New Christian with a question

[Tyson88]

Hi, this is my first post so please bear with me, I have been questioning Christianity for a few years now, and around a month a go I decided I wanted to become a Christian and repented for my sins, and am trying to live my life by gods word, I am married and my husband is not a Christian nor interested in becoming one, Is there anything I can do other than pray for him? Thanks

 

[theophilus40]

Peter gave some instructions for those in your situation:

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
(1 Peter 3:1-2 ESV)
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[JoyT86]

Amen theophilus40!

First of all, PRAISE GOD for deciding to repent and live in God's glory! Have you accepted Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior, and know that he died for your sins? If so.... HALLELUJAH!

I struggle with similar issues because my husband is of a different religion than I, and is uncomfortable about talking about salvation through Christ Jesus. I do believe he has accepted Jesus as his Savior at a young age, but he is uncomfortable talking with me about it because he was brought up in a strict Catholic household where they did not speak about Jesus like other Christian Catholics do. The advice I received was to pray about it like crazy and be a living example of God's word! The more your husband sees with his own eyes how the Lord works in your life, the more his heart will soften. If he is uncomfortable speaking about it, be a living example.

Praying for you and your husband!

Joy

 

[Tigger45]

Hi Tyson, welcome to CF! My suggestion for your husband is to speak scripture to him as often as possible without causing a problem.
Romans 10:17

New King James Version (NKJV)

17 So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

Hebrews 4:12

New International Version (NIV)

12 For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

 

[Emmy]

Dear Tyson88. In Matthew 22: 35-40: Jesus tells a Lawyer: " The first and great Commandment is: Love God with all thy heart, with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. The second is like it: Love thy neighbour as thself." Then Jesus points out: " On these two Commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." God wants our Love freely given and No conditions tagged on.
Treat all you know and all you meet, friend and not friend, treat them as you would love to be treated: always a loving smile and friendly words. God will notice and God will Bless you. If a helping hand is necessary, give a helping hand. Keep bringing your husband to the Lord in Prayer, and wait to see what God has in store for you.
Jesus will give you His Love and Joy, and the Holy Spirit will empower you with
His Love, also. Jesus told us to: "ask and ye shall receive," then thank God and share all Love and Joy with your neighbour: keep asking God and thanking God, and sharing all Love and Joy all around you. You might stumble and forget some times, but then ask God to forgive you, and carry on Loving and Caring. People will enjoy the way you treat them, and people will treat you the same: Love is very catching. If anyone asks you where you get all the love from, tell them the truth: " God is Love, and our Heavenly Father wants loving children/sons and daughters. I say this with love, Tyson. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.

 

[Peripatetic]

The Bible gives us some guidance for this question:

1 Corinthians 7:12-14:
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

So it seems that children and unbelieving spouses do benefit from the presence and influence of a Christian. We don't know when God may work in their hearts, so it may take patience. The exception would be if he is unwilling to live with you (verse 13) or if the household becomes unhealthy or unsafe for some reason.

 

[Spunkn]

Live your life in a Christ like way. Treat him with love and respect. Honor God by honoring your husband. Don't expect him to be open to your faith, but be patient, and keep following God. Keep in touch with fellow believers to encourage you when things get hard. Pray when you don't know what else to do.

Psalm 37:4 Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

 

[Tyson88]

Hello everyone,

Thank you all for your support and kind words, I have read each reply in detail and yes I accepted Jesus Christ as my lord and saviour and know that he died for our sins.

My husband is a kind man and my best friend, he fully supports my decision to live my life as a Christian, but he does not have much interest in doing so himself, but like some of you have said if I honour him and live my life in a Christ like way it may come.

I had also been told by a friend that he is sanctified so I feel glad someone else has said so

I am still very new to this so I am reading my bibles every night, taking notes and absorbing everything I am reading and being told and what I am reading on here.

Thank you for all of the scripture references too, i would not have known where to look! I will study them all in detail tonight once the children are in bed.

Thank you all again

 

[JCFantasy23]

Welcome to CF and congrats on becoming a new Christian It is the best choice a person can make.

Besides the praying you are doing, leading by example and remaining dedicated to your faith can eventually rub off on your husband. It's nice he's being supportive of your belief, even if they are different from his own. perhaps as you get more involved with church life, he will want to get involved as well and this may open more doors for him to explore.

 

[zeke37]

Hi, this is my first post so please bear with me, I have been questioning Christianity for a few years now, and around a month a go I decided I wanted to become a Christian and repented for my sins, and am trying to live my life by gods word, I am married and my husband is not a Christian nor interested in becoming one, Is there anything I can do other than pray for him? Thanks

Hello everyone,

Thank you all for your support and kind words, I have read each reply in detail and yes I accepted Jesus Christ as my lord and saviour and know that he died for our sins.

My husband is a kind man and my best friend, he fully supports my decision to live my life as a Christian, but he does not have much interest in doing so himself, but like some of you have said if I honour him and live my life in a Christ like way it may come.

I had also been told by a friend that he is sanctified so I feel glad someone else has said so

I am still very new to this so I am reading my bibles every night, taking notes and absorbing everything I am reading and being told and what I am reading on here.

Thank you for all of the scripture references too, i would not have known where to look! I will study them all in detail tonight once the children are in bed.

Thank you all again

the advice you've been given is awesome

live the example, and drop a few seeds from time to time.
Jesus said thus;

33 And he shall set the sheep on his right hand, but the goats on the left.
34 Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world:
35 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in:
36 Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me.
37 Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink?
38 When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee?
39 Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee?
40 And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
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plus, google is great for typing in questions...getting scripture references to look at

your hubby is best friends with a Christian! YAHHHHHHHH!!
that puts him in pretty high regard with God

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[Harry3142]

Tyson88-

The best testimonies for Christianity are the motivations of Christians. Let the motivations which direct your own life conform to what God wants of you:

So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law.

The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other. (Galatians 5:16-26,NIV)

There's an old saying: "He did all the right things, but for all the wrong reasons." In order for our actions to conform to what God wants of us (and this includes being a witness for Christ) the motivations which culminate in our performing the actions must themselves conform to what God wants of us. And in order for the motivations to be such that they do conform, they must be those listed as 'the fruit of the Spirit'. That's why the words which immediately follow their listing are, "Against such things there is no law."

So long as the motivations which govern your actions are these 'fruit', your husband will come to the realization that Christianity is not only beneficial to the Christian, but also to all around that Christian. And that is the best witness for Christianity.