Hi! I'm new to this site and I don't usually ask for advise about personal problems like this online, but I didn't know who else to ask. My husband and I are both in our mid-twenties. We got married last June and from the first week, I knew something didn't seem quite right. We had sex on our wedding night, and it was great and I really enjoyed it, but then the next day we left for our honeymoon at this really great cabin in Montana and we didn't have sex at all the entire trip. I tried initiating it myself and still was turned down which was incredibly frustrating. Since then, we have had sex very rarely in little spurts. I always initiate and when he does finally respond, we will usually have sex every night for the next 2 or 3 nights, but then we have dry spells where he says it's too much work and compares it to having to exercise or do chores. He isn't out of shape at all and doesn't have a problem wanting to do physical activity like take walks in the park or things like that. He does admit that it feels good and he enjoys it when we have sex but it always comes back to being too much work. He always makes sure to say it has nothing to do with me and that he is attracted to me, but it's still very frustrating. We have a very good relationship other than that, we almost never argue and we really enjoy spending quality time together. I just feel like this is an emotional need that isn't being met and I end up feeling bad every night on my way to bed because I know it will probably be another night he will say no. I've tried talking to him about how I feel but he doesn't seem to understand that this is a need for me. From what he has said, it sounds like he thinks of sex more as an activity, like playing a video game or taking a jog. He doesn't see it as a way to connect at all. We only have sex a couple times a month on average, but I feel like I need for it to happen more often than that. I just don't know what to do or who I can talk to about it. This isn't the sort of thing I could just bring up to a mentor at church and have a casual conversation about. Please help!