Dear Karen,
I know you have been through much pain, and it is a relief to get a diagnosis from a doctor as to what the problem is. Then, I sense you were heartbroken again when the diagnosis changed to something worse. Let me try to unravel some of this for you.
The medical community uses words differently than lay people. To you and I, mood and thought are intimately linked. If either your mood, or thought have problems, both will be affected. Doctors see thought as conscious, cognitive ability to learn objective data; or solve real world, tangible problems. My idea of thought goes a little beyong this. In fact, thought is how we direct our actions. In people with mental illness, their heart is wounded. The needs of their heart, what they didn't get emotionally, rules the mind. If the patient doesn't know how to get their needs met by giving and receiving love, reality becomes distorted. The patient develops a view of the world, which is compatible to them not getting the love they deserve.
I had bipolar disorder, and schizo-affective disorder; and a few other things. It took eight years to recover, but I am totally healed of all of it. I have no more symptoms, ever. I have the love of Jesus in my heart all the time. Sometimes I have so much love I just have to give some away to other people. In fact, I am always looking for people to love, because Jesus loves me so much.
All of your son's problems are linked to low neurotransmitter levels. Most psych meds help with neurotransmitter level in some way. There are a few exceptions. I have a feeling your son has attention deficit disorder. Do not tell any doctor if your son has an addiction problem.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Does my son lose track of time more than two hours off, frequently?
Does my son lose things frequently?
Can my son follow a sequential list of instructions, using them to complete a task?
Does my son have trouble organizing?
Is my son rebellious?
Does my son smoke marijauna to help concentrate?
Is my son addicted to opiates, alcohol, amphetamines, or other chemicals which supplement the neurotransmitter,
dopamine?
Does my son make decisions which hurt him?
Is my son ever combatative with other people?
Is my son compliant as a means of coping?
Does my son have trouble sitting down, alone for some quiet reflection?
Can my son retain what he reads?
Does he have to go back and read things again?
Is he able to pay attention to subjects he finds boring?
Is his performance commensurate with his intelligence level?
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Answering more than two according to the key is evidence of ADD. Before you go back to the doctor, read everything you can on adult ADD. Prepare yourself.
ADD frequently goes undiagnosed because of chemical addiction. The treatment for it is Adderall. This has been a widely abused drug in the past, and doctors will not prescribe it to people who have drug dependancy or abuse histories. The doctor will simply refuse to diagnose the patient with ADD, rather than give the meds to a patient who might abuse them.
The problem with this is the person is constantly being treated for the wrong thing. Our psychiatric system is largely a processing and categorization system. People are not treated as individuals. If you have already told the psychiatrist about any drug dependancy issues with your son, try and use the questions I have given you to convince the doctor your son needs help with ADD. If he refuses, start over again with a new doctor, and don't tell the new doctor about the old doctor. Just come in as a new patient.
The doctor will always start with ritalin for ADD. You must allow ritalin for your son. After about a week, call the doctor and tell him the ritalin is causing nervousness, and headaches. Then he will prescribe Adderall. Once you son is on adderall (D-amphetamine combo), a suitable SSRI like Celexa (citalopram), a non-debilitating atypical antipsychotic such as Risperdal, and sleep medication such as Ambien or temazepam; he will feel much better.
Do not give the doctor this list. Know what you are doing, but don't let the doctor know that. If he prescribes a drug, and it isn't one of the ones I told you about, wait about a week, and call to tell the doctor it doesn't work. If he says to wait a little longer, call the next day. Keep doing that until the doctor gets it right. Too many doctors think the treatment for mental illness should leave in place some suffering. This is idiotic. Get your son what he needs, but be smart about it. Don't let the doctor know you know what you are doing. If you want to make a suggestion about meds, be insistent. Don't take no for an answer.
Your son can be totally delivered, free from all the pain. First he needs the right meds.
If I told you about myself at age 17, I am sure you would think it was him talking to you. Be tough. Get some help for yourself, too. A good counselor can do wonders. Everyone is under deceit about who they really are, and how much they have missed from loved ones. This can cause mental illness. Most people really need to see a counselor. In all my years I have not met one person who is wise. Wisdom is knowing yourself. Then you can know God.