship with a man. I want to have a children but maybe in adoption. I am not a lesbian, but I just do not have that attraction that I use to. I just can't be around them like I wanted to at one point. I see them in a different way as spitting,cursing, and rude to women. I guess when you live in a urban city where there is no respect for women, you are use to lacking respect for men.

I want to be able to adopt kids maybe in my forties or fifties, if I live that long. I do not know what to do. Please give me advice.

I just do not want to go through the games of realtionships. I believe I will be alright.

I live in the United States. I just not interested.

i would like to have a friendship with a man, but not a serious relationship. There is nothing wrong with that.

Even though I am in my mid twenties, I really just want a man who is a friend and nothing more. I just don't have it in me to go through another relationship again.

Just because the bible said that it is not good for a man to be alone, does not mean that it is refering to marriage. It can me that we should not go through life being alone and not having friend or spirtual family around.

I just want to be happy without having to go through the frustrations and nonsense of having a relationship. I just want God to met my needs, especially financially.

Jenn, What exactly do you want advice about?

I am really confused as to what you want us to help you with.