Next door question

[timewerx]

It's kinda like a work relationship - if things go bad, she doesn't go away, at very least until the lease runs out. And if she gets a new boyfriend, you get to see him pull up, and hear what they do when they're at her place.

I can actually handle this situation. My concern is more for the other person than myself.

I know women are more vulnerable to this type of situations than men.

 

[High Fidelity]

You're overthinking it.

If you want to take her out just ask her. If she says no then you know where you stand.

We look forward to hearing how it went later

 

[Sketcher]

I can actually handle this situation. My concern is more for the other person than myself.

I know women are more vulnerable to this type of situations than men.

Even if she keeps calling you or showing up at your door?

 

[ReesePiece23]

Best case scenario is marriage - when in which case, you can just knock the wall out and save the trouble of having to move later on.

#logistics

 

[blackribbon]

Based on your earlier posts....she is ambitious, driven..."why would she be interested in me"...etc.. It doesn't really sound like you are more concerned about her being hurt....

She has held her own up to now...you state she is a strong women...she isn't likely to be devastated if she dates you and it doesn't work out. She may be hurt but she obviously is good at surviving.

If she is acting interested, just ask her out (assuming you are interested too). The only way to find out if two people are compatible is to actually explore that relationship by talking to each other and spending time together. Your casualness may be the balance to her ambitious drive and you could be exactly what she needs. You could also be annoying because of that. But you will never know if you never spend real time together. You could ask very casually so that it can be brushed off as a joke if she struggles with a way to say "no thank you". Simply smile and say..."it never hurts to ask"...

You are definitely overthinking this since your post has gone from "why would she want to date me"...to "I am worried that she might fall madly in love with me". You won't ever know unless you ask. If you don't, ask...it will always be a question in the back of your mind where you wonder if you missed out on a chance ... especially if she continues to grow as a strong woman.

 

[timewerx]

We've been talking already. She had been nice and upbeat when we did.

And then she suddenly stopped talking to me. I even messaged her and never read it. I've been optimistic from the beginning to that point.

Realistically-speaking, I'm not really that surprised. We exist on different worlds. She's probably just pressured to be nice to me being next door neighbors.

Glad this ended sooner than later. No big deal actually. In fact, I don't feel bad about it. I don't have any negative feelings for her and I can still be her friend if she wants to.

But for now, I won't be talking to her anymore (unless she starts the conversation), I would still smile and greet her of course if we see each other on the street.

 

[blackribbon]

Or perhaps she is just a nice person talking to a neighbor that she enjoyed talking to....then worried that she was giving the wrong impression ... or a family member implied that she was. My daughter had a good friendship with a young man that she enjoyed being around but had always made it clear that she wasn't interested in dating. I made sure she always paid her own way so no one could get the wrong impression. His mother wanted them to be dating and started complaining to people that she was "taking advantage of him" and giving him the wrong impression. She got paranoid and self conscious about the whole situation and stopped doing things with him. He lost a friend because although I suspect that he would have dated her, he wasn't much into dating and really just enjoyed her company too. I think that if the young man's mother had kept her mouth shut, my daughter might have grown into the idea that she really did enjoy being around him and maybe they would have eventually dated.

 

[timewerx]

Or perhaps she is just a nice person talking to a neighbor that she enjoyed talking to....

I actually made my intentions known from the beginning but seems she was simply trying to be polite considering the circumstances.

Completely understandable. Anyway, all good. I'm quite okay being single atm.